My fh mentioned to me last night that his sister told him that he should try to check at a pawn shop for our wedding rings. I told him I would think about it. Honestly-I DONT WANT THAT!!! Am I being totally unreasonable or spoiled when I say that? I never heard of anything like that. He didn't say that we were going to; he just threw the idea out there. I kept an open mind about alot of things, but this one takes the cake. What do I do??????? HELP!!!!!!!
My fh mentioned to me last night that his sister told him that he should try to check at a pawn shop for our wedding rings. I told him I would think about it. Honestly-I DONT WANT THAT!!! Am I being totally unreasonable or spoiled when I say that? I never heard of anything like that. He didn't say that we were going to; he just threw the idea out there. I kept an open mind about alot of things, but this one takes the cake. What do I do??????? HELP!!!!!!!
I dont think you are being unreasonable. I can understand you wanting a fresh new ring for you fresh begining with your FH. It's different if was a family member's or something like grandma or mom
I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. If it were a family heirloom then okay, a pawn shop, honestly. Anyways, you can find some truly affordable rings if you look aroound at different jewelry stores. Just stay away from the big names like Mayors', Tiffany, you know and you should be more than alright. All the jewelry stores have wonderful rings that will not cost you an arm or a leg or both.
On that one, It would be a "Hell No", for me.
I think I would be upset. It would have to be one hell of a diamond for me to be okay with it and then I still would want a jeweler to make me a different band for it.
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You all are reading my mind!!! I didn't want to sound mean or cruel to his sister's suggestion, but he should have said hell no to HER! I feel like our wedding bands are sacred and symbolize the two of us with a new beginning. I am not a materialistic woman and maybe he considered going there because I am cool with most of the "money-saving" decisions that we have made thus far. I don't want to compromise my ring though. I wouldn't DARE consider putting someone else's ring on my husband's finger.
Hey Mrs Hudson, excellent question. I would be totally upset if my husband would've suggested that. You deserve to have new rings. You can find really nice inexpensive sets. The only way I would accept a used ring would be if it were passed down from my grandmother, mom or someone like that. You are not being unreasonable.
A lot of rings that are in pawn shops are stollen, or sold because people may have been divorced and don't need the rings anymore or perhaps they may have sold them to get money. No thanks I wouldn't want that kind of energy attached to my wedding rings.
I am one that believes in asking for what I want. I'm sure your fiance will appreciate your honesty if you told him how you really feel. Good luck and keep us posted.
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I agree with the other ladies on this one---I would NOT want our rings to come from the pawn shop! If money is a factor-then just start off with a nice set of wedding bands for each of you, and then upgrade maybe on your 1 yr anniversary... my vote is a BIG N-O!!!!!!!!
I agree with the sistas!!
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I have gotten some great jewelry from the pawn shops! Wedding rings however - uh, no!
Devil's Advocate here! :)
My first wedding, we had pawn shop wedding bands, at the same time we were 19 and 21.
Mrsdhudson's Advocate here too! ;) 10 years plus later .. I wouldn't want it.
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I wouldn't want someone else's ring unless it belonged to my parents or grandparents honestly. But I'm a true believer in when one owns a piece of jewelry their spirit or energy is linked to it (much like the organ donation thing) and wearing a strangers jewelry may reek havoc in your personal life and you don't know why....lol-meaning that whatever issues they've had are now yours because of the one piece of jewelry. I say spend the money to get rings just for you, it's well worth the investment and cut corners someplace else.
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I don't think you are being reasonable, but I would explore the possibility. SOME, and I mean SOME pawn shops may get their hands on a beautiful rare ring....Often these rings were given up by the rich if their monies are going bad....If you check some very reputable antique stores, they get their hands on some "estate jewelry" that are one of a kind peices that some rich person lost after they and their wife died, and it was either donated to charity, given away--> but ultimately auctioned off. Purchasing these rings can run you as much as a new ring, if not more, but these really are really worth it if you are paying 1C price for a 3C ring....which you can find sometimes.....
So her option is not far-fetched, but if $$ is the price, yes, you can find some inexpensive brand new sets, but if you are looking for rare quality, then you'd be amazed at what you can find. People do this type of purchasing for a living, and make hundreds of thousands of dollars in product or cash because they have a good eye. The moral is that in everything, you should always do your research, because if you did find that one-of-a-kind ring, and celebrities shop like this often.....and save $$, what does it matter that it was used?
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[quote="pamcrow"]I think I would be upset. It would have to be one hell of a diamond for me to be okay with it and then I still would want a jeweler to make me a different band for it.
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Amen... I am with all the ladies...energies....man I dont know maybe its the African in me, but hell no!! get something and make it your own story, dont take something which was part of a stranger's history into your life for such a meaningful occasion- Its different from going into a vintage store (vintage is very big here) and getting a Vivienne Westwood bag... I dont know pawn shops have negative connotations for example compare pawn shop jewelry to estate jewelry as bumble rightly demonstrates (okay I am studying right now so my lingo is a little formal sorry...)
Thanks ladies! I feel so much better about me telling him HELL NAW!!
(not so mean, though) I would rather get a BRAND NEW ring from Wal-mart than some 2nd rate from a pawn shop,(just an example). We are going to have that "talk" tonite so I can tell him how I feel. If we can't communicate and tell the truth, then we're going nowhere fast!!
[quote="mrsdhudson"]Thanks ladies! I feel so much better about me telling him HELL NAW!!
(not so mean, though) I would rather get a BRAND NEW ring from Wal-mart than some 2nd rate from a pawn shop,(just an example). We are going to have that "talk" tonite so I can tell him how I feel. If we can't communicate and tell the truth, then we're going nowhere fast!!
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way to go diva! :)
I agree with the ladies here!