Hello Ladies! (Get comfortable because this may get lengthy)
I never thought in a million years that I would be going through this at such a precious time in my life....but you know I am not surprised. My sister is my Maid Of Honor and she has been a Green thorn in my side for my entire wedding planning process! I am getting married on 8/25/07 and have been with my future husband for 9yrs. My sister has been engaged to be married since 2004 just like myself we actually got engaged about a month apart (she was a month before me) She only was in her relationship for about 4 months before he popped the question (yeah,I know what you are thinking)
To all of our surprise (not really a surprise) he got locked up and placed in Jail about 3 months into their engagement so needless to say she didn't have her wedding yet...yes he is still in the big house. Oh FYI-he has been locked up before they got together as well and then went back in for some more nonsense. My sister is older than I am by 5yrs. and always felt she set the standard on how things should be done, so when everyone saw that she was involved with a jailbird and she always had this snooty, uppity personality it was a 1st class shocker! Since then most of the ladies in our family have been proposed to and one has already taken the plunge and is now a happy wife! I am next in line and I have a cousin right behind me. My sister feels that everyone is stealing her ideas for her wedding! First she said that the relative that got married first stole her dress style, now she is saying that I am stealing her music choices and wedding scenery (evening, candle light theme) and has even went on to say that she is tired of everyone taking her vision....
Now ladies...here me when I say this. You can't take something from someone that doesn't have it. None of us made him go to jail or caused her dreams to have her special day shattered by his thuglife antics but at what point do you say enough is enough...I am personally sick of trying to hold back my feelings to cater to hers and when I do express anything that I am planning to have done at my wedding she says that she was going to do that too and then she sighs and says "but it's your day and you are getting married first so I guess it is poor me". I am just sick of her trying to ruin a good thing with her own disappointments.
I am 2 months away from my special day and this is getting to me even more since I have other pressures to make sure things go as planned in the final phases! I love my sister but I can't take this anymore, her jealousy, rudeness, fakeness, and sarcasm is becoming a nightmare and I am tired of changing things around for my day to please her! The truth is she prob. won't get married for another 5 to 10 yrs. per the judge on her man's trial! When will she let it go and move on with her life! No one is stealing anything, she needs to come to grips with her perfect picture having a broken frame and let the brides to be in the family do their thing!
She get's snappy with everyone and talks about all of us to other members of the family. I want to remove her from my Maid of Honor but she is my only sister and I want her by my side. But at what cost do I have to pay to have my day?
I am sorry this got very lengthy but I couldn't keep it inside anymore. SHE NEEDS TO GET OVER HER JEALOUSY AND DEAL WITH HER SITUATION!! Am I being inconsiderate? or is there really a problem here? Help Ladies!
A bride ready to post bail!! LOL