So we are prepared to pay for a maximum of 175 people at the price we were quoted....and after my FH cut some of his people I see that I still may have to cut some from my list. I realize I know too many people, and my FH got lucky: His aunt died and her immediate family didn't handle it right so now my FH and his father isn't speaking to them, and they have been cut from the list....me, Its a high likelihood that whoever I invite will come, soooooo even after filtering the list on my side...its still over 175! I have a few months before invites are printed but this is getting hard....I'm talking about 1st cousins I grew up with, and family friends who practically raised me! I have had to put this list down in order to gain some peace.....
What did you guys do to filter and filter and filter that list...and how did you deal with those who were close enough to invite (likely to be hurt), but were cut due to budget constraints?
So we are prepared to pay for a maximum of 175 people at the price we were quoted....and after my FH cut some of his people I see that I still may have to cut some from my list. I realize I know too many people, and my FH got lucky: His aunt died and her immediate family didn't handle it right so now my FH and his father isn't speaking to them, and they have been cut from the list....me, Its a high likelihood that whoever I invite will come, soooooo even after filtering the list on my side...its still over 175! I have a few months before invites are printed but this is getting hard....I'm talking about 1st cousins I grew up with, and family friends who practically raised me! I have had to put this list down in order to gain some peace.....
What did you guys do to filter and filter and filter that list...and how did you deal with those who were close enough to invite (likely to be hurt), but were cut due to budget constraints?
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My first wedding was very easy to cut. I started off with my mother & grandmother's friends. I had 200 at first and I had to get it down to 150. The next after that was his mother's friends. People that aren't really close whom I haven't know but for a very short period of time, were the next to go.
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I had to exclude my entire church family because of a variety of reasons including the fact that I couldn't afford them. I explained to them that we are having a "private ceremony". They seemed to accept it, although I could tell that a few of them felt a little slighted. FH and I also took one day together to go through our list. We agreed that we didn't want more than 75-80(total) people on our list. The list that we compiled has 125 people (FH kept adding people -- lol). We talked about it and were able to get the list down to 100 people. We are prepared to pay for all 100 if they show up. Of course I am hoping that that will not be the case. Both of our lists only contain close family members, cousins, etc. that we have a relationship with, friends, and co-workers. I've talked to other people who have had weddings, renewals and they have all said that not everyone shows up, even if they rsvp. My only suggestion to you is do what your pockets can afford. Sometimes people will be offended, but the important thing is that you don't get in over your head.
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My plan would be to include the following people: immediate family - mom, dad, sis, bro, nieces, nephews. then grandparents, bestfriends (they are family too), then aunts & uncles, then closest cousins, then everyone else is pretty secondary and u pick and choose. Those are the most important people to me. My list is between 150 - 200. My dad alone is 1 of 10 and all of his bros/sis have a min of 2 kids, and then their kids have kids. I considered hiring a baby sitter for the reception and have a little kids table/menu depending on how we decide to do the food (make it ourselves or have it catered).
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda