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How many is too many?

Just out of curiosity, how many attendants is to many? The largest wedding party I've seen was 38.

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How many is too many?

Just out of curiosity, how many attendants is to many? The largest wedding party I've seen was 38.

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THAT was too many. I know they looked like a church choir walking in. lol I think over 18 - 20 is too many

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OMG Niquey...That is far too many. That beats the wedding I went to not to long ago with 26. My opinion is 10-16 attendants is ideal. 17-20 is okay but pushing it. Anything over 20 is getting a lil' ghetto

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38!!!! THAT WAS A LONG WEDDING. i plan on having 14.

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Well I guess we are ghetto then! lol We have 10 girls, 10 guys, 2 fg's, a ring bearer & a broom bearer, totalling 24

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i would say no more than 15-16.Unless you want an orchestra.

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PURE BLISS ADD ME TO THE GHETTO LIST!!LOL. FH HAS A THEME GOING. WEDDING DATE IS 07/07/07 THERE ARE 7 GUYS AND 7 GIRLS. IT IS THE 7TH DAY OF THE WEEK. I HAD TO DRAW THE LINE AT 7 O'CLOCK. :) SERIOUSLY THOUGH HE PICKED 7 BECAUSE IT IS GOD'S PERFECT # AND WHAT BETTER REASON THAN THAT. OH YEAH, THERE ARE 3 FLOWER GIRLS A RING BEARER, BROOM BEARER, AND 2 CCORDINATORS. WHEW, YEAH I KNOW. REMEMBER LADIES, HE DID NOT HAVE A WEDDING 1ST TIME AROUND SO THIS IS HIS BABY.

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I'm only having a total of 12. However, my family is from South Carolina and they believe in having a big oversized wedding party. I went to my cousin's wedding last year and she had a whopping 42! Ladies by the time all of those people walked down the aisle, people were already worn out! For my family having a 30+ attendents is the norm. They will probably think I'm crazy with only 12.

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Over 20 is calling for some serious planning I don't know if I could deal with that and the different personalities whoa.Goodluck you ladies.lol

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That's a lot people to worry about. But I say go for it. My attendants consists of 9 attendants. 1 Maid,1 Matron, 1 BSTM, 1 GM, rb, 2 fg's(?), broom bearer, and a town crier (THE BRIDE IS COMING!!)

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These are all our close friends and family. We have had no problems thus far and don't anticipate any. My brother got married over the weekend and it was 18 of us in the wedding party and there was no problems at all. I think you choose your wedding party wisely to avoid potential personality conflicts.

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Septbride is sooo funny! Church Choir! lol....unfortunately, my FH wants a very small party so we have 4: MOH, Matron of Honor, Best Man and one groomsman....no flower girls, no brooms (he hates brooms), no ring bearer.....I compromised the bog wedding party for some other things so we're cool.

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LEE A BROOM BEARER IS SOMEONE WHO CARRIES THE BROOM OWN THE AISLE SO YOU WILL HAVE IT WHEN IT IS TIME TO JUMP THE BROOM. I EVEN HAVE A VERY SYMBOLIC PIECE FOR THE PASTOR TO SAY B4 WE JUMP. IF I WLD HV WON THE DEBATE :) WE WLD HAVE GOTTEN MARRIED ON AN ISLAND. PICTURE THIS LADIES; AS THE SUN IS SETTING I'M WALKING IN A FLOWING GOWN, BAREFOOT, FLOWER IN HAIR AS THE SKY IS VARIOUS SHADES OF PINK, PURPLE AND ORANGE. HE IS BAREFOOT. IN A LIGHT LINEN TYPE OUTFIT,SMILING. OK, I'M AWAKE AGAIN. ANYWHO-FH DID NOT HAVE A WEDDING THE 1ST TIME AROUND AND I DID. SO HE WANTS THE BI SHEBANG THIS TIME.

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I am going to have 1Maid of Honor, 3bridesmaids, 1 junior bridesmaid, 1 flower girl who will be position in a wagon pulled by an untitled little boy, lets just call him the wagon boy, a ring bearer, 1 best man, 3 groomsmen,1 junior groomsmen, and 2 angel girls. So about 15 people.

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A wagon boy........OMG LMAO sons very funny,how about 'escort'

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LOL. I thought escort sounds like a call girl or sex service.

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Point taken,looking at it from that point wagon boy songs better lol

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See! lol

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Good....I have a wedding party of 18) I thought have 8 BM'S and 8 GM'S, with 1 FG and 1 RB would be too much. I didn't want my wedding party to look like a parade, but I see that it's not so bad.

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Ain't nothin' wrong with a parade! (giggle)

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I'm not sure how it got this big but I have 22 people in the bridal party. 2 MOH, 4 BM, 4 Jr BM, 1 Best Man, 5 GM, and 4 Jr. GM, 1 FG and 1 RB. I didn't realize it was so big until i started looking for limos.

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It sure isnt. You pick people who are dear to you and who are responsible and dependable. I choose to have my wedding party a little smaller because I picked women who are my close friends the one's that I talk to on the phone everyday(4 or 5 times a day). Women who have been my friends before and since 6th grade. I didnt go the route of including my family because I have a huge family and just didnt want to offend anyone if I didnt ask them.

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My Youth Pastor had 20 BM, 20 GM, 5 FGs and 3 RB in her wedding in July. It took forever to get everyone down the aisle. It really was a production. I honestly think that anything over 40 is too much.

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BUMP!

Any parades this year?

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LOL @ you all calling it a parade, choir and orchestra.

Im only having 4 BM and 4GM
1 FG

Thats enough for me

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My party is small (?) I guess.
1-MOH, 2-bridesmaids, 1-BM, 2-Groomsmen, 1-FG, 1-BB (broom bearer) 1-town crier.

I wishe I could have had a bigger wedding party BUT on the cool the few I have is WORKING MY NERVES!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't imagine having to deal with 6, 8, or 10 of each!! :(

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I will be having 1-MOH, 1-Matron of Honor, 6 bridesmaids, 1-BM,6 GM, 1-JGM, 1-ring bearer,2 flower girl and a broom bearer. second flower girl and broom bearer will walk together, they are my kids (19 month and 3 years old)

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[quote="Bumblebeekee"]BUMP!

Any parades this year?
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Too funny Bumble!

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Mine is huge (22, I think)!!! LOL

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Mine is somewhat medium/large

1MOH
1Matron
3BM
1 Man of honor (my brother-stands on my side)
1 BM
7 GM (i think)
1 Woman of honor (his female best friend-stands on his side)
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Yup
1- MOH
8- Bridesmaids
1- Best Man
8- Groomsmen
2- FGs
1- RB

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US Wedding:
1 of each: MOH, BM, Jr. BM, FG, Best Man, GM

Zim Wedding:
13 BMs and GMs
5-6 FGs

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[quote="Musikana"]US Wedding:
1 of each: MOH, BM, Jr. BM, FG, Best Man, GM

Zim Wedding:
13 BMs and GMs
5-6 FGs
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Wow!!!!!!!!!!!! 13 of each!!! can't WAIT to see the pics!! :)

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Looks like the parades will be in full swing LOL!

You all should definitely be ready to keep your bridal party in line....even if it means you have to crack the whip!

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I would aim for enough people to go down that aisle in less than a few minutes.

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Wow!!!!!!!!!!!! 13 of each!!! can't WAIT to see the pics!! :)
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Girl, yes! Weddings are very very frequent in Zimbabwe so people know the drill. Because of the size of the bridal parties, everybody is in everybody's wedding every few months (FH has 20 cousins). There's a series of choreographed dances that are done at the reception and people commit to rehearsals for weeks leading up to the day.

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[quote="soon2bmsj"]My party is small (?) I guess.
1-MOH, 2-bridesmaids, 1-BM, 2-Groomsmen, 1-FG, 1-BB (broom bearer) 1-town crier.

I wishe I could have had a bigger wedding party BUT on the cool the few I have is WORKING MY NERVES!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't imagine having to deal with 6, 8, or 10 of each!! :(
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No your party is perfect! Me, I like small to almost non existant! It makes for pictures with great detail and less headaches of people to keep track of! lol

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We've got 6 bridesmaids, 4 groomsmen, 2 flower girls and 2 page boys. I also have a dear friend of mine that I would like to include in the wedding but I'm not sure how to do this. I thought I might take an idea that seems to be popular in the USA of having a "hostess"?

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[quote="ajiamarie"]My Youth Pastor had 20 BM, 20 GM, 5 FGs and 3 RB in her wedding in July. It took forever to get everyone down the aisle. It really was a production. I honestly think that anything over 40 is too much.
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I sure hope they STAY together forever!

That is just a mess! 40+ people?!?! Geesh.

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