Honey, honey, honey. My heart aches for you. I've been there with FH and so has he with me. This was years ago, but I still know the pain we both felt. He denied, I denied, everyone denied, but your gut never lies to you. Finally, I told FH I had to let him go since I knew he was lying. (His incident happened after mine) Well, that did it. He cracked, we called the chic together, him talking (me listening), he changed his # and we moved on. Trust me, it wasn't easy. It took a lot of praying and years to get things right. But, we both loved each other and wanted to be with each other.
I say confront him and you will know deep inside if he's telling you the truth or not. I will pray for you honey.
What's that the "udontnome" chick? I remember that. That's what made me join the sisterhood. The support you were giving was amazing and inspiring Rhony! So glad it worked out for good!
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Yes that was her. I made HIM (my husband) handle it and I was very much involved every step of the way. What this chick didn't know is that my husband and I roll together!!!! Thank God we have moved on with our lives.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I know it's been a while, but I needed the time to wrap my mind and heart around things. Sisters, I appreciate more than you know the advices that has been given to me in my time of need. I never knew just how many of you guys are just around the corner from me, literally. I have an update, however, FH and I are no longer together!!! It's not that I couldn't forgive what he'd done because he assured me that he'd been having second thoughts and the girl is just a friend he started talking to through a mutual friend in New York and she was giving him advice. So I asked him, if we're having difficulties and you need the advice of an outiside woman, a woman whom you're now expressing feelings for very deeply through a text message, what does this say about our future? He then say that he has been meaning to talk to me about how he's been feeling and he has tried over the years to make me happy and to give me all the things he felt I needed to be happy, but there are some things that he needed as well and those things, I cannot give to him. He said that when it came down to him making a choice between me and his family, it was a choice that he could not make because he would be so unhappy and eventually, he would become very resentful in our marriage and would probably leave me one day anyway. So I told him that eventhough he didn't have the guts to sit me down and talk to me about all of this and the pressures he was under to break up with me from his family, I will make things very easy on him and break up the relationship instead. He then said that but you're my best friend though, what am I suppose to do now without my best friend by my side? I told him that's a question that you should've addressed your family. And when he said "but I love You though". I told him that I love you too baby, but unfortunately, love isn't enough to keep you with me now is it? And he shook his head "no".
To say that I'm devastaded is an understatement. I love that man so very much, he just doesn't know. Some of you ladies told me that this must be God's way of preparing me for bigger and better blessings. I must admit that the way I'm currently feeling (like crap), it's hard for me to see that. I have finally stopped the crying. I have now gone 3 hours without a tear and I will come through on the other side, stronger than ever.
Thank you so much my sisters (especially those who wanted to provide vaseline, hold my earrings, fly from NY to MD) I love you all. Thanks somehow is not enough to say, but "Thanks"
Ginoue I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I don't know what else to say. I did tell you that this is God's way of preparing you for the blessings coming your way, and I truly believe that. I may not be able to say the right things right now, but I want you to know that I can be a friend and I am here to support you through it. The sisterhood is gonna get you through this.
Got Damm G! ...That Son of -- Awe Man ---Ey Yo I'm off tomorrow and don't go back to work until Wednesday ...I mean I'm saying ..ok let me start this off differently (I won't erase this just so you can see my intial reaction!)
Ginoue ..I feel soooo bad for you -this is the same sweet guy who gaves a card every month with a note inside ...the same sweet guy ...and with that being said I am SO HAPPY you got out when you had the chance and not after the WEDDING and HUMILIATION. You see how sweet that guy WAS to you, know that God will send you a husband 10x sweeter ..if you can only imagine. It's true ..trust me!
Hold your head up high, you did the right thing -cry if you need to, but don't forget you are beautiful and deserve the best My Father has FOR YOU.
Ginoue, I am sorry to hear about your break up and altough there is nothing I can say right now to ease your pain, I want you to know we are hear for you and time does have a way of healing all wounds.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Ginoue I second all of the ladies-except Turiya's beginning post :) excuse her please... :)
I know this is hard on you but remember you are a strong, beautiful woman! ANY man that cannot recognize this is not even worthy of you. The comment: "I have been meaning to talk to you about that" is CRAP!!! when was he going to bring it up??? not until after he got busted (which is what they all do)just know that this is all in God's plan for you and right now although you cannot see the forest for the trees, know that you will look back on this one day and say whew-glad I didn't go there! and if it is meant to be it will be...remember the saying...if you love someone set them free, if they return then it was meant to be. much love to ya!
Ginoue I am truly sorry that you are going through this. You are a strong woman, and God will guide you through this dark time in your life. You have such an amazing future to look forward to, you can be sure of that! You are in my prayers.
Ginoue, words can not describe how sorry I am that you had to go through that. You are in my prayers.
Love lights even the darkest of paths.
What Fire doesn't destroy, only makes stronger.
Even when you don't know; God knows. I will be still and let Him do His thing.
Alone in the world; but always in the company of the Lord.
I'm so sorry to hear about this. Remember, we are a sisterhood, we're here for you. I agree with the words of encouragement that the other Ladies have offered. I'll keep you in my prayers. God will bless you with a much sweeter love and when he does, I will drive my 18 wheeler to MD just to attend your wedding. We love you!
Not the news I wanted to "hear." My heart goes out to you Ginoue! Please let us know if there is anything we can do. We are all here for you - even if you want to be gangsta about some stuf - hmmm, hmmm, Turiya!
Sweetie I know that it is hard now, but believe me things do get better with time. I will continue to keep you in my prayers and I know that only good will come out of this.
definitely not what I wanted to hear either....but I am so glad you stood up for your happiness. For some people it takes years to realize how much love often is not enough....there has to be respect...Since I feel like respect holds love by the hand, if there is no respect the love is fractured. You are so brave Ginuoe. I hope you don't stay away. As a wedding consultant many brides will need you here to get input...Then when you're ready, you'll be telling us about a new engagement in the future....(I am very forward-thinking)...In the meantime...if you haven't before, ,write these very strong emotions now....I had to do this a few years ago when I was very ill emotionally and going down fast. When I read how I was feeling back then, I see growth...I am glad I wrote because sometimes when we move past trouble we kind of forget how strong we are...or were back then....Don't ever forget the troubles....and definitely remember how YOU GOT THROUGH IT! God is blessing you right now...And we are all blessed because God is allowing us to speak to you today..
We love you, and have your back.
Sometimes when we don't understand or don't like what it is we have to do or what happens in our lives it is comforting to know that whatever happens is in God's plan for you and its ultimate goal is to make you a stronger and better person.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
[quote="IvyPrincess"]I echo all the sentiments of all the sisters.
Sometimes when we don't understand or don't like what it is we have to do or what happens in our lives it is comforting to know that whatever happens is in God's plan for you and its ultimate goal is to make you a stronger and better person.
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So sorry im so late... Ginoue the ladies have said it all.You are in our prayers stay strong and know thatthe lord will not give you more than you can bare.
I know im a little late with the response but I was busy and didnt have the chance to get on here.
Ginoue...my heart is with you right now. Im so glad to know that youre holding up and im glad that you were able to get the truth which is what you really needed.
As many of the other sisters said, God has a plan. Just stay on course with him and let him direct you.
We love you and will not leave your side.
Stay strong!!
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[quote="platinumstyle"]You know when you have a real psycho on your hands when your stalker begins to harass you online.
LOL plat, A cyber stalker thats crazy.
Honey, honey, honey. My heart aches for you. I've been there with FH and so has he with me. This was years ago, but I still know the pain we both felt. He denied, I denied, everyone denied, but your gut never lies to you. Finally, I told FH I had to let him go since I knew he was lying. (His incident happened after mine) Well, that did it. He cracked, we called the chic together, him talking (me listening), he changed his # and we moved on. Trust me, it wasn't easy. It took a lot of praying and years to get things right. But, we both loved each other and wanted to be with each other.
I say confront him and you will know deep inside if he's telling you the truth or not. I will pray for you honey.
What's up Ginoue ...How you feeling?
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What's that the "udontnome" chick? I remember that. That's what made me join the sisterhood. The support you were giving was amazing and inspiring Rhony! So glad it worked out for good!
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Yes that was her. I made HIM (my husband) handle it and I was very much involved every step of the way. What this chick didn't know is that my husband and I roll together!!!! Thank God we have moved on with our lives.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Hello sisters,
I know it's been a while, but I needed the time to wrap my mind and heart around things. Sisters, I appreciate more than you know the advices that has been given to me in my time of need. I never knew just how many of you guys are just around the corner from me, literally. I have an update, however, FH and I are no longer together!!! It's not that I couldn't forgive what he'd done because he assured me that he'd been having second thoughts and the girl is just a friend he started talking to through a mutual friend in New York and she was giving him advice. So I asked him, if we're having difficulties and you need the advice of an outiside woman, a woman whom you're now expressing feelings for very deeply through a text message, what does this say about our future? He then say that he has been meaning to talk to me about how he's been feeling and he has tried over the years to make me happy and to give me all the things he felt I needed to be happy, but there are some things that he needed as well and those things, I cannot give to him. He said that when it came down to him making a choice between me and his family, it was a choice that he could not make because he would be so unhappy and eventually, he would become very resentful in our marriage and would probably leave me one day anyway. So I told him that eventhough he didn't have the guts to sit me down and talk to me about all of this and the pressures he was under to break up with me from his family, I will make things very easy on him and break up the relationship instead. He then said that but you're my best friend though, what am I suppose to do now without my best friend by my side? I told him that's a question that you should've addressed your family. And when he said "but I love You though". I told him that I love you too baby, but unfortunately, love isn't enough to keep you with me now is it? And he shook his head "no".
To say that I'm devastaded is an understatement. I love that man so very much, he just doesn't know. Some of you ladies told me that this must be God's way of preparing me for bigger and better blessings. I must admit that the way I'm currently feeling (like crap), it's hard for me to see that. I have finally stopped the crying. I have now gone 3 hours without a tear and I will come through on the other side, stronger than ever.
Thank you so much my sisters (especially those who wanted to provide vaseline, hold my earrings, fly from NY to MD) I love you all. Thanks somehow is not enough to say, but "Thanks"
Ginoue, my heart truly goes out to you. I pray that God heals your heart. You are an incredibly strong woman. May God continue to bless and guide you.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Thanks Rhonda, I certainly appreciate all the great advices you've given me.
Ginoue I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I don't know what else to say. I did tell you that this is God's way of preparing you for the blessings coming your way, and I truly believe that. I may not be able to say the right things right now, but I want you to know that I can be a friend and I am here to support you through it. The sisterhood is gonna get you through this.
Got Damm G! ...That Son of -- Awe Man ---Ey Yo I'm off tomorrow and don't go back to work until Wednesday ...I mean I'm saying ..ok let me start this off differently (I won't erase this just so you can see my intial reaction!)
Ginoue ..I feel soooo bad for you -this is the same sweet guy who gaves a card every month with a note inside ...the same sweet guy ...and with that being said I am SO HAPPY you got out when you had the chance and not after the WEDDING and HUMILIATION. You see how sweet that guy WAS to you, know that God will send you a husband 10x sweeter ..if you can only imagine. It's true ..trust me!
Hold your head up high, you did the right thing -cry if you need to, but don't forget you are beautiful and deserve the best My Father has FOR YOU.
You are in my prayers ;)
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Ginoue, I am sorry to hear about your break up and altough there is nothing I can say right now to ease your pain, I want you to know we are hear for you and time does have a way of healing all wounds.
"I'm a work in progress, God is not through me yet"
Ginoue I second all of the ladies-except Turiya's beginning post :) excuse her please... :)
I know this is hard on you but remember you are a strong, beautiful woman! ANY man that cannot recognize this is not even worthy of you. The comment: "I have been meaning to talk to you about that" is CRAP!!! when was he going to bring it up??? not until after he got busted (which is what they all do)just know that this is all in God's plan for you and right now although you cannot see the forest for the trees, know that you will look back on this one day and say whew-glad I didn't go there! and if it is meant to be it will be...remember the saying...if you love someone set them free, if they return then it was meant to be. much love to ya!
Ginoue I am truly sorry that you are going through this. You are a strong woman, and God will guide you through this dark time in your life. You have such an amazing future to look forward to, you can be sure of that! You are in my prayers.
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Ginoue, words can not describe how sorry I am that you had to go through that. You are in my prayers.
Love lights even the darkest of paths.
What Fire doesn't destroy, only makes stronger.
Even when you don't know; God knows. I will be still and let Him do His thing.
Alone in the world; but always in the company of the Lord.
I'm so sorry to hear about this. Remember, we are a sisterhood, we're here for you. I agree with the words of encouragement that the other Ladies have offered. I'll keep you in my prayers. God will bless you with a much sweeter love and when he does, I will drive my 18 wheeler to MD just to attend your wedding. We love you!
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Not the news I wanted to "hear." My heart goes out to you Ginoue! Please let us know if there is anything we can do. We are all here for you - even if you want to be gangsta about some stuf - hmmm, hmmm, Turiya!
Sweetie I know that it is hard now, but believe me things do get better with time. I will continue to keep you in my prayers and I know that only good will come out of this.
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definitely not what I wanted to hear either....but I am so glad you stood up for your happiness. For some people it takes years to realize how much love often is not enough....there has to be respect...Since I feel like respect holds love by the hand, if there is no respect the love is fractured. You are so brave Ginuoe. I hope you don't stay away. As a wedding consultant many brides will need you here to get input...Then when you're ready, you'll be telling us about a new engagement in the future....(I am very forward-thinking)...In the meantime...if you haven't before, ,write these very strong emotions now....I had to do this a few years ago when I was very ill emotionally and going down fast. When I read how I was feeling back then, I see growth...I am glad I wrote because sometimes when we move past trouble we kind of forget how strong we are...or were back then....Don't ever forget the troubles....and definitely remember how YOU GOT THROUGH IT! God is blessing you right now...And we are all blessed because God is allowing us to speak to you today..
We love you, and have your back.
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Over and above everything the ladies said I just wanted to say that the Lord we serve never closes a door without opening another.
Keep your head up girl and trust that all will be well... My prayers are with you
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I echo all the sentiments of all the sisters.
Sometimes when we don't understand or don't like what it is we have to do or what happens in our lives it is comforting to know that whatever happens is in God's plan for you and its ultimate goal is to make you a stronger and better person.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
[quote="IvyPrincess"]I echo all the sentiments of all the sisters.
Sometimes when we don't understand or don't like what it is we have to do or what happens in our lives it is comforting to know that whatever happens is in God's plan for you and its ultimate goal is to make you a stronger and better person.
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Definitely well said!
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Ginoue, I was just reading this before I read your update...
"Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything...then HIS peace will guard your heart and mind" -Philippians 4:6-7 NLT
Girl, please just take it one day at a time. You CAN and WILL make it through this!!
So sorry im so late... Ginoue the ladies have said it all.You are in our prayers stay strong and know thatthe lord will not give you more than you can bare.
I know im a little late with the response but I was busy and didnt have the chance to get on here.
Ginoue...my heart is with you right now. Im so glad to know that youre holding up and im glad that you were able to get the truth which is what you really needed.
As many of the other sisters said, God has a plan. Just stay on course with him and let him direct you.
We love you and will not leave your side.
Stay strong!!
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