I just recently got engaged and before I even knew it, my fiance had 8 groomsmen picked out. I only have six bridesmaids (including the maid of honor) and an additonal one that I have no clue about what to do about. Here's the story: She has been one of my best friends longer than most of my current bridesmaids and I know that she's going to be expecting to be a bridesmaid too. I really want her in my wedding party also, but the thing is that she's not that reliable and my mother doesn't really like her. What should I do? Any ideas?
I just recently got engaged and before I even knew it, my fiance had 8 groomsmen picked out. I only have six bridesmaids (including the maid of honor) and an additonal one that I have no clue about what to do about. Here's the story: She has been one of my best friends longer than most of my current bridesmaids and I know that she's going to be expecting to be a bridesmaid too. I really want her in my wedding party also, but the thing is that she's not that reliable and my mother doesn't really like her. What should I do? Any ideas?
Welcome to the site and congrats on your engagement. First, it's okay if you have more GM than BM. One of the GM will be standing at the alter iwth your FH so he doesn't have to walk. Second, don't base the decision to have your friend in your wedding on your mother's like/dislike. This is your wedding and your friendship. I wish you the best.
Great advice askalot!
Do what your heart tells you to do. Besides there are gonna be relatives and old classmates that will want to be in your wedding! lol just give it a minute. Did you set a date?
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I did set a date, and I still have time to decide. It's June 14, 2008.
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I agree with the girls, use your heart, and follow it.
Also remember, its guaranteed that you will have to sit all your Bridesmaids down and discuss responsibilities and expectations. It is here that you can make sure that everyone is on board. Its true that you ultimately need people who are reliable and dependable, and friendships often change as a result becasue no one will be able to match your excitement for this day but you. But it seems like you want to give your friend a chance which is fine. Once she knows her duties (and its up to you to define the lines) you HAVE TO HOLD her to them, and if she doesn't then you can make a very fair decision to not let her participate in that manner. She may be better in another, smaller role who knows? Shoot many people don't discover that their bestest friend is unreliable until way after the fact, so you can get a step ahead. Best wishes.
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