Invite his daughters' mother?

No. Many wedding books state that exes do not belong at the wedding at all. It would be nice however if you made sure that she received nice copies of photos of her daugther.

I had the same concerns. My husband has a 7 year old daughter who was our flowergirl. I considered inviting her to the reception, but we decided against it. We invited her to the ceremony only. We wanted her to be able to see her daughter, but only wanted people at the reception that wanted to celebrate our joy. I wasn't sure that she would be one of those people and I wasn't willing to pay for her. The choice is yours and your FH's...I guess it all depends on the relationship you have with her and if you want her to see her daughter or to actually share your day.

We have the same issue. My FH doesn't want to invite neither his nor my ex yet my daughter (7yrs) keeps inviting her dad. I'm sure he doesn't REALLY want to come yet she's pressured him so much that he asked if it would ok. FH is against it yet for my daughter's sake, he would do it. I don't want anyone there who truly doesn't wish us happiness and joy yet i'm questioning should I invite him for my daughter. She wants us all to be one big ole happy family. lol

If you are on kind terms with the individual go for it, otherwise, NO.
No good will come from it. Not to mention the whispers that will be circulating. Do you really want that on your special day?

[quote="mrspatrick2b"]We have the same issue. My FH doesn't want to invite neither his nor my ex yet my daughter (7yrs) keeps inviting her dad. I'm sure he doesn't REALLY want to come yet she's pressured him so much that he asked if it would ok. FH is against it yet for my daughter's sake, he would do it. I don't want anyone there who truly doesn't wish us happiness and joy yet i'm questioning should I invite him for my daughter. She wants us all to be one big ole happy family. lol
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Do your daugher want to see you back with her father? The decision is your's however for me I personally dont think that it would be a good idea.

My FH's daughter's mother will be attending. She just got married and we also attended her wedding. We're not best of friends but we do get along and laugh. In 8 years, we only had one problem - and that was because of miscommunication.

so, in short, don't invite if it would cause problems or if you don't feel comfortable doing so.

Girl, I think there is someone else in the same situation as the next. That's why everything should be asked, because we usually have the answers. lol

[quote="phenomonique"]If you are on kind terms with the individual go for it, otherwise, NO.
No good will come from it. Not to mention the whispers that will be circulating. Do you really want that on your special day?
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I agree.I won't invite one of FH's son's mother but the other is welcome to attend.

I THINK I RESPONDED TO A POST LIKE THIS A WHILE AGO... and I will tell you what I told the others: HELL NO, THEY CAN'T GO! HELL NO THE BABY MOMMA HAS NO BIZNESS AT THE WEDDING! HELL NO THE BABY MOMMA SHOULD NOT BE ANY WHERE NEAR THE WEDDING SITE NOR THE RECEPTION SITE NOR ANY OTHER PLACE YOU, YOUR DRESS, YOUR CAKE, OR YOUR BELOVED WILL BE. that situation has messy written all over it. Don't touch it.

OK! WE HEAR YOU.LOL

[quote="FutureMsLee"]I THINK I RESPONDED TO A POST LIKE THIS A WHILE AGO... and I will tell you what I told the others: HELL NO, THEY CAN'T GO! HELL NO THE BABY MOMMA HAS NO BIZNESS AT THE WEDDING! HELL NO THE BABY MOMMA SHOULD NOT BE ANY WHERE NEAR THE WEDDING SITE NOR THE RECEPTION SITE NOR ANY OTHER PLACE YOU, YOUR DRESS, YOUR CAKE, OR YOUR BELOVED WILL BE. that situation has messy written all over it. Don't touch it.
[/quote]FML, you cannot speak so forcefully about this situation. There may be some women who have a cordial relationship with the child's mother. I say use your own intuition. Depending on the relationship you have with herwill help you decide what to do. It's not fair for someone else to tell you not to invite her. We are only hear to offer our opinions.

If you think she will try to ruin your day or make things go wrong, dont invite her. If yall cant talk for more than 5 minutes without argueing, dont invite her. If you two are on just "toleration" level of communication,dont invite her. Just because the daughter is there doesnt mean she has to be there too. She will have 1 parent there and thats enough. Becasue she might use that against you for going to the reception. If she went tot he wedding why not go to the reception because her daughter is there?

On the other hand if you too get along and can talk and she's not jelous of your relationship then go ahead and give her an invitation. You dont need haters there because theings can "accidently on purpose" happen at the wedding. Like the dress getting stained, the cake falling, the bride tripping, her "speaking now" and not forever holding her peace....just things that shouldnt happen.

[quote="nlbostic"]I THINK I RESPONDED TO A POST LIKE THIS A WHILE AGO... and I will tell you what I told the others: HELL NO, THEY CAN'T GO! HELL NO THE BABY MOMMA HAS NO BIZNESS AT THE WEDDING! HELL NO THE BABY MOMMA SHOULD NOT BE ANY WHERE NEAR THE WEDDING SITE NOR THE RECEPTION SITE NOR ANY OTHER PLACE YOU, YOUR DRESS, YOUR CAKE, OR YOUR BELOVED WILL BE. that situation has messy written all over it. Don't touch it.
FML, you cannot speak so forcefully about this situation. There may be some women who have a cordial relationship with the child's mother. I say use your own intuition. Depending on the relationship you have with herwill help you decide what to do. It's not fair for someone else to tell you not to invite her. We are only hear to offer our opinions.
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I agree. Like I stated earlier, me and my stepdaughter's mother get along. She will call my cell (instead of FH's) sometimes. Not to chit chat but if she needs to know something, to tell me something, etc. I'm blessed that I don't have the "drama" that some people have and that we are both mature women and she and FH has moved on. But, everyone's situation isn't the same. So base this decision on your own situation. Don't invite on the solely on her daughter being in the wedding!

I agree with some of the other ladies. If you have a good relationship with the ex then go for it, but if it has been "an uphill journey" and drama then absolutely not!!!

I wouldn't do it, I don't think it puts anyone in a good position.

Do you and your fh's ex have a good relationship? Is it just toleratible or is it sort of a friendship? If you two are not really cool I stick by what I said before and not invite her.

Well, what did you decide?

[quote="nlbostic"]
FML, you cannot speak so forcefully about this situation. There may be some women who have a cordial relationship with the child's mother. I say use your own intuition. Depending on the relationship you have with herwill help you decide what to do. It's not fair for someone else to tell you not to invite her. We are only hear to offer our opinions.
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In response to the question: Should his daughters mother get an invitation just because their daughter is in it?

My Honest to Gods Opinion with all of the force, passion, and convictions of my beliefs: HELL NO.

Well she did ask for our opinions. The way that it was worded sounds as if she and the childs mother is not that close. She said should I invite her mother just because she is in it. Dont sound like they are the best of friends, so why invite her. Her mother can see the video tape and the pictures.

So what did you decide to do? Are you inviting the mother or not?

Good for you Leanne, follow your heart! I wish you all the best.