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danamckenz
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marrying young

I am a twenty year old planning a wedding and going to school full-time. Sometimes I feel like People are always hating on me and my Fiance (22) because we are young. When I tell people that I am about to be married they say , "Your so young." And then proceed with a lecture. I know I am young, but I prayed and prayed to God before I accepted my finace's proposal. So far we have been doing Great! We live together and he takes very good care of me. So my question is to those of you who are about to be married and are married what should I say to those people who feel like they need to give me a dirty look and?or a lecture when I tell them that I am about to be married? (and still remain a christian woman)

danamckenz
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marrying young

I am a twenty year old planning a wedding and going to school full-time. Sometimes I feel like People are always hating on me and my Fiance (22) because we are young. When I tell people that I am about to be married they say , "Your so young." And then proceed with a lecture. I know I am young, but I prayed and prayed to God before I accepted my finace's proposal. So far we have been doing Great! We live together and he takes very good care of me. So my question is to those of you who are about to be married and are married what should I say to those people who feel like they need to give me a dirty look and?or a lecture when I tell them that I am about to be married? (and still remain a christian woman)

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Re: marrying young

danamckenz You did the right thing by asking GOd first. Only you know your own heart. My husband and I fell in love at first sight when we were 15. We did not go on our first date until I was 19. We have been married now for over 10 years! We are so happy we get on people's nerves! LOL There will always be Playah Haters. Live your life and live your love! God bless you and your hubby to be. May you have a blissful and long marriage together.

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india
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Re: marrying young

I was young also when I married. I married at 23 and I enjoy it. We were dating 5 years before marriage, so there wasn't much that changed afterwards. I got and still get those dirty looks when I tell people that I'm married and the first question they ask is how old are you? Most people say I look like I'm about 17 so I really get the look before they find out my true age. If you know within your heart that you are doing the right thing, then continue to do it. My husband is my bestfriend and we go and do everything together. When you get those looks tell them that God blessed you early so you don't have to put up with the heartache and pain of being hurt over and over again, trying to find that right somebody. One thing I've learned is that God loves his children and he only wants the best for them. So if you're obedient to him, he will make sure you have the best! God bless you and your marriage!

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It is my pleasure to tell you that I got married on the 21st of this month to a man 15yrs my senior and we also get those looks even on our wedding day. THe best thing you could have done was talk to God first because he always gives the best advise. My husband & I were together 6 yrs before marriage and have 2 kids together ( 1 adopted, 1 natural). He's 40 and I'm 25. Even my pastor had comments about us marrying and making our family legit. I politely told him that my babies were ordained by God to me and my boyfriend (at the time). My Husband had proposed numerous times but God hadn't reasurred me that it was my time yet. There were things I had to work on to be his Proverbs 31 women. When I got the OK I said yes and Blessed By God and in His Presence we walked the aisle this month with our children in tow. Don't be discouraged but be encouraged by those looks and sometimes comments. Everyone doesn't mean you well, so take those looks as the Caution Yellow light. Pray with your fiance and Ask God to stay formost in both your lives.And if you just need to respond to those looks and comments ( their comming, just wait) tell them that God place you two together to be husband & wife. Then ask them if they want to question the Almighty. . . I can almost bet they'll never look at you like that again. ( and they won't Challenge God)

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Re: marrying young

Congratulations first and foremost and the people giving you dirty looks shouldn't judge dont let anyone make you fell uncomfortable with your decision I am a young woman also i got married when i was 18 going on 19 and my husband was going on 22 i am very happy and secure with my decision to marry young some people wait their while lives to find happiness and get married it is just we found ours early nothing wrong with that be happy and safe only god can judge and if it wasnt ok with him it wouldn't happen