DW Bride's Blog

Hello!

This is my blog. (Warning: I change my mind on things very often!)

The proposal: May 7, 2006 2am Philadelphia (Philly), PA. We went to a Black Tie Gala and had a wonderful time! We got back to the hotel room and I was taking off my shoes, my feet hurt from dancing. He sat down on the bed, pulled the gray velvet box out of his pocket and said, "marry me". When he asked I was in shock! (Earlier that night I told him that when he finally asked me I was going to say no because he was taking to long!) I said "Oh my God" and "Are you serious" about 50 times before I said yes.

Things done so far: Our wedding date is 02/27/2009. We are going to get married at Beaches Sandy Bay Resort in Negril Jamaica. We recieved the Save the Date Magnets and have our website. The magnets will be addressed tonight and sent out tomorrow. Our colors will be Coral and Beige. My three sisters will be my Maitrens of Honor and my best friend will be my Maid of Honor. I found a BM dress I like but I am thinking of letting them choose their own, due to body types.

Things I hate: Do any of you deal with haters? I have someone who told me that she didn't know why I got magnets or a website. "Black people ain't gonna look at no website. They don't care where you are registered. They are gonna buy a gift from where they want to get it." This is why I don't like to talk about it.

Thank you ladies!!

I love the support given here.

POSITIVE VIBES!!!!

I think some people are not that classy and just don't know what's nice and what is not nice.

I love the fact that we are getting married in Jamaica. If everyone can't make it, I will still be happy.

All of you ladies are right!

Why should I waste my time on these people if they really don't care?

Copper~ We're Movin' on up! (I don't know how I missed that the last time!)

Septbride~ I will have to keep that in my pocket, so I can throw it out at that person. "Sorry to hear you feel that way but you're not invited anyway". LOL

Rhonda~ It is about us. That is true.

I guess sometimes I feel obligated to ask people because they are cousins, aunts, etc. If it's a friend I haven't spoken to in a longtime then I feel like I don't have to invite them but I fell like I do with family. I have a family of cousins, there are five of them from this family. But there are two of them i don't want to ask to come. How do I ask their siblings and not them?

Well ladies my home computer is dead, so I will get back with you all on Monday 12/04/06!!!! Until then POSITIVE VIBES!

I didn't get too much of anything done this weekend. My FH is dragging his feet on the addresses for the Save The Date Magnets. He is driving me up the wall. He's always like "we have time"... Geeze! I went to a Holiday Concert yesterday with my son while my daughter was a play rehersal. It was really nice!

I spoke to our travel agent today. She left her agency and started her own business. So I got all of her updated information. It's a pain in the butt because we can not reserve anything because it is too far in advance! She wants us to figure out what resort we want to go to after the ceremony.

FH and I are talking about moving in together. I am a little afraid. Also, I don't like his mean cat! I really don't want her in my house. But how do I tell him that? He's had her for almost 8 years, longer than he has known me. She always hisses at me. I loved cats but she made me change my mind (at least about her).

I have to get my wisdom teeth pulled Friday, so I am not to happy about that, but my pain will be gone!

That's it for now! :)

That cat is something else. She's all nice and stuff when she wants to be fed. She will come over to me and rub all up on my leg. Once I give her some attention she'll go to her bowl to show me there is no food in it. So then I feed her (everytime like a dummy). After she eats I will try to pet her but she hisses at me. So now I don't feed her. I tell him, your cat is hungry. And I keep my distance from her. There are times she will jump in my lap so I can pet her then there are time she will hide when she sees me. I don't need to deal with no feline like that.

I tell him that she is "funny acting". He says she's getting old and that is why she is that way. He's had her since she was about 3 weeks old. He had to bottle feed her. So she thinks he is her dad.

But she doesn't "act funny" around him! I am so serious, this cat is smart. He will tell her to get in the window and she does. He tells her to get off the bed and she does. She really understands what people say to her.

She never tries to hurt me or anything. I figure if they move in she will just stay away from me.

[quote="coppertone"]Does your FH know about his tempermental feline? ( I do mean the cat) I mean how she treats you?
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Hey!!! How did you know I was tempermental?!?! LOL (I know I'm late, kind of slow!)

And I will keep you all posted.

Tajmom~ I am cracking up right now (about that cat)! You are right about the guests. I may want to wait awhile before I make a guest list. I also figure that the save the dates will keep the haters away. I will know that these people don't care or don't want to be there. Also, there are people who do go to weddings just for the food and the party. FH agrees with "my day my way" but I always say "but it's family". He tells me often that blood does not give someone "family rights". You have to act like family too.

Last night FH and I went to our pre-marital counseling and it was great. I had a huge break through! I realized why I don't like to answer his questions. In my first marriage my husband was abusive, so I had to watch the way I would answer questions because his mood may change. I know FH would NEVER put his hands on me or talk down to me but that is what I learned from my prior relationship. I learned how to be defensive and to protect myself by any means. A light bulb came on in my head, I feel great today, like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders!

Thank you ladies. I am happy to know that my FH did not react to me in a negative way when I was not being responsive to him. He stated lastnight that he knew I was being that way because of my ex-husband and this is why he wanted us to get counseling. (He also said he has issues that he needs to work on too.)

It is a wonderful thing (a break through).

(Said like JJ from Good Times) "Well you know, what can I say..."

All jokes aside, I am so happy that I found him and that I waited after I left my first husband to learn about "me" before I got in to another relationship. I got to know my FH, before we started "really" dating. I asked a lot of questions, I wanted to make sure I was not going back in to the same thing. I did a lot of praying during that time.

[quote="DaughterRhonda"]I think God loves when we have alone time with him. We are not really able to love anyone else until we can love ourselves.

I know that's right Copper!!!!
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I totally agree too! We are blessed so much more once He sees that love Him and are loyal to Him.

I think the holidays play a part in why everyone is so happy, but that's ok! We (people) need this. Everything is so negative that this is a breath of fresh air. I wish that everyone knew "the reason for the season". Many people are just in to the gifts this time of year. It's nice to have/know people who really care.....

AMEN! (lol)

I've been gone for a few days. I got all of my wisdom teeth pulled on friday. I recovered very well. No swelling, very little pain.

FH and I spoke about the cat deal. He asked me what my concerns would be if he moved in with me. I told him that I did not want the "cat" in my room. He asked how was I going to make that happen. I told him, We will keep the door shut. I told him my reason for this is because she gets cat hair all on stuff. She just likes to lay around on stuff and gets her hair all on it. He said he would have to see how he feels about that.

I just don't want her there. she likes to lay all in the bed and on the pillows and gets hair all on the floor. Then when she eats to fast she throws up and I don't want to deal with that. And her litter stinks! Yuck!! (You may not believe it but when I was a little girl I LOVED cats! Still like them but I don't want one.)

We still haven't sent out the save-the-date magnets. I figured I will send them out after the New Year. It will be a good way to start off the year and it won't seem so far away, it will be about 25 months.

Those are my thoughts for now!

Thanks Empress!

Didn't think of it that way Aija, Thanks!

I had my son's b-day party over the weekend. His (bum) dad was supposed to come but said he could not make it cause the drive is too long and he would be driving with no sleep. I told him to go home and go to sleep and leave in the morning. Everytime I gave him a solution to his "issue" he came up with something else. My son had a great time with out him. FH was fuming that BD (baby daddy) didn't show up.

My daughter had her play over the weekend too. They has three shows, it was really nice.

Other than that not too much going on. Christmas shopping is getting on my nerves cause I don't know what to buy and the people working in the stores seem to be getting more rude every year!!!