mom no show!

fortunately or unfortunatley depending on how you look at it, my future MIL declined her invite to our wedding. I'm getting married in 11 days and to date she " has something to do". My fiance was quite hurt behind it, but is dealing with it remarkedly well. She doesn't care for me as much as she favors his daughter's mom. He and I have 6 years and 2 kids together and thru it all she's been cool with us until the engagement was anounced. At first I took it personally, but then I figured, Her lost - this monkey won't stop my show. She even forbid majority of the family from going, but about 12 of them came to their senses. I feel sorta bad that out of 140 guests only 12 will be his people. But 12 is better then none. We're going to place a rose on her "seat" in the church and have her sister light the unity candle in her place. My fiance and I are determined to enjoy each other regardless of anyone else's feelings.

Rosetta - how ironic is this.

Wouldn't you know I received a phone call from my MIL and SIL last night. My MIL had the nerve to ask about the wedding and how the plans were coming along. SHe then goes on to tell me that she may be able to "swing by" the wedding next week before she leaves for Maryland. I couldn't hold it anymore and so I let her know what I thought about her "swinging anywhere" ( very nicely though). My HTB was so furious with her and ashamed at me for stooping to her level that he walked out and hasn't spoken a word all day to me. I did appologize to him, but there is no was I can give in an appologize to her. She's been trying to wreck havic on my relationship for almost a year. WHat do you think I should do. I paid for a seat for her at the reception " just in case" but I would love so much for her not to show, especially after all this confusion. My wedding is next sat. If anyone had any advise, calming words or has been thru something similar please share or e-mail me at jasnigel@aol.com.