Okay so I don't feel like doing this anymore. I don't feel like going out looking for my shoes, accessories, I don't want to look for bridesmaid, MOB and FOB gifts, I don't want to worry about how the table are going to look, favors, invitation lists. I'm not stressed out about it really, I'm just not motivated and excited about it. I DO want to get married (I love that man to deaths) and I DO want to go on my honeymoon, but all the things that it will take to get this done....just don't feel like it. I feel like I should be excited about it cause it's going to be one of the most special days in my life etc etc blah blah, but I have no more motivation to do it. Of course if I don't it won't get done but...I DON'T KNOW...I'm rambling I guess. My mother was helping me alot along with my coordinator, but my uncle (my mother's oldest brother) just passed away in Liberia about a month ago. My mother just got back from the funeral last Thursday. She's having a hard time dealing with the fact that her brother's gone so she's not that motivated either to plan a wedding. I don't know....is this normal?......
Okay so I don't feel like doing this anymore. I don't feel like going out looking for my shoes, accessories, I don't want to look for bridesmaid, MOB and FOB gifts, I don't want to worry about how the table are going to look, favors, invitation lists. I'm not stressed out about it really, I'm just not motivated and excited about it. I DO want to get married (I love that man to deaths) and I DO want to go on my honeymoon, but all the things that it will take to get this done....just don't feel like it. I feel like I should be excited about it cause it's going to be one of the most special days in my life etc etc blah blah, but I have no more motivation to do it. Of course if I don't it won't get done but...I DON'T KNOW...I'm rambling I guess. My mother was helping me alot along with my coordinator, but my uncle (my mother's oldest brother) just passed away in Liberia about a month ago. My mother just got back from the funeral last Thursday. She's having a hard time dealing with the fact that her brother's gone so she's not that motivated either to plan a wedding. I don't know....is this normal?......
First off, I am sorry to hear about your lost. And I think that feeling this way is normal. Infact, I feel this way. I am so sick of trying to please bridesmaids, tired of dealing with annoying, controlling, opinionated fmil, etc... But I have already invested so much time, money, and energy in planning this wedding that I cant possible turn back now.
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I'm sorry to hear about your uncle. Yes, it's normal. I went through something about 2 weeks ago where I WASN'T going to get married at all. My emotions were ALL OVER THE place. It was just some jitters. By the next day, I couldn't believe how I was feeling the day before.
What you need to do is take a breather for a couple of days. Then get back into it. You put too much time/money/emotions into planning this big day. YOu only have a few more weeks to go.
You know what it's like....it's like when you have a baby. By the time you reach month #8, you're like OMG I want to deliver NOW! I can't wait another month, it's too long. (Okay maybe that wasn't a good comparison, but you get what I mean). lol You'll be okay honey.
[quote="housewife147"]First off, I am sorry to hear about your lost. And I think that feeling this way is normal. Infact, I feel this way. I am so sick of trying to please bridesmaids, tired of dealing with annoying, controlling, opinionated fmil, etc... But I have already invested so much time, money, and energy in planning this wedding that I cant possible turn back now.
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Thanks House....I know some other brides that are so excited about it...loving every moment of their planning... I just want it to be over already, I want to be chillin' at the reception right now, eating, dancing and having fun with my family and new husband...getting ready for my honeymoon....OH well....I know it'll get here and it will be wonderful I just feel no motivation....BUT it has to get done....thanks for your response..
Hi Soontobe, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. As a newlywed I will tell you your feelings are normal. Planning a wedding can be extremely overwhelming. This is a very emotional time. One day you will not want to be bothered and the next day you will be gung ho. Hang in there my sister and be encouraged -- you are not alone.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Soontobe, listen to the ladies. They are absolutely right! It is normal. I had my moment the last few weeks leading up to the wedding. I didn't have gifts for the Parents or Grandparents, rose petals, enough gift boxes to put candy in (for the favors), I didn't have the stand for the unity candles (FMIL said she had one because a pillar simply won't due and she broke out this ragedy, rusty 2ft tall stand! WTF!!We're not using that!), couldn't make color decisions, the arch wasn't cooperating...a lot of stuff happened. I felt burnt out & I was like "so, it doesn't matter". Thankfully, this is where my hubby took charge, stepped up & handled the problems. Okay, I digress.
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
first off soontobe apologies all around for ur loss. i am sitting here teary eyed though cause i am feeling the same way. i am over it. i was putting clothes in the dryer and fh came in and i just let him ahve it because he asked if the dogs had been let out today. i know its the stress of it all. at this point i feel it is no longer fun but U gotta step up cause u always come at me positive and i cannot have my solid rocks crumble or i will be at melt down point and u will not be reading from the blog about me but CNN.:)
STB- First off I just want to say that I'm sorry to hear about your uncle, I know that just adds to the stress of every thing else. People don't REALLY understand that this planning mess can be so burdonsome at times...I agree w/the ladies what you're feeling is normal, just take a step back for a day or two and allow youself to decompress...no wedding talk, no planning, no worring about anything wedding related and watch, you'll come back revived and enregized ready to get it on again.
I can't tell you how many times with all the CRAP my FSIL(both) and FH's family has been putting me through (that'll require a whole new post!) I've so wanted to hop on a plane and elope! I swear fo' goodness like HW147 if I hadn't spent so much time, energy, and not to mention money I would have already done it. But remember 'this too shall pass' and it will. We ALL have so much to look forward to and keeping your eye on the prize and staying focused will pay off.
Awesome advice MsBoston!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Thanks for all your words ladies....VERY MUCH APPRECIATED. The thing is I don't think I'm really stressed out so much as no motivation to do it, if that makes any sense. I just DON'T FEEL like it.....BUT I hear what you all are saying. Thank you for your condolences for my uncle. My mom is having a hard time....she still crying over it, can't believe her brother is gone...BUT God is in control of everything.....and I still believe and still have faith....thanks you wonderful ladies!>.....KISSES, HUGS, AND BIG SQUEEZES TO ALL OF YOU!!
You are welcomed my sister! I love this site because the ladies here are a wonderful support system.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37