Maid of honor

I totally understand ur perception; NOONE else realizes how important this day is 4 u except U!!! i have battled the same thing myself, but I just start taking control of things..."I" finally decided on a day 4 all of my BM's to go get fitted because I kept trying 2 let them choose a time that would be convient and noone seemed to be in a hurry-maybe u need to do the same--(although u shouldn't have 2:( )

I also understand your issue. My MOH decided to get married 2 months before my wedding and is expecting me to coordinate hers. It seems like we always think we choose the right person to stand next to us and then for whatever reason it backfires. How much time do you have before your wedding? I would talk to her again and let her now that this is your day and that you would really like her to cooperation. Hopefully she will understand and not keep you hanging. Do you have someone that step-up? I know that it may not be the route you want to take, but you may have to. I have an Maid and Matron so what my maid isn't doing my matron is. I hope things work out for you.

Welcome!

I don't know when your wedding is, but ultimately, no dress, no role in the wedding. And no one can do anything about it, cause it is what it is....Many of the vibrides here end up having some people at the very last minute not get their dress, so some of them were left out...

Most likely, she will either come through (Its never going to be when the bride wants it), or she will back out....The reality is you have to be cool. At the end of the day, the worst thing is that she is not in the wedding, and you have to decide if you want to replace her or nix a MOH altogether. If you have a matron of honor, you can have her and your most trusted reliable bridesmaid and her work together....Every wedding doesn't have a "maid of honor"...and truthfully there are no longer any "rules" when it comes to putting together one...Well, other than making sure it goes smoothly....We had some invitee and RSVP, and some help issues, and some people who I really wanted to be there showed up, and some people I wanted to be there backed out without a word....And I didn't freak out simply because I reminded myself that everyone who was meant to witness my special day came, and everyone who didn't for whatever reason clearly wasn't meant to be there, and I was at peace with that....My nerves are too precious and too few to have let folks get to me.....

I think she is probably going to step up, but like I said, as brides we like to have some guarantees, especially when you work hard on deadlines, and second chances. There is always going to be one person off schedule, who procrastinates, which makes all brides get a little worried about this person's willingness to be there...Friendships are definitely challenged in times like these....I would probably back off, and let her fall in line on her own (and most likely she will), cause if her daughter doesn't get a dress in time for the wedding, then what can you do? Its all on her, and never, ever put the stress on yourself...You've done your part....

Wow, sister Yvelynne1, first and foremost, take a very deep breath and let it out very slowly. I know that you're feeling the stress of your wedding right now, however, I'm not really sure when your wedding is, but I would have a talk with her (one on one). Take her out to lunch or something and since you said that she was also your best friend, talk to her honestly about your feelings, but at the same token, be mindful of hers. At the end of the conversation, very calmly ask her if she truly feels that she will be able to fulfill her duties as your MOH because it's more than monitery, it's very much an emotional support as well. Furthermore, there are other things that she has to do as MOH that will require her giving your her undivided attention. Ask her if there's something going on that you're not aware of so you could try to help her as well, emotionally, BF to BF.

Maybe that will straighten all of this stiffness out.