I am ALL alone in this....

Hi honey and welcome to the site! Congrats on your upcoming nuptuals. I think it's a bit of jealousy as well. How were they acting up to the point where you announced your engagement? I can understand your pain.

Welcome Goldyn!
Unfortunately, sounds to me like their jealous. Only one of my friends did a 360 on me, which I can't understand, which I can't understand because I've been by her side every time she received some sort of blessing (bought a house, new vehicle, & engagement even though he cancelled both times)but when it was my turn, everytime she flipped. I don't understand why some women are like that...as long as you're single or in a relationship getting used & abused, their your girls, but when you find "the right one" and mention marriage, you're everything but who you are. So to say the least, you're not all ALONE in this. I know exactly what you're experiencing. This so-called friend and I had a few words just a couple weeks ago & she went as far as bringing up things I did before I found Christ which had nothing to do with the situation at hand!!! She's never met my FI, but labled us both dumb & dumber and ugly & uglier (and we're by far quite the opposite)!!! I told her the last time I checked two negatives made a positive so I guess that made us intelligent & beautiful. I told her to grow up, get a life & move on...Then she had the nerve to say she's been asking God to deliver her from me so I said God gives us wisdom & common sense use it and stop calling and you will be deilvered. So after about 20 calls from her that I didn't bother to answer, I went a step further & got my cell # changed (she doesn't have home#). Sorry to linger on, but girrrrl, you just got something started!!! Thank GOD she was never in the wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't understand why women act like this either. I have a very close friend, and I think her boyfriend is just not right for, and that she deserves more. While I am honest with her about my opinion, when she is hurting about something that they are going through, she knows she can call me and I will support her. When he acts like he has some sense and treats her right, she knows she can call me and I will support her. Regardless of what we think about the others spouse or choices, we support each other. It pisses me off that women have to be so damn catty and bitchy toward each other. Women need to really get it together and stop hating on each other. I have been so blessed to have friends that support my marriage, and it makes me so mad that other women have to deal with this foolishness. Goldyn, don't trip off of those chickens!!! Leave them to squak alone. It looks like you are from DC, so from one DC chick to another, I'll support you in what you are going through. Chalk this up to those friends not knowing how to support you because they don't have a clue about what you are going through.

[quote="STBMrsJ"]I don't understand why women act like this either. I have a very close friend, and I think her boyfriend is just not right for, and that she deserves more. While I am honest with her about my opinion, when she is hurting about something that they are going through, she knows she can call me and I will support her. When he acts like he has some sense and treats her right, she knows she can call me and I will support her. Regardless of what we think about the others spouse or choices, we support each other. It pisses me off that women have to be so damn catty and bitchy toward each other. Women need to really get it together and stop hating on each other. I have been so blessed to have friends that support my marriage, and it makes me so mad that other women have to deal with this foolishness. Goldyn, don't trip off of those chickens!!! Leave them to squak alone. It looks like you are from DC, so from one DC chick to another, I'll support you in what you are going through. Chalk this up to those friends not knowing how to support you because they don't have a clue about what you are going through.
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Like you, all my "friends" are supportive of me & FI. Probably helps that the mass majority of us went to High School together & I'm like a big sister to them, not to mention, He was there as well so they know him and his personality. Now, the x-friend on the other hand, she and I have had several run ins and everytime, I treat her with a long handled spoon and eventually she will call and apologize, but this time around, I had to take a stand and say enough is enough and let her go because I don't need people in my life that calls themselves a friend one minute and flips the next. Life's too short and I have better things to do than deal with drama.

Welcome to the site Goldyn!
First off, no you are NOT alone in this. Many women have expressed a a change in their close friendships since becoming engaged. Besides the obvious jealousy, it could be something more. She/they may feel that they are losing a friend.
It's crazy that all 4 started to act up?!? Did you cut them off, meaning did every waking moment go to FH and they felt left out?
Well either way, let them bums work it out on their own. One thing I have learned is that you are ultimately responsible for your own emotions, you can't babysit everyones emotional fluctuations. That would be inhuman, you just can't do it.
I went through something similar (x2) and I just had to leave them alone until they came around on their own. Only one did. Oh well, life does go on, and I for one will be doing it smiling.

Welcome to the family Goldyn! I see your avatar and I have to ask, do you play neopets? Those are pea Chia's right?

Hi and welcome to the boards! You are never alone at vibride.com. ALL of us have been faced in one way or another with bizarre bouts of jealousy from friends and family over our upcoming weddings.

You can vent here every hour on the hour if you want Thant's what we are here for.

The Vibride posse has so many great ideas and stories they will make planning your wedding super easy.

We will take our earrings off and grease up whenever you need us too! :D

Welcome Goldyn! Rosie is right, you're never alone on the boards. Even if we're not going through the same thing (which is rare), we are more than happy to hear about it and give you support.

Hello Goldyn....I want to welcome you home! Let me just say like the others, you are NOT alone on here! You have our support because we are all going through our own issues during this wedding process! This place is all wedding talk, good or bad all the time! If no one else will listen, we will.....be encouraged and don't let those so called friends mess up what you have been blessed with!....

Welcome Goldyn. You are one of many. You find out exactly who has well wishes for you once you get engaged. No worries though, karma is something else.

Welcome Goldyn you are in the company of some wonderful ladies. We genuinely support one another -- alway remember you are never alone and we are here for you!