Hey ladies. I'm relatively new to this site and have been appreciating all the input thus far. My situation is that as of right now, my fiance and his mother aren't talking, he says he doesn't want her at our wedding which is October 8th. I have gotten really close to my future MIL and so invariably I"m caught in the middle...neither one wants to back down and squash the beef...I'm a complete wreck. They are the only family I have locally, my parents live in Africa along with my maid of honor and cousins, I'm truly at my wits end so if there are any words of advice you might have, I'd really appreciate it.
Hey ladies. I'm relatively new to this site and have been appreciating all the input thus far. My situation is that as of right now, my fiance and his mother aren't talking, he says he doesn't want her at our wedding which is October 8th. I have gotten really close to my future MIL and so invariably I"m caught in the middle...neither one wants to back down and squash the beef...I'm a complete wreck. They are the only family I have locally, my parents live in Africa along with my maid of honor and cousins, I'm truly at my wits end so if there are any words of advice you might have, I'd really appreciate it.
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There is a saying here where I live that says-- if you want to know how a man will treat you, look at the way he treats his mother. Do not get me wrong, I am sure he loves her and they are both very hurt by the situation but putting pride aside, they must talk and deal with the situation so the healing process may begin. You have to be mediator and get the ball rolling, he is saying that he does not want her at the wedding because he is hurt but I am sure after some time has past and they have an opportunity to address the situation, there is no way he will get married without his mother present....Come on now, you know how men love their mothers. All they need is a little push in the right direction. God Bless you and I speak life into this situation. Your MIL will be present at your wedding...BELIEVE AND RECEIVE IT IN JESUS' NAME.
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[quote="CharlotteModebe"]There is a saying here where I live that says-- if you want to know how a man will treat you, look at the way he treats his mother. [/quote]
I have lived by those words. Find out WHY he is upset. Then, bring him to a compromise. Try to make it seem like his idea. Men don't like being told what to do outright so they can get a litle finessing! [lol] I take it your fiance is not African? You could let him know how very important family is to you. He loves you,s o know that he will come around. If only to make you happy.
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[quote="CharlotteModebe"]if you want to know how a man will treat you, look at the way he treats his mother
[/quote] Amen, and amen! nuff said! You've got to get to the core of the issue and get them to work it out.
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