My sister was appointed my maid of honor and I really want her to be there on my day but she does not seem too interested in commiting to this responsibility. In her defense the gowns are $365.00 but all are paid for as a gift from "our parents" in the event that each member of the bridal party purchases their airfare to attend the wedding in San Antonio, Texas.
Since the gowns are two-piece and either piece can be worn seperately for a cool ethnic and casual look I thought this to be a sweet deal and with three months prior to today to get your own flight arrangements there seemed to be enough time. Each gown is now being made and all the bridesmaid, except for my sister (maid of honor) are on schedule and covered. If I believed my sister would come through I would buy her roundtrip airfare but the way she has been aloof as of late with all of the family I am not sure if she would show up even with everything paid for her. No one is rich and I don't want to waste money. She has had opporunities to even earn the money for the tickets by helping out family members close to where she lives but she has chosen not to. I don't know what to do. I asked her to attend as a guest if it was a serious matter of money and my parents would pay for that instead of the gown but she didn't want that either. See wastes money rather frequently on clothes for herself and partying instead of things like rent and supplies for the children so I am not sure if "she just wants a free ride" or if she is not interested. Whatever the case, the money for the dresses was due on April 1. It is now March 3 and she is the only one missig from the group. What to do ladies? What to do? The longer she waits the more costly the airfare. It has already gone up $100.00 since Feb 2005.
My sister was appointed my maid of honor and I really want her to be there on my day but she does not seem too interested in commiting to this responsibility. In her defense the gowns are $365.00 but all are paid for as a gift from "our parents" in the event that each member of the bridal party purchases their airfare to attend the wedding in San Antonio, Texas.
Since the gowns are two-piece and either piece can be worn seperately for a cool ethnic and casual look I thought this to be a sweet deal and with three months prior to today to get your own flight arrangements there seemed to be enough time. Each gown is now being made and all the bridesmaid, except for my sister (maid of honor) are on schedule and covered. If I believed my sister would come through I would buy her roundtrip airfare but the way she has been aloof as of late with all of the family I am not sure if she would show up even with everything paid for her. No one is rich and I don't want to waste money. She has had opporunities to even earn the money for the tickets by helping out family members close to where she lives but she has chosen not to. I don't know what to do. I asked her to attend as a guest if it was a serious matter of money and my parents would pay for that instead of the gown but she didn't want that either. See wastes money rather frequently on clothes for herself and partying instead of things like rent and supplies for the children so I am not sure if "she just wants a free ride" or if she is not interested. Whatever the case, the money for the dresses was due on April 1. It is now March 3 and she is the only one missig from the group. What to do ladies? What to do? The longer she waits the more costly the airfare. It has already gone up $100.00 since Feb 2005.
Coming Into the Home Stretch
OOH, this is a toughie! you may have to come right out and ask her if she is going to be there or not.let her know you realyy want her to be your moh, but you'll understand if she can't afford it. ask her what's really going on because time is running out and you need to know so you can plan accordingly. best of luck!
jewel51
I am with jwelch on this one. Just be straight forward with your sister. Due to the money that is involved, asked her to tell you the truth, and explain to her that there will be no hard feelings. She will always be your sister regardless of her decision. Perhaps she just does not know how to tell you without hurting your feelings. Good Luck!
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