I've heard of people doing a wedding ceremony after going to the courthouse, and that's perfectly fine. That's the regular way they do it in Europe. For example, Eva Longoria and Tony Parker got married that way in Paris. I believe a friend of mine in Spain did it that way as well. A minister shouldn't have a problem with performing a ceremony for two legally married people. The purpose of the ceremony would mostly be for the benefit of the family and the guests to watch them saying their vows to each other. I believe you would still call it a "wedding ceremony." They are married, but they didn't have a "wedding."
Some people just feel they love each other so much they can't imagine waiting a year to be husband and wife. My hubby and I might have done it the same way if we weren't able to put together a wedding so quickly. We were living in two separate houses an hour and 15 minutes away from each other and seeing each other only on the weekends. That arrangement just could not go on another year. As Christian people, living together before marriage was not an option. So, we got married 4 months after he proposed. We are so happy that we did...and I'm so glad that I didn't have to spend a year planning a wedding, as I believe it would make me crazy...so happy that we could just move onto the living and loving.
I know your sister must have shocked the heck out of you. I know I would be shocked if either of my little sisters did that. But you can't do anything about it now. So, just be happy for them and help them to plan the wedding of their dreams.
I've heard of people doing a wedding ceremony after going to the courthouse, and that's perfectly fine. That's the regular way they do it in Europe. For example, Eva Longoria and Tony Parker got married that way in Paris. I believe a friend of mine in Spain did it that way as well. A minister shouldn't have a problem with performing a ceremony for two legally married people. The purpose of the ceremony would mostly be for the benefit of the family and the guests to watch them saying their vows to each other. I believe you would still call it a "wedding ceremony." They are married, but they didn't have a "wedding."
Some people just feel they love each other so much they can't imagine waiting a year to be husband and wife. My hubby and I might have done it the same way if we weren't able to put together a wedding so quickly. We were living in two separate houses an hour and 15 minutes away from each other and seeing each other only on the weekends. That arrangement just could not go on another year. As Christian people, living together before marriage was not an option. So, we got married 4 months after he proposed. We are so happy that we did...and I'm so glad that I didn't have to spend a year planning a wedding, as I believe it would make me crazy...so happy that we could just move onto the living and loving.
I know your sister must have shocked the heck out of you. I know I would be shocked if either of my little sisters did that. But you can't do anything about it now. So, just be happy for them and help them to plan the wedding of their dreams.
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I agree, me and DH were going to do it the same way but chose not too, because DH started thinking differently about it.But we have a friend who got married out of the blue at the courthouse and is now planning to do a wedding so that everyone can be there to see. I also had a friend who got married in court and just had a reception a few days after.I dont think that is a bad idea at all. Do it up as an all out wedding and reception.
Teresa, I agree with our sisters here. There's actually nothing wrong with what your sister choose to do. As christians, we know that living together is frowned upon. Maybe they just couldn't wait any longer and didn't want to live in sin.
Be that as it may, in the eyes of the church, it is still considered an engagement, eventhough it's legal in the eyes of man. She should have all the trimmings that she wants. It's still her day and if she told everyone that she's already married, you could call it a "vow renewal" and in case she only told close family and such, you could still call it a wedding and treating her courthouse wedding as an engagement as far as everyone else is concerned.
So Diva, get on the ball. A year may sound like it's a lot of time to plan a wedding, but as you just went through it yourself, you know everything that's involved in the planning and the executing of said wedding. So put on your planner's hat and if you need to bounce ideas, I'm always here for you.
I agree with the others. There's nothing wrong with your sister wanting to have a ceremony as well as the reception. She still wants to have friends and family to celebrate the occasion. Believe me, the courthouse deal is nothing like a traditional ceremony. Remember, we all have our visions and fantasies of "fairy tale weddings". I think you should feel honored that she asked you to help her. God bless you!
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Well Congratulations are defintely in order for your sister and YOU because I know you are going to pull together a hell of a day for your sister!!!!!!
I agree with the other ladies, I know several people that have gotten married at the courthouse and the after activities range from receptions only (REALLY nice receptions) to full fledge bells, whistles and all the trimmings weddings!!! I still believe however the marriage takes place, the couple still deserves to revel in their union--so hats off to your lil sis!! :)
It's our one month anniversary today too Teresa! I guess your sister got a taste of wedding fever after seeing you get married. I heard my younger sister making comments about wanting to get married too when she saw everything we were doing. I hope it was just talk! God bless you for taking on the wedding planning again so soon.
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Teresa, all I can say is to try to curb the "Bridezilla syndrome" early. Have an honest conversation with your sister and tell her honestly how proud and honored you feel that she'd chosen you to help her plan one of the most memorable days of her life, however, you have some preconditions that needs to be discussed first. Touch on her attitude during your wedding and tell her that you understand that this is her day and her vision and you're only the instrument to help execute, but under no circumstances will you allow her to become a Bridezilla because you're not having it. Ask her to think very long and hard about it and stick to your guns.
Good luck to you sister and has she and her husband pick out a date yet?
Great advice, Ginoue!
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