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A Dose of Haterade

A got a call from a "so-called friend" yesterday. We fell out a few weeks ago because of He said/She said mess. The last time we spoke, I told her not to call me with that mess. When she called yesterday and apologized for "running her mouth" and told me that she considered me a "true friend".( I always gave her advice, encouragement, and tried to help her build her self-esteem).

Then, she went on to say that I can do better than my FH. She says that he said horrible things about me, denied being in a relationship with me, and "tried to holler at everything in our company", including her. All of this supposedly happened about a month ago. (If this is true, why is she just now telling me?). The conversation ended because she had "a call coming in and I'll call you back). I haven't heard from her since.

After that, I got angry. FH and I got into a big argument. Then, I remembered what a Latina female in Miami told me the night before. "Always keep yourself pretty, keep your man satisfied, and don't let skanky whores ruin your marriage". (I don't know why she told me this, we didn't know each other).

The last few times "friend" called, her conversation was full of negativity and drama. I have come to the conclusion that she is drunk from Haterade. What do you think?

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A Dose of Haterade

A got a call from a "so-called friend" yesterday. We fell out a few weeks ago because of He said/She said mess. The last time we spoke, I told her not to call me with that mess. When she called yesterday and apologized for "running her mouth" and told me that she considered me a "true friend".( I always gave her advice, encouragement, and tried to help her build her self-esteem).

Then, she went on to say that I can do better than my FH. She says that he said horrible things about me, denied being in a relationship with me, and "tried to holler at everything in our company", including her. All of this supposedly happened about a month ago. (If this is true, why is she just now telling me?). The conversation ended because she had "a call coming in and I'll call you back). I haven't heard from her since.

After that, I got angry. FH and I got into a big argument. Then, I remembered what a Latina female in Miami told me the night before. "Always keep yourself pretty, keep your man satisfied, and don't let skanky whores ruin your marriage". (I don't know why she told me this, we didn't know each other).

The last few times "friend" called, her conversation was full of negativity and drama. I have come to the conclusion that she is drunk from Haterade. What do you think?

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She just may be jealous. She is unhappy and want you to be unhappy. Just like the lady told you keep people out of your business. Especially females. When she calls back try to add more drama, just stop her before she starts. I wouldnt even let her put any negative thoughts in my mind, and especially wouldnt let her create problems between mw and my fh.

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Platinum,
Always remember this...pick & choose your battles wisely. I'm saying this to say, she's trash!! Point blank!!I agree, she's jealous of your relationship, where you are in life, etc.

I agree w/housewife. Stop her in her tracks when she calls back. no need to argue w/your FH about her as it's only causing unnecessary strife in your relationship. In the end, it's ALL about FH & yourself!! She fits nowhere in the equation! Let it go....

Drop her like a hot potato & keep it moving. In the end...last laugh's on you.

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Plat, sorry you had to go through this bullnish. I agree with what the ladies said here. She is most definately jealous!!!!

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Plat, there have been 2 great inventions: the internet and Caller ID. I had to tell my own mother that I refuse to talk to negative people (family members) and people that are looking to make me as miserable as they are. Don't even ackwoledge her anymore,you don't have to answer her when she calls ot you can tell her if "if it is negative you can hang up now". It is obvious she is not your true friend and means you no good. Sometimes we have to let go of friends and family that we care about so that we can have peace!

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I agree with what all of the ladies said here. Many of you know the nonsense that I had to deal with recently right here on this site. Thank goodness that my husband and I have a strong relationship and no one or nothing can come between us. We refuse to let anyone outside of our world upset our happy home. We are very happy and choose to remain that way. After all as MrsRobinson2be said, it is all about my husband and I anyway. People will bring their negativity to you. It is completely up to you how to react to it. I say ignore it and don't entertain the nonsense. Be encouraged Platinum and don't let anyone upset you with petty foolishness anymore. Be encouraged.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

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Man I'm sorry to hear about your drama. I agree with the brides, this "friend" is getting what she wants by making your upset. Ignore ingnorance.. thats my motto

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Plat! This is JUST A TEST!

Its just her last minute attempt to bust your marriage up. Keep moving with wedding as planned. Forgive, and don't forget. She will eat her own shoes when she sees you are moving on as planned, and that you are still happy.

One thing too, that Latina is RIGHT! Be EVERYTHING to your man...Be EVERY WOMAN to your man, that way, when another woman comes around, he won't be surprised to see something that you have not already done for him, said sweetly to him, cooked for him, or done anything to please him.

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Ladies, please also pray for me too! I hit a major bump in the road last night and I don't know which way to turn. I'm very hurt, upset & confused right now - my head and my heart are spinning right about now. I know this is probably another test, but dammit I'm tired of tests!!!! Please keep me in your prayers - God knows I really need it.

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This doesn't seem like it's about the squirrel situation....Is it something else?!?


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Yes, it's something else between me, FH and the devil.

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Well listen, whatever the situation...I will bow my head in prayer for you RIGHT NOW!
Whatever the case or circumstance TRUST and belive that God can handle it. Tell the devil to step BEHIND you, you don't need any of that mess in your life trying to destroy your happiness. Not now, not ever!


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I will touch and agree with the ladies on this site on your behalf as well! Put the devil behind you. You and your FH move forward. Understand that the devil is against families and has been since the beginning; he will try anything to destroy our families. He has no power! We come against him in the Name of Jesus! Be encouraged Askalot, it will be alright.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

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Thank you ladies. I told my mother and FH that I'm not sure about the wedding anymore. I'm going to pray on it. Thanks again for your words of encouragement. I'd rather get kicked in my ass by a donkey than to have heartache.

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You are welcomed, you are not alone my friend.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

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Askalot just hang in there I am sure everything would be just fine. I will continue to keep you in my prayers, and just remember if you need someone to help you kick some behinds just halla!!!~

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lol house - You know I'd call you girl! lol

Update: FH handled the situation. And he handled it in a way I didn't think he would do! God I love that man!!!!!!

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Good, Askalot you "sound" a lot better!

House you are too funny!

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

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Rhony, I feel sooooooooooo much better!!!!! Glory be to God!! I had to really understand what you ladies say all the time. The devil IS a liar!!!!! I claimed it and now I'm letting God do His work! Thanks again ladies!!! :-)

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Glad to see you feeling better.

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Thanks house.

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Me too! We love you Askalot.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

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Thanks for your advice and your prayers. I haven't heard from that "trick" since that day and I don't plan to call her. I have three months until my wedding day and I don't need the necessary drama. Rhony, thank you for reminding me that you have recently dealt with a similiar situation. Bumblebee, thank you for reminding me that this is a test. Askalot, I along with the other sistas will hold your hand in prayer. There is strength in numbers! Ladies, please continue to pray for us!

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Will do Plat! I am glad you are encouraged!

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

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SeptBride wrote:
Rhony, I feel sooooooooooo much better!!!!! Glory be to God!! I had to really understand what you ladies say all the time. The devil IS a liar!!!!! I claimed it and now I'm letting God do His work! Thanks again ladies!!! :-)

Askalot, I'm so glad you're feeling better. I just got back on the site and read this thread. My heart skipped a beat when i saw you were upset. Doesn't it feel good to know that FH can still surprise you with his love? Praise God!


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Yes, indeedy! lol