Are you ladies having a "Dollar Dance"?

I haven't thought about doing the dollar dance, to tell you the truth I have never seen a dollar dance. But I think I know what it is. However, I don't think that it is tacky and if you have family and friends that love and support you, I don't think they will think it is tacky either.

QUESTION!!!!.....What is a dollar dance????

I think that it is a good idea. I planed a wedding for a sista bride in January 06 and she had a Dollar Dance at the reception, and after the reception she got changed to leave for there honeymoon, she asked me to count the money for her, after I counted the money it totaled up to $2000.00 Dollars. So I say have the dollar dance it is an easier way to money as your wedding gift, rather than asking for money as the wedding gift. Best of luck

[quote="HapplyMarried505"]I think that it is a good idea. I planed a wedding for a sista bride in January 06 and she had a Dollar Dance at the reception, and after the reception she got changed to leave for there honeymoon, she asked me to count the money for her, after I counted the money it totaled up to $2000.00 Dollars. So I say have the dollar dance it is an easier way to money as your wedding gift, rather than asking for money as the wedding gift. Best of luck
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It must be something special to be in the right place and the right time Della...first the $20,000.00 wedding you're planning now you get to count the dollars of a January 06 wedding you planned which totaled $2,000.00...That's amazing if I may say so myself.

[quote="bride2be805"]The dollar dance is when guests pay a dollar (or whatever they want to pay) to dance with the bride and groom.

The bride and groom will stand on the dance floor, and the MOH will stand next to the bride, and the best man next to the groom. Both of them will hold a bag or something. Female guests line up in front of the groom and male guests line up in front of the bride. Guests will drop money in the bag, then dance a couple of seconds with the bride and groom.

[/quote]Thank you for the clarification 805...I have never seen this in my culture before but to each his own ah!

I would say that one is on you....I personally don't like the idea but if the Italians can break plates at their weddings whose to say you can't have a dollar dance.

[quote="bride2be805"]The dollar dance is when guests pay a dollar (or whatever they want to pay) to dance with the bride and groom.

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Thanks for the clarification. I personally will not be having a dollar dance or anything else that'll ask my guests for anything more than the gift they have already bought to the reception.

[quote="bride2be805"]The dollar dance is when guests pay a dollar (or whatever they want to pay) to dance with the bride and groom.

The bride and groom will stand on the dance floor, and the MOH will stand next to the bride, and the best man next to the groom. Both of them will hold a bag or something. Female guests line up in front of the groom and male guests line up in front of the bride. Guests will drop money in the bag, then dance a couple of seconds with the bride and groom.
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Great description Bride2be805! I think you have helped me to decide that a dollar dance is in order!!!!

I've never seen a dollar dance in all my years of event planning. I set up wishing wells near the couples' table. I personally would pass on a money dance.

PS-Charley get the Chee-toes cause you're going to the corner!!

Niquey you see she can't stay out for long.

Pressure bursts pipes.....what else can I say....

No, it was all the hot air pushed into the pipes! LOL!
Give me a break, QUACK! QUACK!!

Girl I been quacking for couple hours now.....and your right about the hot air haaaa

[quote="phenomonique"]in all my years of event planning. [/quote]

I don't know Niquey...I get the feeling that you are a Wedding Planner.....wow! are you...are you really????????

See...I said I was leaving. I stopped by one last time to make sure you wasn't acting up...and ya'll still at it. Rosey's logged on now. Ain't none of us going to be able to get on tomorrow....LOL

I've always seen the" dollar dance" in movies but never in person. I read somewhere that the wedding guest pins money on the brides veil and that money was used for the honeymoon because the couple couldnt always pay for it themselves.For those of you who are planning the dollar dance will you have the maid/matron of honor and bestman holding a bag or will your guest be pinning the dollars on your veils?

Ok this is really beginning to freak me out...I could kinda deal with the dollar dance which I will definitely not be having ...but now you'll talking about "taking shots" and pinning on veil.....hell no!...aint nobody messing up my veil (I don't care if wedding is over) and ain't nobody getting drunk at my wedding...

Gatta draw the line somewhere and damn it here it is ______________

I will have a classical, sophisticated wedding .....not a bar room brawl.

The most will be a champagne......the most. Absolutely no hard liquor.

[quote="bride2be805"]Everyone does it different around the world. I read on another message board that some people have shots of liquor next to the bride and groom, and after guests pay their "dollar", they take a shot, then dance. Some people people have it where guests pin the money on either their veil or dress.

If I decide to have a dollar dance, my moh will just hold a bag.

Another subsitution if you don't want to use dollars, you can have your guests write a little note to you and your FH (regarding marriage), and have them drop that in the bag instead. (I've never seen that before, but another bride said she would be doing that)
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That's really interesting I never heard of that(the shots). I like the dollar version better.

I never heard of the shot thing either.I think people will take advantage of that. Just think about all the "drunks" at the wedding.They will just kepp coming back again and again like they are at a bar and then you would have to dance with them....ughhhhhh I dont like being around drunk people they tend to get out of control.

[quote="alvinslove"]I never heard of the shot thing either.I think people will take advantage of that. Just think about all the "drunks" at the wedding.They will just kepp coming back again and again like they are at a bar and then you would have to dance with them....ughhhhhh I dont like being around drunk people they tend to get out of control.
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So true AllieS. I'll stick to the dollars.

I never saw a Dollar dance at a wedding but I did see it on the movie "Soul Food".I'm not sure if we'll have one though.There are too many cheapskates and broke ***es on my side of the family.And don't get me started on the shots.There may be a brawl at the reception.Wait a minute (reading what I just wrote).Charley, make room in the corner,I'm sending myself and I bring Hot Wings and pizza.Lol.

If the wings are buffalo you are definitely welcomed....lol

[quote="platinumstyle"]I never saw a Dollar dance at a wedding but I did see it on the movie "Soul Food".I'm not sure if we'll have one though.There are too many cheapskates and broke ***es on my side of the family.And don't get me started on the shots.There may be a brawl at the reception.Wait a minute (reading what I just wrote).Charley, make room in the corner,I'm sending myself and I bring Hot Wings and pizza.Lol.
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HAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!

Dollar dances are great. They are VERY common among Italian, Greek, & Jewish weddings. It's called a dollar dance, but people give lots of money. Ususally you are danceing with your male relatives who are padding your "dowry" so that you have some cash on hand after the wedding.

They are not tacky and they are lots of fun. People cut in as soon as they see the money slip into your wedding bag. Now you lknow why they are so big with the elastic closure!

Have the dance. Especially if you are paying for this yourselves.

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Gatta draw the line somewhere and damn it here it is ______________

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So I guess pulling my fask outta my garter is outta the question huh sis? ROFLMBAO

every wedding i've ever been to has had a dollar dance. I intend on having a dollar dance. I'm trying to teach the FH to dance. Hahaha... part of the curiosity on my side of the fam will come from people wanting to know if the korean boy can dance.

I've almost always seen dollar dances at weddings. But one tradition my step-father's family had was to kidnap the bride.

The bestman and another groomsman would slip out with the bride with out anyone noticing. (It was usually when the dance floor was opened up to everyone.) Five minutes later a different Groomsman would come back with a note and give it to the groom. The groom would read the note over the mic: "Dear (Groom), we have "your wife" and if you want her back you have to give up some randsom money. You have fifteen minutes." (They usually add some humor to the note too. Like we know you are a punk and can't raise the money, etc.)

So then the groom would plead with his family and friends telling them how much he loves his wife and how he would be lost with out her, etc. And the family and friends bring the money to the groom. The DJ usually plays some music while the money is being collected.

Fifteen minutes later the bride comes back with rope or tape or something around on of her arms. Then she thanks the family and friends for saving her from her "captors", but she never says who they are. (P.S. while the bride is kidnapped she usually is eating or freshening up in a private area where no one can see her. And only the people in on the kidnapping know about what is going to happen ahead of time, so don't tell everyone in your bridal party or anyone who can not keep a secret!)

Now in the day and age of cell phones, the best man can call the groom's cell phone (or someone else's cell phone) and the groom can put the cell phone to the mic while the bestman and other groomsman make their demands.

Never tell your guests how much money the randsom is.

A lot of times when the bride was "released" the bride and groom would have a second dance as a symbol of their love for each other.

I won't be using this because we are getting married in Jamacia. But I hope some of you do use it and have fun with it!

[quote="nlbostic"]See...I said I was leaving. I stopped by one last time to make sure you wasn't acting up...and ya'll still at it. Rosey's logged on now. Ain't none of us going to be able to get on tomorrow....LOL
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Bossie is so damn funny! lol. I am more forgiving than you think. I just LOVE the follar dance. Not tacky AT ALL> It is smart and wspecially if you had no "dowry" it ill help a lot with your new life together and at the very least it will help pay for your lavish reception. People make THOUSANDS doing dollar dances sometimes. That is what the poofy bridal purses are for! lol

i like that kidnapping idea, sounds like something we'd like to do!

The kindnapping idea is very creative, seems like a lot of fun!

That is creative.

My question is this. Don't this (or the dollar dance) come off as the couple being greedy? Like they've already given you a card with money in it, and now you're asking for more money. Ladies, don't take this the wrong way, BECAUSE I WANT NOTHING MORE THAN TO BE LOADED THE NIGHT OF MY WEDDING. I realy want to do but I just think I would feel bad or people saying well damn how much money are you going to drain from us.

Bossie, you can get this together for me on my day! :-)

Do you have the dollar dance instead of the guest buying you gifts?

Oh I love the kidnapping thing. Sounds like a lot of fun to add to the reception! Give more to do!

I AGREE WITH YOU SEPT BRIDE

[quote="SeptBride"]That is creative.

My question is this. Don't this (or the dollar dance) come off as the couple being greedy? Like they've already given you a card with money in it, and now you're asking for more money. Ladies, don't take this the wrong way, BECAUSE I WANT NOTHING MORE THAN TO BE LOADED THE NIGHT OF MY WEDDING. I realy want to do but I just think I would feel bad or people saying well damn how much money are you going to drain from us.

Bossie, you can get this together for me on my day! :-)
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Sept Bride and TAJ~ I understand how you may feel. In some families it is a tradition and people expect it, so families and friends don't mind. The family and friends think of it as a way to help the new couple with the honeymoon, paying for the reception, etc. I remember the "kidnappings" and how excited everyone was. It was a lot of fun to see and do. But, if you think (the majority of) your famiy and friends will think you are being greedy then you should probably not do it, so you don't offend anyone.

[quote="threjolyn"]Do you have the dollar dance instead of the guest buying you gifts?
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they do it in addition to gifts. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I like the money dance. I'm paying almost $80 per plate for your food you can give me 3 bucks for a dance.

THANKS 4 THE INPUT DW. IN MY OPINION, MOST PEOPLE, AT LEAST MOST OF THE ONES COMING TO MY WEDDING ALREADY KNOW ETIQUETTE'S RULE OF THUMB IS TO COVER YOUR PLATE W/A LITTLE EXTRA. AT LEAST THAT'S WHAT I DO. AND AS MY UNCLE PPUTS IT, YOU COVER YOU AND YOUR GUEST'S PLATE ALONG W/ A LITTLE SOMETHING FOR THE BRIDE AND GROOM. SO IF WE ATTEND WEDDINGS WHERE THE VENUE SEEMS TO BE ABOUT $80 A PLATE AS THE EXAMPLE WAS GIVEN, FOR FH AND I, OUR GIFT WLD BE ABOUT $200. FOR THE MOST INEXPENSIVE, BOOTLEG WEDDING I'VE EVER BEEN TO, I'VE GIVEN A MINIUM OF $100. SO I GUESS THAT IS WHY I FEEL IT'S NOT RIGT. THE 1ST TIME I GOT MARRIED, INDIVIDUALS THAT CLD NT COME SENT CHECKS W/AT LEAST THAT AMT, SO MAYBE I'M A LITTLE OUTDATED OR STUCK IN WHAT I WAS TAUGHT. LADIES PLEASE CONTINUE TO EDUCATE AND OPEN ME UP.

Like DWBride stated I have seen it done that way. They even went as far as having the "Caps Guns" when taking the bride away and when she returned she had changed into a different dress and all. I think it made the reception more exciting b/c it was so unexpected.We had a blast. I thought about doing that as way if I decidede to change dresses this I really want go missing and no one will really be looking for me. My family is cool like that and think they will love it. The questin is hw my FH will likethe idea. He is funny acting sometimes.

[quote="FutureMsLee"]Do you have the dollar dance instead of the guest buying you gifts?

they do it in addition to gifts. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I like the money dance. I'm paying almost $80 per plate for your food you can give me 3 bucks for a dance.
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OMG I am cracking up, Future girl you are too much!!!!! HAAAA!!!

TAJ~ No problem. I am not one to keep knowledge to myself.

sheawiil~ I've never seen the cap gun. That's cute! I think you should talk to your FH about it. He might like it, especially if you are thinking about a dollar dance.

I think a dollar dance is a good idea.After spending so much on the preparation for the day I am sure that extra cash would be much welcomed. I would certainly welcome it.I specifically asked for monetary contributions instead of gifts as we don't live where the wedding will be.I don't think the airline or customs would take it kindly for me to be travelling with 10 toasters,a microwave, 5 irons etc. in my luggage.Some people think this is tacky asking for money instead of gifts but i am being realistic.

[quote="NikkiG"] Some people think this is tacky asking for money instead of gifts but i am being realistic.
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I remember when I was little and I was watching that Patti LaBelle show Out All Nite (i think thats what it was called). Someone said they wanted to get her a gift and she went off: "I wear a size 8 shoe, my favorite color is red, and I'm not offended by cash."

Aint nothing wrong with cash. Asking for cash is not tacky, these people would end up spending a cash to buy you a gift. You don't need another toaster. Y'all don't need another microwave, but you do need to pay the bills.

*sidenote: It is tacky to put it in the invitation!

I can see it now:

The Parents of Ms. Name Here & Mr. John Doe invite you to witness the commitment of their children to one another. In lieu of gifts, please bring cash.

I did not put it on the invitation but on the response card.I have been to 2 weddings and they asked for cash.I was not offended. they didn't live there so you couldn't give them a gift.If thats not proper etiquette well tough cause etiquette is not going to pay those bills money will.

Oops that songs a bit harsh ,no offense ladies.I do apologise.

You said what you felt don't apologize! You didn't curse anyone! Do what you feel you need to.

NIKKI G THAT WAS NOT HARSH AT ALL. AND IT IS NOT RUDE TO PUT IT ON AN INVITE YOU JUST HAVE TO WORD IT CORRECTLY. "WHILE ALL GIFTS ARE APPRECIATED, MONETARY GIFTS ARE PREFERRED." BOTTOM LINE, I'VE BEEN KEEPING HOUSE 4 YEARS, GIVE ME MONEY:) YOU CATCH MORE FLIES W/HONEY THAN VINEGAR