Delicate invitation problem

Hello, all! Hope you don't mind; I've been reading this forum for a week or so, and thought I'd come out of hiding and ask a question.

Regarding invitations: I have several cousins who we will be inviting to our daughter's wedding, and some of them have married sons/daughters, whose weddings we've attended. So: do we invite just the cousins, or their married children, also? It just seems like so much of a money-grab to double-invite members of a family...this is so new to me, I'm very curious what the conventional wisdom is. Also, they'd be having to travel, so I'm not sure it's fair to ask the newly married ones.

I just don't want to make it seem like I'm inviting the whole world; it feels like a gift or money-grab to me. Help, please?

Welcome, Glitter!

When I receive a wedding invitation, I never feel like it's a gift-grab. As I've said in this forum before, every guest list has a "cut-off", and I feel honored to have "made the cut".

As far as whether or not to invite the children of your cousins, I think you should do whatever you want to do. Was your daughter invited to and did she attend their weddings? The answer to that might help you decide. Or, perhaps you could ask the cousins if they think their married children would like to be invited, or would an invitation make them feel bad (because of not being to come) or be too much of a financial burden to make the trip.

For my syster's wedding I sent invitations to some cousins who I knew would not be able to come. But I also let one member of that family branch know (and asked him to pass on the info) that although we would be thrilled if they could come, we knew they probably wouldn't be able to, and we understood -- and please don't send a gift -- that we were sending them invitations because they mean so much to us, etc.

Invite everyone. even if they are not coming. SOme people are greatly offended when they don't get their own invite. You don't want them to feel overlooked!

But what if they DO show up? I think it's bollocks to invite 'em all. You cut that list down girl and send them all an announcement. If you are feeling guilty send them a favor as well.