Ladies I need your help again. The girls I've picked to be my bm haven't even been fitted yet. I know they have other things to do beside follow me from boutique to boutique, but the hard part is done. I've already picked their dresses all they have to do is get measured. My sister-in-law is the only one that has come to the shop with me. And she hasn't gotten measured either. Everyone has the name, number and address of the shop(we all live on opposite ends of town)theydon't have to wait for me to go. They have a file with all my bm names. All they have to do is go. What do I do? I've called to say hey let's meet at the shop so you guys can get measured. It's always Yeah we'll be there and they don't come or call the day of and cancel. I told them as nice as I could I would hate to cut 'em but I'm not going to let them stress me out. If need be my neice(fg) and I will be the baddest chicks walking down the aisle. What can I do to get them with the program?
Ladies I need your help again. The girls I've picked to be my bm haven't even been fitted yet. I know they have other things to do beside follow me from boutique to boutique, but the hard part is done. I've already picked their dresses all they have to do is get measured. My sister-in-law is the only one that has come to the shop with me. And she hasn't gotten measured either. Everyone has the name, number and address of the shop(we all live on opposite ends of town)theydon't have to wait for me to go. They have a file with all my bm names. All they have to do is go. What do I do? I've called to say hey let's meet at the shop so you guys can get measured. It's always Yeah we'll be there and they don't come or call the day of and cancel. I told them as nice as I could I would hate to cut 'em but I'm not going to let them stress me out. If need be my neice(fg) and I will be the baddest chicks walking down the aisle. What can I do to get them with the program?
Put your foot down, you make the appointment if you must. They're grown you don't have to go with them, and they don'tall have to go at the same time. I had a BM wait a week before the wedding to get fitted, and she busted out of her gown like the Incredible Hulk! Then she tried tho blame the seamstress. Girl, put you foot down!
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I would suggest giving your Bridesmaids a deadline. If they don't get fitted by the time that you set, then L_Evet you gotta do what you gotta do. Shame on them, people can be so inconsiderate. If they have other issues going on then they should honor your friendship and be honest. Phenomonique, girl when you said your bm was busting out her dress like the increadible hulk, girl I lost it!!! (lol)
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Can you make a morning out of it? Maybe you could meet for a walk, breakfast and then go and get fitted. There are so many weird reasons for women to get together before a wedding. Something that sounds fun should do it. I agree with the other ladies about putting your foot down. But, I always try honey first. The sad thing is the honey doesn't always work. It's interesting how friends show up so quickly for drama but won't come and help celebrate the good stuff. Anyway! Enjoy yourself girl. I hope your friends come around.
Busted out like the Incredible Hulk huh. WOW, that must have something funny to see:) Thank all of you for the advice. I am trying not to turn into one of those bridezillas from tv. It's getting harder and harder. Southernthoughts, I've done the honey thing. The whole being sweet and understanding hasn't worked. Know when I turn into no patience, quick tempered person that I've tried hard to grow out of, then their feeling will be hurt. I read all of your posts this morning before work. I think I'll call and make the appointment for them like Phenomonique suggested. Thanks again for your help.
Leslie
Good luck, I hope it all works out.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Thanks Rhonda. If I have to get the wedding drama at least it's happening now and not a month before my wedding.
So true, so true.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37