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I have been speaking with several members of my bridal party. They all seem to have the same questions. How are the groomsmen, are they cute? Are they single? Don't have me walking with no ugly, busted man? My bridal party has never met my FH's groomsmen. I want my bridal party to understand that this is not a singles event. They have not been asked to participate in our wedding in the hopes that they would make a love connection. These questions keep coming up. I have told my friends that they only have to walk with these guys for a period of about 10 minutes, between the ceremony and the reception. I just want them to do this for me without any problems. I am afraid that once they met my FHs groomsmen, that the grief will kick into high gear. Have any of you ladies had to deal with this?

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I have been speaking with several members of my bridal party. They all seem to have the same questions. How are the groomsmen, are they cute? Are they single? Don't have me walking with no ugly, busted man? My bridal party has never met my FH's groomsmen. I want my bridal party to understand that this is not a singles event. They have not been asked to participate in our wedding in the hopes that they would make a love connection. These questions keep coming up. I have told my friends that they only have to walk with these guys for a period of about 10 minutes, between the ceremony and the reception. I just want them to do this for me without any problems. I am afraid that once they met my FHs groomsmen, that the grief will kick into high gear. Have any of you ladies had to deal with this?

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

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Rony ...to be honest with you this is the norm, I have done it myself when I stood in weddings. Let's be honest no one wants to stand with someone ugly but then that is the chance you take when you agree to stand in a wedding, I was lucky, I always got the fabulous guys...your girls will settle down becuase there is nothing they can do with about it...trust me, so relax.

Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.

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I agree with Charly, don't stress. They are just running their mouths right now, but when the day comes, they will have to stand with who ever you put them with. Don't think for one minute that the groomsmen is not asking those same questions about your bm's to the groom.

I've walked with cute guys and ugly guys, and we always made jokes when I got stuck with the ugly ones.

I don't have this problem because the whole bridal party (20 of us) are friends, so all of the groomsmen know all of the bridesmaids already. I only have two bm's that don't know the groomsmen, and those two have asked me if there was any single groomsmen. Unfortunately, all of the groomsmen are married or in serious relationships, but if they wasn't, I would love to play matchmaker:)

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Thanks ladies for your input. I'm glad see that this is "normal". All of the groomsmen are single, one is in the process of getting a divorce. One of the bestmen is married. If a love connection happens fine.

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LOL!!! Sorry had to laugh! Cause you know, I've heard one of your BM's say it!

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Are you kidding...that's the highlight of standing in a wedding---the hook-up! LOL!

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[quote="phenomonique"]LOL!!! Sorry had to laugh! Cause you know, I've heard one of your BM's say it!
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Niquey I know you did, but now that seems to be the question that all of them are asking! (LOL)

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Rony how about you have a attendants meeting really soon so everyone will be aquainted there. This will let the women as well as the men know who is in the wedding,and trust me by the way they associate with each other you will know how to line them up to walk down the aisle.
I havent had this problem because all my attendant are family,with the exception of 1 groomsman, and everyone knows each other already.I can see how your bridesmaids feel and I'm sure the groomsmen feel the same way too.

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Excellent idea Allies, I want to give a barbecue at our house in the near future. All of the ladies, with the exception of one know everyone in the bridal party. I want to introduce the bridal party to FHs groomsmen and as you say we will know how to pair up the bridesmaids. The MOHs don't have a choice and it's really funny because both of the MOHs have told me not to put them with short men and both of the Best Men are short!!! This is going to be hilarious.

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[quote="alvinslove"]This will let the women as well as the men know who is in the wedding,and trust me by the way they associate with each other you will know how to line them up to walk down the aisle.
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That may be a little hard to control because you will have to pair then up by their height. You definitely can not put a 6' woman with a 5' man - even if they fell in love at the BBQ.

Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.

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[quote="CharlotteModebe"]That may be a little hard to control because you will have to pair then up by their height. You definitely can not put a 6' woman with a 5' man - even if they fell in love at the BBQ.
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LOL!!!! You're twisted girl!!

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Yeah girl...the medication soon kick in thou lol!

Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.

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HAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! Charly let me tell you, my sister (one of the MOHs) is 5'8" without heals. Both of the best men are 5'0'!!!! What is a sista to do????? The other MOH is about 5'2" so that won't look too funny. But yall pray for me because I know they are going to cut me up big time when this is all over (LOL)!!

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Yeah girl I would cut you too...but I would wait until you come down of that high....lol

But seriously they may have to wear flats especially if they are consciense of the height difference

Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.

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[quote="CharlotteModebe"]Yeah girl I would cut you too...but I would wait until you come down of that high....lol

But seriously they may have to wear flats especially if they are consciense of the height difference
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Haaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!! I will suggest the flats though, but ultimately I will leave it up to them.

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That's is a great question. I have to asked the bride if the groomsmen were cute and if they're single. It is just the way things run at the wedding. I have even dated 1 of the groomsmen from my bestfreinds wedding.

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Thats true Charley.All of my female attendants are short like me,I think the tallest is 5'4'' and the other 2 are 5'2'' and 5' even.As for the male attendants, they are all taller than the females.I think the shortest is like 5'7'' and the tallest is 6'. FH and I are really that different in hieght.He's 5'5 and I'm 5'2.If I put on heels we are almost the same height.But since I cant really walk well in heels I probably wont wear anything too high.I have bad experiences with heels.....

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You know I am learning to laugh at this whole situation. It is really funny. I can't wait to see my wedding pictures. I am going to have a talk with the ladies and tell them to "look" happy for the pictures (lol)!!!! These are my wedding pictures and I don't want anything on them but happy, smiling people!

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No. Everyone in my bp is married except for 3.

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[quote="TonyaLanette"]No. Everyone in my bp is married except for 3.
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Being married is a blessing! As far as the other three, do they know each other?

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NO. Two are divorced. One is a player with a live in girlfriend.

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Those 2 divorcees will not only get the hook up but I bet they will catch the bouquet....watch!

Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.

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Ya never know!

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Wedding - hook-up central :-)

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LOL!

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37