Issues with my friend -- The bride!

I need some advice.

I am the MOH for my best friend of 8 years. It is turning into a nightmare. My fiance and I went to stay with them last weekend, we live in different states and had to take a plane to get there. This is all in order to pick out the bridesmaid dresses.

She was a jerk the entire weekend. She freaked out and started yelling and crying when I merely suggested leaving early to get the bridesmaid dresses. She yelled at me for expecting her to pick out a dress and that she refused to pick out a dress. I was not expecting to buy or get measured for anything, it was just a figure of speech. She told me that she did not know what the role of MOH really was and did not really care. She is my MOH so that REALLY concerns me. Her wedding is in 9 months and she has several out of state BMs. All she has is her location and bridal gown.

She frustrated my finace by asking him dumb questions every 5 minutes, like, "Have you ever seen snow? Have you ever seen the ocean?"

After playing a game, she began to insult me. So, I asked her why she was being so mean. Her reply? You are ugly. WOW!

This is just the icing on the cake. The entire time she was rude to me, her fiance, and mine, calling us names, yelling at us, or just ignoring us.

At the end of the whole weekend, she looked at me and said I think I must be getting sick. OH YEAH! As I boarded the 7 hour flight home, my fiance told me that he really did not know these people and did not care if we ever came back here. His mom and my grandmother have advised me to think about getting out of this as soon as possible.

I know this is a very superficial summary of what occurred but I hope you get the jist.

WOW. Get out of this disaster NOW!! She will only get much much much worse. Best friends don't treat best friends like this, and you have every right to pull out. Yes, it will likely severely damage or end your friendship, but if you go through with being MOH, the same thing will happen with a lot more stress and abuse towards you.

And I think you should send your story to the Bridezilla website :)

I'd give her a week or so to calm down, apologize, and explain that her doctor had just changed her medication and she simply wasn't herself.

If/when that doesn't happen, call her up and back out of being her MOH. Explain to her that you want her wedding to be wonderful and beautiful, but it is obvious to you that your presence seems to stress out the bride. She may throw a hissy fit, which you will point out simply demonstrates the stress you cause her. She will likely then make the ever-so-clever remark that she doesn't want to be in your wedding either hah! - which will be just what you want her to say.

However, you may want to keep the lines of friendship open. This doesn't sound like a bridzilla to me so much as a woman on the edge of a mental or emotional breakdown. If/when that happens (and if you feel up to it), trusted life long friends will help her recovery.