Hi Everybody-
I'm new to Vibride! Got engaged a few weeks ago to my sweetie of 4 years. My dilemma, at this point, is choosing bridesmaids. I never thought about it over the years, but as marriage seemed more imminent, I did think about it over a year ago and knew it would be tough! I know everyone's situation is different, so here's mine: So far, I feel like I have TWO DEFINITES (both college friends of mine). I'm inclined to make them both the maids of honors because they know me pretty well, have great style taste, are dependable, trustworthy and could spend the cash on the bridesmaids "supplies". Now I want to choose another 2 to 3 more. I've read a number of lists of what makes a good bridesmaid, but what about who NOT to include and under what circumstances?
I feel like I know 2 people on my potential bridesmaid list that are questionable simply because if I didn't choose them, then feelings would be hurt...although at least one of them may not vocalize it to me.
Any and all advice is welcome!!!
big thanks,
wifeytobe
Hi Everybody-
I'm new to Vibride! Got engaged a few weeks ago to my sweetie of 4 years. My dilemma, at this point, is choosing bridesmaids. I never thought about it over the years, but as marriage seemed more imminent, I did think about it over a year ago and knew it would be tough! I know everyone's situation is different, so here's mine: So far, I feel like I have TWO DEFINITES (both college friends of mine). I'm inclined to make them both the maids of honors because they know me pretty well, have great style taste, are dependable, trustworthy and could spend the cash on the bridesmaids "supplies". Now I want to choose another 2 to 3 more. I've read a number of lists of what makes a good bridesmaid, but what about who NOT to include and under what circumstances?
I feel like I know 2 people on my potential bridesmaid list that are questionable simply because if I didn't choose them, then feelings would be hurt...although at least one of them may not vocalize it to me.
Any and all advice is welcome!!!
big thanks,
wifeytobe
Hi Wifeytobe,
I would say choose your sisters, close cousins, good friends from your church, or two other good friends of yours.
I know my Bridesmaids are on a budget so I bought their shoes as a gift.
Congratulations!
Welcome wifeytobe, hi KL! There is a great post about how many bridesmaids Click Here to go to the post. We also have an article about that very same subject Selecting Your Bridesmaids. KL you are spot on! They should be IMPORTANT to you and in your life. Also don't make your best friends get into debt because they are in your wedding. Think fugally. You are the focus after all! lol
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I agree with both KL and Rosetta.... My bridesmaids are between the ages 10 to 17. I felt that was the safest way to not hurt anyones feelings. The dresses are cheaper because the sizes are smaller. Most of my friends felt they were to old to be bridesmaids. I am 28 and most of my friends are in their early 30's. So, my maid of honor is my cousin who is 21 and my matron of honor is 31. So, my motto during this whole process is be considerate of those who you are asking to be in your wedding party. Bridesmaid are generally young so I took that literally. Pick who you want to pick if their feelings are hurt then you need to question that friendship because she should be happy for you. Anyway, maybe she can be a hostess at the reception, or an usher before the ceremony. There are so many different positions. My wedding is in Aug 13 2005.
Nikky29
My FI doesn't contribute much re: our upcoming wedding but he was very adamant about having 9bm/gm in our wedding party. The reasoning behind this is b/c we've been together 9yrs and he wanted the "couples" to make up each year we've been together. To make it easier on myself choosing 9 people, I thought of those who be (among other things) responsible to get things I needed done. With that said, I chose co-workers, my FI's sisters, my sister, and very close friends.
Wedding Date: March 11, 2006
Wedding Location: Gainesville, FL
Colors: Pink, Silver & Ivory
Wedding Party: 9bridesmaids/groomsmen, 2flowergirls, 1ringbearer & 1bride attendant
Honeymoon Destination: 7-day cruise (Western Carribean)
I also had the same problem because when we got engaged we still had about a year and a half before the wedding, which left plenty of room for people to add and subtract themselves. There is still a big issue because my wedding is this summer and my mom thinks I should put my fiance's sisters in the wedding. He has three sisters and I have three sisters and I also wanted my cousin and my good friend in the wedding. There was no way I could put all of them people in a wedding that only 100 people will be attending. So what I did was just had my sisters and my cousin and my good friend. You need to have some people around you that will keep you laughing and happy. Not those people that are going to complain about everything. People that you are comfortable with. That's what brought me to my final conclusion.
Wekcome to vibride newbies! That said, waltswifey, your fiance is so cute! How romantic is it to have them represent your years together? danamckenz, ok my SIL had me as her maid of honor and 6 BM/GM a flowergirl and a ring bearer and 12 people attending her cruise wedding! I thought that would be over the top but her pics looked amazing! LOL So, 12 Attendants for a100 guests really doesn't seem that bead now does it? We both know you will get at least 50 more people crashing!
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