Ok here's the thing. I come from a small close-knit family (there's 7 of us) and my FH isn't from the US. We're both 25 and we fell in love almost instantly. Between the two of us we have one living parent, his mother. I want to invite 25-30 TRULY supportive people to our wedding ceremony and then invite an additional 75-80, loving but skeptical, guests to the reception. To be clear, everyone who is invited to the wedding is also invited to the reception. How should i be wording my invitations?
Ok here's the thing. I come from a small close-knit family (there's 7 of us) and my FH isn't from the US. We're both 25 and we fell in love almost instantly. Between the two of us we have one living parent, his mother. I want to invite 25-30 TRULY supportive people to our wedding ceremony and then invite an additional 75-80, loving but skeptical, guests to the reception. To be clear, everyone who is invited to the wedding is also invited to the reception. How should i be wording my invitations?
Hello Musikana,that is quite a common practice over here.The invites to those attending both will read 'so & so are invited to the ceremony and reception of'. The others will read 'so and so are invited to the reception of'.Both the addresses for the ceremony and reception will only be added to the invites of those attending both. The address and time when the reception will start must be added for those only addending the reception.
Great idea!
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Send seperate invitations.My girlfriend just got married labor day weekend and she did the samething. She didnt mind people coming to the church for the wedding ceremony, but didnt want to pay for everyone for the reception. She sent out invitations to certain people that said ceremony with the directions to the church, and invitations to the people that was going to both that had the directions to the church and the information to the location of the reception hall.
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So how do you do it tactfully for the other way around?
We can't AND won't invite both our whole church and all our work friends, but someone else just asked me-asked me if they can come to the reception, and I keep having to say "Oh we are still working on the list because both out families are so huge" this is true...But I have not worked out a way to tell people I am cool with that it will most likely be invite only as far as the reception. So many people know we are getting married, and i have A LOT of people who I get a long with WELL.
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A friend of mine who just got married sent separate invites. One invite had ceremony on it, and the other one said ceremony and reception to follow. I would do the samething but I am getting married at the same place my wedding reception will be held.
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i'm gonna do that, send two invites, but switch it around. one will say wedding & reception and the other reception only. thanks, housewife
A co-worker told me that reception only cards are ok but not ceremony only cards. I mean "what you are saying is that I do not like you well enough to pay for your plate." I am having a small reception and I will verbally invite people who I cannot afford to feed to the ceremony. B/C you know folks with ceremony only invites will start asking for directions to the reception at the wedding thinking there was a mistake. You know.
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I dont think it is saying that. I think it is saying I would love to have you at my ceremony, however since we are on a budget unfortuaately ater paying for my family I can not afford anyone else.
Why would I pay for you to come to the reception when you didnt come to the wedding. The only way I can see someone getting invited to the reception and not the wedding is if the went to the jp or had a intimate wedding in the house or somewhere like that. Not if they are having a church ceremony.
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I was considering doing "ceremony only invites" but I decided against it. I felt that I might hurt a person's feeling b/c he would miss all the events at the reception. I am having an A and B list in case someone does not RSVP. I am worried about inviting people to my bacholerette party that I cannot invite to the reception. Is that a no-no?
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[quote="mycenae1918"]I was considering doing "ceremony only invites" but I decided against it. I felt that I might hurt a person's feeling b/c he would miss all the events at the reception. I am having an A and B list in case someone does not RSVP. I am worried about inviting people to my bacholerette party that I cannot invite to the reception. Is that a no-no?
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In my opinion it is a no-no. I have the same issue. Because I think it is not polite, I am not inviting people to the bacholerette party if they aren't invited to the ceremony/reception. I don't want to offend anyone.
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I guess you are right but I still want them to share my joy. If a person who is not invited to the party asks for an invite I will extend one. That way they know they are not invited to the wedding. Thanks.
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I dont think there is anything wrong with inviting people to the bachlorette party who you do not invite to the reception. People understand that receptions are costly, and will understand that you can only afford to have something small. I personally think that they would be affended if you did not include them in the bacholorette party.
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I extended my date but not my udget b/c he and I have to live after it is over. People never understand why I do not want doves and butterflies, etc. I think all of that is lovely but I have to do me. I am very excited about it though.
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That's what weddngs are, expressions of yourself,style, and taste.
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