Less than 3 weeks to go...HELP!!!

Girl, you gotta hurry and fill us in. But don't let trolls ruin anything for you. Now on to your questions:

1) I'm having everything at one place too, except for the pictures. But, if it rains, Lord knows I hope it doesn't, then we'll take pics at the venue too. If that's the case, FH & I will probably just go for an intimate ride together. You don't pay for the standing time. You can use the limos anyway you want to, as long as it's in those 3 hours timeframe.

2) I'm giving my guests CD's, wedding cake candles & a scroll (from my parents).

3) I'm broke too. But, I'm giving them their jewelry, slippers, toasting flutes & I'm trying to get jewelry boxes or something to that affect.

4) I only got them jewelry.

Hey girl! The countdown is on! Stay strong and don't let those in-laws get to you.

1. As long as you are within the 3 Hour window, they should not charge you anything extra.

2. I bought some of my favors from Rosie's site. We are laying a Rose Candle on each plate, and we have gift bags with a Light scribe cd and a piece of Caribbean Rum Cake for each guest.

3. I made their jewelry to wear for the wedding. (I'll post a pic of those later.) I also got jewelry pouches from Rosie's site. I was thinking about getting them a gift certificate to something as well.

4. I paid for the pearls and materials that I used to make the jewelry and I will buy slippers or socks for them to dance in at the reception. (Heels hurt after awhile!) Everything else, I'm too broke to get.

#1. don't know...but now I guess I better find out huh?
#2. My favors are about to be the favor that I even invited your @ss. (sorry, you're not the only one in a bad mood)But for now they are personalized tins with lil dinner mints in them. Michaels has so many options since you are tight on time I see.
#3. AMEX gift cards are appropriate, if some would like to be offended, you can always hit up the mall, most have stores/carts that can engrave your purchases for a few bucks. Jewlery, pendants, personalized key chains. I heard some ladies were hooking up lil sacks with a bunch of small, more useful items: slippers, hair clips, lotions, body/bath oils
#4. Was going to...changed my mind
#5. Thanks goodness you don't have to live with them!!!
Good luck girl as your day approaches!

Sorry I'm late to the post, but here goes...
1. We are doing limo's only because we need some transportation and are doing pics before the ceremony. I think its 3 hours, but FI booked it so I'm not sure.
2. We are a candy buffet that has bags with our names and dates on them. Sorry not a whole lot of help there.
3. I got my girls tote bags with flip flops, mini clutches, flip flops, their jewelry, and bath and body works. All total spent about $50 per lady.
4. I did pay for my sister's dress and his sister's dress, and I will do something special in addition for my other lady. Not sure what that will be...

HTH and good luck with the FIL's

Girl, sorry to hear about your troubles with future MIL and SIS. That sucks, but you can't let them bring you down. In my case, the in-laws are greart -- it's my darn family that's acting crazy. Anyhoo, to answer your questions ...
1. Not sure about the limo rules. My best friend's (one of my bridesmaids) parents own a funeral home. They just purchased a brand new presidential limo and will be loaning it to us free along with a driver if we want it. We haven't decided if we want a limo at all b/c everything is in one spot and no one will even see us in it except maybe when we leave the reception.
2. Favors -- we are having a caricature artist at the reception. He will be drawing sketches of guests as they come to him on paper that aleady has our names and wedding dates. He'll wrap up their sketches in pretty ribbon for them to take as a memento. We also are putting organza bags of rose petals for guests to toss in each chair at the ceremony with a nice little poem. Then, we are doing bottled water with personalized labels for just after the ceremony (it's outside in a garden).
3. Giving my attendants earrings, bracelet, monogrammed silk cosmetic bags and this cool champagne-flavored lip balm called "Pookie, I Do."
4. Yes, bought their jewelry but they are on their own with the shoes and dresses.

Hang in there. Hope this helps!

1. I'm not sure about this becuase I'm using the church limo and he's only taking us from the church to the reception hall then he can bounce!

2. For the guests we are doing pretty netted bags with hershey kisses, and I believe some CD's.

3. I paid for my bridesmaid's earrings and bracelets. They are on their own with the shoes and anything else. I also hope to get them little gift bags with lotions or lip gloss...I don't know...this depends on how the funds look closer to the date...

Let us know what's going on....but stay strong....I too have encountered drama and I'm REALLY looking forward for this day to be over and FH and I are chillin' in Jamaica. Stay prayed up...I will definately be praying for your wedding and your situation...as I do with all the vibrides on here.....

1. Our 3 hours started from scheduled time of pick-up and included standing time.

2. Favors- clear jars of jelly beans that matched matched wedding colors. Decorated with ribbon & tag.

3. The ladies in our wedding received personalized canvas tote bags, necklace, earring & bracelet sets and a $25 gift certificate to Mary Kay. The men received the silk ties they wore in wedding and a bottle of liquor. I got the tote bags and jewelry on ebay so it basically cost us about $50 per person.

4. We paid the $12 fee for bridemaids shoes to be dyed, we bought flowergirl dress and since we had so much drama and wedding party switches at last minute(literally up to day before wedding) we ended up paying for two tuxedos and one bridesmaid dress with shoes. But God is good. It all worked out.

Sorry to hear about your inlaw drama. I can almost empathize with you. My FMIL & I were very close, like mother & daughter since she has none & the a few months ago she took something I said totally out of context, flipped it all around & made a big issue out of it and now we barely speak. All I can say is give it to God & move on

Anyway, enough with my dilema...
1)As for the Limo, no clue since ours is next year & that is #999 on my agenda.

2) As for favors, we will also be doing the candy buffet with 1/2 pint chinese take out boxes to put them in, however, most of our candy will be personalized(hershey kisses, hersher candy bars, m-azing candy bars & lifesaver rolls),personalized votive candles, we will also have personalized newsletters sitting in each guests seat.

3) For the bridal party including hostesses, the will have either monogrammed toiletry bags or canvas tote bags, flip flops, handmade jewelery(church member making), make-up for the "make-up divas" & bath & body products for the ones that aren't(but buy next year, cheap me, aka the diy queen will probably pull out recipes I have for homemade bath & body products and make them to give them(lol).As for the guys, all will receive the coolers that convert to chairs. The drinkers will receive personalized etched beer mugs (another DIY roject)& haven't decided for the one that don't drink. The officiant & coordinator will get some sort of basket but right now all I've decided to put in them are personalized bottles of sparkling cider.
4)If we pay for anything it will be the flower girls dresses & tiaras (my 4 nieces)since their parents (sister&husband and brother&wife) are part of wedding party.

HTH

You ladies are very creative, I must say I am very impressed with the amount of thought that was put into favors, especially the caricature artist, and candy buffet. I've never heard of those ideas before. Unique is always memorable, Love it.

MrsRobinson, how are things coming along?

Hold on one minute MrsR2B, let me grab my Vaseline. The earrings are already off!

I can't begin to express how sorry I am to hear about what's going on with you. No offense but your FH is on my hit list also. You need him most right now to present a united front to his family. They only have as much leeway as he allows them. You need to pick his brain and see what's going on - not just regarding the wedding but your relationship as a whole. Usually things do not get better after the marriage with in-laws and you both need to make some things VERY clear right now so you will not have to deal with it the rest of your life.

I have you in my prayers.

Okay.....breathe....close your eyes and ask God to give you the peace, cool head and calmness you will need to get through these last 2 weeks. The only person you can control is yourself. FMIL, FSIl and any other Future-whatever in law won't do anything they don't want to do, so try (I know that's hard) not to stress yourself over people that for some reason decide to make planning weddings as stressful as they can. All you can do is what you can do.....for your Bridesmaids gift, I don't know what you originally planned to do but keep it simple girl...don't break yourself over it. It's too much other things you have to worry about! It's not that you want to get them stuff it's just that you've been out of work for 6 months and had to plan and pay for a wedding, so being that your bridesmaids should be close family and friends (but we know how THEY DO sometimes) they should understand....and if they don't OH WELL!....I've come to realize that you CANNOT please all the people all the time, no matter what you do, somebody is going to complain, somebody is going to have something negative to say, somebody is going to say they would have done it differently....ALWAYS SOMETHING. Babes this is YOU and YOUR husbands day....IT'S YOUR WEDDING DAY...everything will come together....who's going to be there is going to be there.....nothing you can do about it....please be encouraged....again i will continue praying for your situation and for your peace of mind!

Let me find out I gotta hop on the LIE after work!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MrsRobinson, girl, they ought to be ashamed of themselves!!!! I know one thing, and this may be adding fuel to the fire - but I don't bite my tongue that often, I would definately let EVERYBODY know how I feel!

For one, I agree with FutureMrsKeepUP! Your FH would be the first one I get at! He really should be supporting you right now. You two are team 1! I know they are his family members, but from 14 days on, YOU COME FIRST! Whether he agrees with you or not. You two discuss your disagreements at home but in public YOU ARE ON THE SAME PAGE. If his family sees that he doesn't support you, then they are going to run all over your marriage!

For 2, tell that TRICK to get a life! It was a friggen mistake and she would've known that had she asked you about it first! I really, really dislike, stupid, ignorant, bucket head TRICKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't let her bother you! Friggen B****! (Lord, please help me control my tongue, but she got me mad!!!!)

For 3, I know this must be hurting your FH. But the party WILL go on without her being at the reception! Tell her and her TRICK azz sister to stay at home! Did your FH ask her why is she only going to the wedding?

For 4, TELL ALL THEM HEFFAS TO DUCK OFF!!!! You're only after his money! Puh-leeeez! They're just mad that all of the dough will now be coming to you instead of them leeching off his dough!

I know FH's family don't care for me that much. And that's only because I say what the hell is on my mind and they want me to be a "Yes 'em". I'm nice and all, but you're not going to run over me. It took FH and I a while to get on the same page, but dammit, we're there now! And no one is going to talk mess to me about him nor to him about me without one of us putting them in their place!

Pray honey, just pray. Your day will be beautiful. And besides, do you really want fake, phoney sharing in your special day while they really don't want the best for you? OMG, they got me so mad right now!!!!

Edited because I'm so mad right now, they got me having typos.

I have never heard Askalot go off but I couldn't have said it better myself! While it's true that a marriage is a joining of two families, the first family is you and FH. So tell him to step up and be there for you. If he does nothing else, he should listen to whatever you want to vent about.

MrsRobinson2b, I know these last couple of days will be rough...but please stay encourage and know that no matter what your wedding is for the two of you ONLY. God will never let you down, so everything will work out even better than you expected!

Girlfriend, it's down to less than two weeks for me. My date is June 30. I have also been debating on the Limo issue. One of my board members has a private limo that seats 6 that he offered us for use on our wedding day. Well, my bridesmaids seem to think that they should also ride in a lymo. After checking on the prices, I've decided that we just cannot afford it. So I figure the lymo can pick me up and take me to the Church and afterwards take me and my FH to the reception afterwards.

As for favors, I am giving out bookmarks and heart candles.

My gift to my bridesmaids is their jewelry.

Their all common a$$es and not worth the energy. FH will see the type of fool his mom is if she shows out at his wedding.
But if you like I can't come and take her tail down if she so much as looks at you wrong.......just an offer;)

Glad to know things are looking up MrsR. I know your FH is trying to stay on the fence so he won't alienate you or his mother so I do understand his position also. (Still not removing him from my hit list though) I'm just glad he's stepping up and being in your corner. As for the FMIL and FSIL - they don't even warrant anymore conversation.

MrsRobinson2b, I am glad everything is beginning to work out. Keep us posted :) and I can't wait to see your FABULOUS pictures :)

MrsRobinson I am so sorry to hear about all of the drama that you are experiencing when you should be the most excited. It really amazes me how people always show their asses or should I say true colors. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your fh. I myself have encountered some drama from my ex- maid of honor so I know how you feel. Just hang in there and be strong. It's there lost not your's.

WHOA...where was I? one thing I can say for sure is that people never surprise me, I always expect the worst, the craziest, the most outlandish, and boy do I get it. Seems to be the same with you MrsR2B! I too am glad that things seems to be smoothing out. I think I'll grab that glass of wine with you girl!

Are you and FH planning on doing a speech at wedding? It's a perfect opportunity to thank your true supporters and throw alittle something in for the haters, but in a nice way.

Thanks goodness things are finally coming together...your day is going to be wondeful no matter who or what try to come in there and trip......keep us posted!...

[quote="MrsRobinson2b"]...I just have to purchase the gifts for the girls (thank God for ebay). I got the girls pink engraved flasks (my friends are a bunch of drunkards), a tote w/their nicknames monogrammed in it, and a manicure set...
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Which seller did you use for your gifts? I'm doing the totes also w/ a spa robe & slippers for our slumber party the night before the wedding.

You may also want to have the Reverend say something during the ceremony to the effect when you marry each other you forsake mother, father, sister, brother etc. It is a verse in the bible and when my girlfriend got married the Rev had both sides of the family repeat it after him. It got the message across to them mind your biz and know your role.

Good advice TAJMOM. Her trifling FIL's probably wouldn't utter a word of it though.

[quote="TAJMOM"]You may also want to have the Reverend say something during the ceremony to the effect when you marry each other you forsake mother, father, sister, brother etc. [/quote]

hmmm...just stole this idea. LOVE it! Will be politely incorporating it into the ceremony :) they all need to hear this. I'll have preacher speak slow for this part.

lol MsB - I hear you!!!!!!

OOO! I'll be Deeboing that idea as well! FH has a whole SLEW of family members that have been giving me grief. I promise you a post is comming all about that nonsense.

And then why is it, (and I just thought of this) all the people that are causing drama in his family are "saved, sanctifed, and holy"? People that are acting like they'd jump Jesus if they saw Him in the street!

Now that's funny!

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And then why is it, (and I just thought of this) all the people that are causing drama in his family are "saved, sanctifed, and holy"? People that are acting like they'd jump Jesus if they saw Him in the street!
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LMAO!!!!!!!!
Hmmmm...girl, please don't get a sister started.
I think preacher will be moved and know where/who to direct the comments to. I'm loving that idea

[quote="HeCallsMeAbeni"]OOO! I'll be Deeboing that idea as well! FH has a whole SLEW of family members that have been giving me grief. I promise you a post is comming all about that nonsense.

And then why is it, (and I just thought of this) all the people that are causing drama in his family are "saved, sanctifed, and holy"? People that are acting like they'd jump Jesus if they saw Him in the street!
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Gurl, it's always like that...I use to have problems like that with my FH grandmother...Once when he first went away 2 college we went 2 take professional pictures (we'd been dating 2 yrs) & when he went to give her one she said I'm not puttin' that up on my piano, that hussie ain't gon be in this family permanately... My FH didn't speak 2 her for 1 1/2 & to this day their relationship is different so now she wanna be my best friend, and she's a mother of the church...just a shame...lol