How do I word it?

You can say: "RSVP will be accepted No Later than (date)"

Please be advised that any replies received after...... will not be accepted. I totally understand what you mean and it's hard to get people to understand the importance of RSVP.

I for one want to include that under no circumstances would anyone be allowed in the church once the ceremony begins. my wedding will begin at 4pm sharp so they must be in and seated by 3:45.

[quote="PureBliss"]I for one want to include that under no circumstances would anyone be allowed in the church once the ceremony begins. my wedding will begin at 4pm sharp so they must be in and seated by 3:45.
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I am not saying you will be late but what happens in the event that you are??? What you should say is "guest must be seated 15 minutes prior to beginning of ceremony"...I think that gives you some flak time for incidentals.

Hey Askalot I agree with Charly's suggestion, you really can't get any clearer than that. In any event, I wish you all the best with this one. (Smile)

Great suggestions ladies!

Someone had this on their RSVP:
If you do not respond you lose your seat.

[quote="SeptBride"]Well, I can tell you right now, there are gonna be some surprised people at this wedding. Because I'm sticking to my word.
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Good for you Askalot!

I understand you wanting to stick to your wording but I do not want you to be 100% focus on something you can not 100% control because your major role is being the Bride - if you worry about this so much especially during your wedding - you will miss out on everything and before you know it ceremony will be over and you would have been marriage. My strong suggestion to you is seriously talk to your host and hostesses and enforce what you want and how you feel....that's the best you can do unless you are going to stand by the door and enforce it yourself.

Septbride, I'm there with you and understand exactly what you mean.

Listen here ladies...do not get me wrong, I am not saying do not worry - I am saying tell your people who suppose to be controlling this event WHAT YOU WANT AND HOW YOU WANT IT WITH NO EXCEPTIONS.....after that trust them to handle it and focus on your day.....I know you are paying but if you sit looking at the door and getting mad because someone MAY get in who is not suppose to be there then you will not enjoy your day...trust your hostessess to handle it.

I know what you mean as far as the rsvp's because my family is the same way. FH and I decided that if they don't rsvp, then they won't have a place card. They will just have to wait until everyone is seated, and if they get a seat, then good, if not, then oh well! Shoulda rsvp'd!

We are having a sit down meal, and I know there are going to be a few people who rsvp, but still don't show, so hopefully it will work itself out. In the event that everyone who rsvp's does show, then those people who showed up without rsvp'ing will not get a plate. In their eyes, that may be rude, but who's fault is it that they didn't rsvp, not ours! That even goes for invited guests who rsvp for 1 person, but then bring a guest thinking "it's not big deal". They'll see how big of a deal it is when their guest doesn't have a seat or meal.

This is exactly what my parents,FH & I agreed on. People have to understand the importance of the RSVP. I feel that if you make it clear with the invitation then it's up to them to do what is asked if they plan to attend. Don't get me wrong but I'm not going to worrying about it on my wedding day it's just frustrating and reality is some people just don't get it.

People are just like that - try do what you can do and put it in bold on the invitation and hope they follow instructions....other than that just enjoy your wedding.

Good for you Askalot, it sounds like your cousin/close friend hostesses will be on duty! I'm sure it will work out just fine, and for those stragglers, they are in for a rude awakening!

B2B, gurl you ain't no joke!!!! LOL

I understand how hard it is to get people to understand and respect your wises but honestly sometimes you just have to get stupid so they can see you are serious - especially if you are a person that smile alot and people take you for granted.

[quote="CharlotteModebe"]I understand how hard it is to get people to understand and respect your wises but honestly sometimes you just have to get stupid so they can see you are serious - especially if you are a person that smile alot and people take you for granted.
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And I am one of those people who smile alot, and people always take me for granted, so uninvited guests, and non-rsvp'ers are in for a rude awakening.

They will be mad at you and even call you some not so nice names but hey! at least your not going to have an additional bill ah! ha!

How about my so called "coordinator" just invited her daughter. The reason I called her "so called" is because she is a friend of my mother who offered to coordinate free of charge, but she hasn't really done anything. I have done everything, and I don't mind because I am not paying her to do anything. I just figured I would keep in touch with her and keep her updated to make her feel like she is a part of it, and I know even though she isn't doing anything now, she will be a huge help on the wedding day.

With that said, she sent me a long email the other day talking about wedding stuff, but she slid in the email, "oh, by the way, my daughter wants to come.....I'll pay for her though because you shouldn't have to pay for her". That really pissed me off. For one, I don't even know her daughter, as a matter of fact, I didn't even know she had one! For two, as a coordinator, shouldn't you know how rude it is to just invite someone to a wedding, especially when the guest doesn't even know the bride or groom?

It is not even about the money. It's just the principal. I already have guest list issues, and she knows that. My hall holds a maximum of 220 people, and I am already over that amount on my guest list.

Instead of just being straight forward and telling her "no", I told her she would have to wait for me to get an accurate count. She had the nerve to say, "It should work out because everyone won't show anyway". That's not my friggin point! For the amount of people who don't show, I'll have non-rsvp'ers and guests who bring unexpected dates to make up for them.

I just don't understand people. I WOULD not want to attend a wedding where I don't know either the bride or groom. It's different when you come as someone's guest, but her daughter wouldn't be considered her guest because her husband is her guest.

I am not real petty, so if space allows, her daughter can come, and I won't make her pay for daughter's meal, but I just don't see the point of her being there when we don't know each other.

Sorry, I got way of topic. This post was just supposed to be a couple of sentences, but I guess I am more pissed off about it than I thought I was. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

No B2B you are not wrong. The nerve!

LOL!!! -- Too Funny!!!

Girl I tell you what....You can guarantee there will be no crashers at your wedding if I was your hostess...straight up!

[quote="CharlotteModebe"]Girl I tell you what....You can guarantee there will be no crashers at your wedding if I was your hostess...straight up!
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HAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! I know that's right!!!!

The look on my face will tell them right away...Don't mess with this one!

[quote="CharlotteModebe"]The look on my face will tell them right away...Don't mess with this one!
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Too funny!

I am so serious...tired of people being rude and crashing and not rsvp'ing!

[quote="CharlotteModebe"]I am so serious...tired of people being rude and crashing and not rsvp'ing!
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I agree, this kind of stuff has to stop!! Gurl I would love to be a fly on the wall at your wedding -- LOL!!!

Trust me....girl ain't no stragglers will be up in there!