Has anyone ever heard of "substituting" a guest. This is when a guest that you invite can't come so someone else decides to bring so and so in their place. I also had this happen to me. I guess it really wasn't that bad, but if your looking for "John" to come and where he should be,"Chris" is, you may feel a certain type of way. I don't know about you ladies, but not being able to invite "everyone" puts you in a position to pick and choose. And then when the one's you invite say they're coming and then don't show up kinda pisses you off ( sorry Rosetta), because you could have invited someone else in their place. This happened to me without any knowledge to either my MOH or MOB. We got to the recpt. and there they stood. Ladies be prepared for whatever happens, but keep in mind this is only one day and as long as the man you love is there, that's all that matters.. . .Didn't mean to make anyone panic, just wanted to keep you open to all the little things that can happen. Beleive me whatever happens, you'll still be a beautiful bride and everything will be fine.
Has anyone ever heard of "substituting" a guest. This is when a guest that you invite can't come so someone else decides to bring so and so in their place. I also had this happen to me. I guess it really wasn't that bad, but if your looking for "John" to come and where he should be,"Chris" is, you may feel a certain type of way. I don't know about you ladies, but not being able to invite "everyone" puts you in a position to pick and choose. And then when the one's you invite say they're coming and then don't show up kinda pisses you off ( sorry Rosetta), because you could have invited someone else in their place. This happened to me without any knowledge to either my MOH or MOB. We got to the recpt. and there they stood. Ladies be prepared for whatever happens, but keep in mind this is only one day and as long as the man you love is there, that's all that matters.. . .Didn't mean to make anyone panic, just wanted to keep you open to all the little things that can happen. Beleive me whatever happens, you'll still be a beautiful bride and everything will be fine.
I've learned that
people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but
people will never forget how you made them feel."
- Maya Angelou
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I know exactly what you mean. At my reception I expected to see the person that the guests indicated would be coming with them -- instead as you say "substitutes" came. For the ones that say they're coming, please be decent enough to just say you cannot attend -- instead of just not showing up.
Blessed be the Lord my strength ......
No need to apologize,jasnigel. That was the appropriate response. My cousin couldn't come and she sent her friends instead. People I didn't even know. Dinner was $150 a head. I think they should send apologies, then don't send anyone else. I mean they came empty handed too! :/
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HOW UNCOUTH!!!......people actually show up to weddings and they do not know the bride nor groom....LORD HAVE MERCY...have we really lost our minds????. I know you are to expect some surprises on that day but this is way too much...I've had friends tell me to go with them to so and so party or wedding...but where in the world I going stepping up and don't know the people, I just can not do it. That leads me right back to my point of indicating how many are invited and request RSVP's on/or before a specific date.....I KNOW I KNOW..there will still be a few hick-ups but by insisting on a response may keep them to a minimum.. I JUST CAN NOT BELIEVE SOMEONE WOULD SHOW UP TO A WEDDING WITHOUT KNOWING THE PEOPLE.....What next! Rosetta, $150!!!!!!!!! listen at that amount they would have needed an invitation just to get thru the corner to come to my wedding....NO FREE LOADING THERE...$150.00 ain no little bit of money, and you gan send ya friend (ya'll gat me speaking all kinda broken english up in here)...I don't think so sweet girl.
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Rosetta, I was upset when people showed up at my reception as "substitutes" for $92 per person, and without any gifts no doubt. Girl at $150.00 per person, I would have been fuming.
Blessed be the Lord my strength ......
What the heck is wrong with people??? I can't even imagine Rosetta. My wedding is right around the corner and you all are keeping me on my toes. I know I will not be able to stop someone from attending in another person's place, but people need to realize that they are just plain WRONG!!
I don't even know what to say? Why would anyone thing that was ok? I strongly believe in RSVP and if your name is not on the list then I'm sorry we haven't made arrangements for you. That's just it. No exceptions. I am not going to be upset on my day because of someone else's decisions!!! Bad decisions!!!
Oh no! Prior to this post I have never heard of this. I would rather someone send an apology if they couldn't make it. That is the considerate thing to do.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Eitther that or have one of your ghetto relatives tell them to leave....ha! but seriously it would not be the right thing to do...on both sides.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
[quote="CharlotteModebe"]Eitther that or have one of your ghetto relatives tell them to leave....ha!
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Charly too funny! LOL
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
As bad as that sounds Rony...some people deserve getting shame for stepping out of line.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
[quote="CharlotteModebe"]As bad as that sounds Rony...some people deserve getting shame for stepping out of line.
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LOL!!!! I agree with you whole heartedly!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I was forewarned by brides to just enjoy the day. People will just show up and they'll just sit where others were supposed to because others didn't show up. I'm not going to worry on it. I'll try to nip as many things as possible beforehand. Trust me I've started that already.
Respectful people will ask you if they can substitute and they won't get upset if you tell them no and explain that you have a waiting list.
God is good all the time and all the time God is good
Good advice Marshine!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I totally agree also - try to control but if all else fales just enjoy your day.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
So true ladies!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
It's difficult but at least try !
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I'm gonna take the advice given in another post and send out reception info after i receive the RSVP. I also like Marshine's idea about gently informing people who want to substitute about a waiting list. I have a small gorup of close knit friends and coworkers so the only dates will be spouses and domestic partners, no "we're just dating" couples.