I had someone drop out of the wedding. My question/feeling is this. I don't think it's right to have one of the guys not be in the wedding because someone from my side can't be in it any longer. (If the shoe was on the other foot, I couldn't do it). FH thinks it may look "off" to have one more guy verses having an extra gal. How would he go about telling whoever he chooses? Also, I was thinking of something else for the guy to do so that he wouldn't have to be removed totally. I don't have any male ushers, I have female hostess'. So, he would feel kinda "alone" if he was the only one with this role. Any suggestions?
I had someone drop out of the wedding. My question/feeling is this. I don't think it's right to have one of the guys not be in the wedding because someone from my side can't be in it any longer. (If the shoe was on the other foot, I couldn't do it). FH thinks it may look "off" to have one more guy verses having an extra gal. How would he go about telling whoever he chooses? Also, I was thinking of something else for the guy to do so that he wouldn't have to be removed totally. I don't have any male ushers, I have female hostess'. So, he would feel kinda "alone" if he was the only one with this role. Any suggestions?
Who said you gotta have an even amount on each side? You could have the last bridesmaid walk down with TWO guys. Or make him a host/usher. (Just throwing out some ideas off the top of my head)
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
I would be a little upset if I were asked to be in a wedding and then demoted because someone else backed out. How about having them walk alone up and down the aisle? Coming in, have either all the GM walk single file then the BM follow, or GM, BM, GM, BM... same when leaving. Or like pp have two GM escort your MOH?
great suggestions ladies. i have all groosmen and a matron of honor. all the men are walking down alone and then the matron.
Askalot you were at my wedding. One of my bridesmaids dropped out at the last minute (remember all of that drama -- lol). What I did was have him and another groomsmen escort my daughter in. She had two escorts. Perhaps you could do something along those lines. Keep us posted on what you decide on.
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Thanks ladies for your suggestions. That's exactly what I needed was some tips on what else can be done. Please keep the suggestions coming.
Princess, you're right. It would be a demotion.
Yall can't find someone else who wants to be in the wedding? It seems you have a while for someone else to replace the person who dropped out, if you wanted. I was watching Bridezillas and a lady on there had one more groomsmen than bridesmaids and it looked fine. They positioned themselves in a nice formation for the photos and it didn't look weird at all.
If you do not wish to replace the person who dropped out, you can leave him in there but give him a different role that IS special and doesn't feel like he is being demoted. For example:
He could be a reader at the wedding and read a special poem, verse, or a little something special about you and your FH.
Also, read this website. I found it helpful when I had to fire my MOH and before I replaced her:Hopefully a link that will help SeptBride
Classy, I don't want to find a "replacement". If I haven't asked you by now to be in the wedding, then you're not that close to me. THank you for your tip and telling me how it looked being uneven. I think I may just leave it how it is and think of a way for everyone to walk.
I'm sure you'll find a combination that you like. It'll make the wedding more unique.
I actually faught against having 8-10 bridesmaids and groomsmen by choosing 4 out of the loop of friends. I guess that's why my other friend was able to jump in so quickly in replace of the other girl. No offense against anyone, but I went to a wedding where there were 15 bridesmaids and 15 groomsmen and it was just too many people, IMO.
I understand what you mean.
How many people are in your wedding party?
8 total. Much cheaper for me than 16..
Askalot the same thing just happened to me about two weeks ago. One of my bridesmaid said that she was going to have foot surgery and didnt think I would want her in my wedding with a orthpedic shoe on, but she still wants to come to my bridal shower and bachlorette party, WHAT NERVE! My fh has too bestmen so we are just going to have them walk down togethor with my maid of honor.
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So you understand a little what I'm going through. lol I'm going to think about it later tonight and I should be able to work something out.
Goodluck Askalot!
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Unfortunately it has been very common for people to drop out of weddings. But the show must go on!!!! Keep us posted Askalot.
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Thanks and I will.
He cld escort the hostesses, escort mothers. he wld probably feel like the man escorting 2 ladies in or however many hostesses you have.
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Great suggestion!
But, I didn't know the hostess' get "walked" in. I thought they were already at the door when the guests arrive.
Okay, now I'm getting a little stressed out! I have to order my flowers today (another post) and I need a count. I still don't have anything for this guy to do (in the place of being a GM). Now, I'm not happy with having an uneven amount of attendants and I just want to cry!!!!!! I'm really stressing over this!!!!!
Septbride, DON'T LET THIS MINOR DETAIL STRESS YOU OUT!!!! Girl, you have so much other important stuff to be concerned about. If you can't think of anything else to for the guy to do...take the him out, or give a BM two GMs. These ladies gave excellent suggestions, now it's time for you to pick one.
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
Thanks Cinn, but I can't help it.
Girl we understand, but eventually you have to :-)
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Okay, just pray for me y'all. I'm starting to lose it.
Lord please take the stress off Septbride's brain. Help her keep it together throughout this BEAUTIFUL & LOVE-FILLED time in her life. Please remind her this day is bigger than a single groomsman. Bless her & her FH and get them through this. Amen.
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
Awwww...thank you soooooooo much Cin. I needed that prayer! You're so sweet. Thanks again.
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And the people said AMEN!!!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Septbride, you know we got your back. Your day is going to be wonderful, regardless. You got me posting prayers to be transmitted through cyberspace (and I am not a wordsmith, by any means). :-) Feel better soon.
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
Hey Askalot, how blessed are you to have such support? Now listen to the girls and choose. Cinny-I love how you went straight into prayer when Askalot posted just when it got frustrated....Askalot, girl, its going to be a memory in a few weeks, and a minor thing on your wedding day. My fave suggestion is to let two men escort one girl like the others said:)
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Ladies, I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!! This is exactly why I love it here!!!! We truly have each other's backs! This would be the end of this topic because we made a decision. We are going to have the 2 Best Men escort the MOH. Thanks again ladies. I deeply mean this.