Ok ladies,
This will be my second marriage - not my seconde wedding, as me and my first husband just went to the County Court House and got married. I didn't do a lot of research on wedding etiquette until now, therefore I find that I will be breaking a lot of rules. #1 You do not wear a long train, nor do you were a veil. # 2 You do not toss garter or wedding bouquet. My question is this? Does these rules pertain to second marriage or second wedding. Tradition or no tradition, I am wearing a veil and white gown with a long train.
My wedding is less than two weeks away and yes the devil is trying to steal my joy. One of my soloist had to cancel so we got him replaced. Now my musician has cancelled and we are now trying to find a replacement. Needless to say, I am about to turn into Bridezilla.
Ok ladies,
This will be my second marriage - not my seconde wedding, as me and my first husband just went to the County Court House and got married. I didn't do a lot of research on wedding etiquette until now, therefore I find that I will be breaking a lot of rules. #1 You do not wear a long train, nor do you were a veil. # 2 You do not toss garter or wedding bouquet. My question is this? Does these rules pertain to second marriage or second wedding. Tradition or no tradition, I am wearing a veil and white gown with a long train.
My wedding is less than two weeks away and yes the devil is trying to steal my joy. One of my soloist had to cancel so we got him replaced. Now my musician has cancelled and we are now trying to find a replacement. Needless to say, I am about to turn into Bridezilla.
Hey browncat! Where did those rules come from? Do "what-sen-ever" you want on YOUR day. I think sometimes we worry too much about offending others that we offend ourselves by not having things the way we like them. So remember "Its your thang, do what you wanna do!"
Don't stress about the musician either. Some of the best songs sound good acapello (sp?). Plus, I've been to several weddings where a stereo (nowadays an IPod) worked just fine. Don't sweat the small stuff.
Thanks. I needed those encouraging words.
Hey girl, there is an unofficial motto around here " Your day Your way". My husband and I just renewed our vows and we did what WE wanted and not what everybody thought we should do. I am sorry about the musician, I am sure you will get him replaced in time. Don't let anybody or anything steal this time of happiness from you!
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Like you, my FI has been married before (court house) and of course it was over before it really got started. We are having a church wedding because like you he didn't have one before. We're notallowing "TRADITION" to consume us and don't allow yourself to be bound by it. As the other ladies have said, "Your Day, Your Way" & "don't worry about offending others"....Your focus should be marrying your soulmate, the one you love & intend to spend the rest of your life with!!!!
And you're right, the devil comes to steal, kill & destroy(and he will, only if "you" allow him) But God said "I come that you have life & have it more abundantly"
Be encouraged
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I have said this so many times that I feel like a record that keeps skipping a beat. Girl this is your wedding so you can have whatever your heart desires. This is a new millennium , and brides now of days are breaking all the rules and doing what they want. I say if you see something you like then go for it.
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[quote="browncat"] Tradition or no tradition, I am wearing a veil and white gown with a long train.
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HELLO! I know that's right. You are doing you, and that's the only requirement needed in planning your wedding. Good luck girl.
I can't STAND this tradition thing "you're not supposed to do this...ya can't wear that...you have to do the other". I figure you and your FH are spending YOUR money for you YOUR day....please please do whatever you want....Now if someone's writing out some chks maybe they can have some input but iF not SHUT-EM'S!!!!
We are descendants of Kings and Queens from the birth place of civilzations.
We need not focus on the traditions that were created by them for us or the traditions that they follow, but focus on the traditions that honor our original ancestors, and the countries of our parents ancestors (barbados, st lucia, puerto rico, bahamas, jamaica).
Make your wedding your own day!! Throw tradition to the wind and customize every single detail to you and your fiances desires.
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Thanks to you all for your comments and advice. I feel so much better now. IT'S MY THANG AND IM GONNA DO WHAT I WANNA DO. NINE DAYS AND COUNTING.
MzT/STB, I love it! Well said.
BrownCat girl, best wishes for the wedding of your dreams, you will be in my thoughts and prayers as you handle yo' biz!
Browncat - I think that these traditions were written by some lonely spinster. It doesn't matter how old you are or how often you've been married, it's your first time marrying him and you should have all that you want to have for your day to be special to him and to you. The devil is a liar, therefore relax and enjoy your day the way our Lord intented.
HAVE FUN!!!