Questions for the brides

I know the answer to most of these. But, I need to think about how to phrase it. lol I'll get back to this. But, these are very good questions.

Well this is after the fact for me.....But I wanted to answer anyways

1) Would you be happy/fulfilled without marriage? (yes I think would find a way to be happy/fulfilled)

2) Why do you want to get married? (Because I had found someone who I loved, and who I know loved me-I was ready to experience another level of God's gift and purpose)

3) What do you hope to gain out of marriage? (Another level of love in my relationship and committment to my lover and God, children, security, and ministry)

4) what do you have to bring to the table? (Unconditional Godly love, unrestrained praise & worship thats easy for me to pull out when needed, openness, a shoulder, understanding, determination, intellect, flexibility, and passion for life and my husband)

5) How important is good sex to marriage and how important is a good marriage to sex? (Good sex is key to having a good marriage, and a good marriage is key to having GREAT sex....Its just hard to get in on when the other has hurt you. I think you can get over being mad though....If need be, I think you can work towards having great sex if not GREAT initially....the communication of working to please each other, I imagine can help make a marriage great.)

6)Can you still show affection to your spouse if you are not in love? (I doubt that)

1. At the age I am now if I would have never met my fh, yes I would be content/happy without marriage. However the older I get I would want to meet my soulmate, and grow with someone in marriage.

2. I want to marry my fh because he is the man of my dreams and the one I want to spend the rest of my life togethor.

3. I hope to gain a partner who will cry with me, laugh with me, and stand by my side in good times and bad, somebody who will not only be my lover but my friend. The person I can lean on and who can lean on me.

4. We would honestly be here forever with me telling you all of the things that I can bring to the table. However a few thing is a person that he could trust. A person that wont kick him when he is down, but who will help pick him up with encouraging words. A person who would give there life to protect her family.

5. When you have a good marriage you have good sex. Keeping your mate is satisfied in the marriage leads to good sex, and good sex keeps the marriage good. LOL Self explanatory.

6. I believe it is hard to sincerely show affection to someone who you are no longer in love with.

Ladies, not only do I have my answers but also answers from a male perspective...

My Answers
1)Would you be happy/fulfilled without marriage? NO. God created woman to fulfill man. I can honestly say that I

1) Would you be happy/fulfilled without marriage?

-- At this point and time in my life I can say yes, Two years ago I dont' think I would be able to say that. All my life I always felt I needed to be with soomeone to be happy, Becuase ultimately that is what we are here for right? Actually no. As soon as I realized that, I became the better individual.

2) Why do you want to get married?

--I have thought of this over and over. Almost every little girl has the dream of her wedding DAY!!! Not the life she wants to live. I honestly never thought I would get married, I grew up in a household were there were women and babies the men that were there were doing whatever they wanted to do, I knew I wanted children but never thought I'd have a family!! Then I met my FH we were as our websites states Aquintances to lovers to friends to forver. After knowing him for almost 8 years we sat down one night and had a conversation about our lives. That night I dreamt a dream I had dreamt only twice before. It was of my wedding day. Everything was clear as day except my FH face as I walked down the isle. His face started to take shape. I got to the end of the isle turned to give my sister my bouquet and turned back and it was my FH face. That is when I knew we woudl be together for the rest of our lives.

3) What do you hope to gain out of marriage?

--Partnership, Breaking of a cycle of infidelity, Happy contented children, Solid foundation that other young people wil want to immulate.

4) what do you have to bring to the table?
--Trust, calmness(FH is hyper), rest.

5) How important is good sex to marriage and how important is a good marriage to sex?

-- Without one you will not have the other. The key to both is communications. If you need ask for it, if you hate make it known, if you want to try it put it out there.

6)Can you still show affection to your spouse if you are not in love?

-- It depends on the type of affection. Total and complete affection NO! that is only something you can give someone you have given yourself to totally. To be in love with someone requires total surrender!!

Relationships are the hardest thing to sustain in a world that devalues everythinf from God to the earth we live on. We are all Humans (saved by grace), we are falliable becuase of our ability to make our own choices, the only person that can complete us is God what ever you call him, to be complete in him will bring compleation in every other aspects of your life

1) Would you be happy/fulfilled without marriage?

Being that I have found the love of my life, I don't think I would be happy/fulfilled without being married to him.

2) Why do you want to get married?

Because FH & I have been living together for 5+ years, that's too long to be living in sin. I love FH very deeply and cannot see my life without him being in it. We've been together for 8 1/2 years and we're both ready to complete our lives as one in God's eyes.

3) What do you hope to gain out of marriage?

I hope to gain a lifetime of happiness

4) what do you have to bring to the table?

Loyalty, Friendship, Companionship, the best Support system, Unity and most importantly - Unconditional Love

5) How important is good sex to marriage and how important is a good marriage to sex?

A good marriage is far more important than good sex. But, I'm lucky to be able to have both! (Well, the marriage part in 5 months :-) )

6)Can you still show affection to your spouse if you are not in love?

I don't think it would be pure affection. I think it would "fake". So, no, I don't think I could show affection. Hopefully, this would NEVER be an issue for me.

Every single thing everyone said is so REAL. As I read what ya'll said, I can't help thinking: "Oh yeah me too!"

lol

When we got closer to the wedding we were fussing a little more due to stress, and having to make some last minute decisions very quickly when we didn't give much thought to it...But when we finally saw each other at the rehearsal, all of our stress went away so we could focus on walking the aisle.

As for your questions.....

1) What causes two people to fall in love? (Its hard to say one thing, chemistry, being open, and of course having many things in common, as well as letting some opposing spirits attract)
2) Can two people who are no longer in love have a good marriage? (I've heard of it happening, but the had to fake it long enough, but really I hope they would try to re-kindle love, or let it go)
3) Can two people who are very much in love have a bad marriage? (Yes absolutely. Love hurts, and if you let love blind your decisions, or let it become a source of control over another, it can ruin a marriage)
4) Is marraige hard work? If so why do you want to get married? (yes its aboslutely hard work, but its so worth the results. Nothing worth having was easy to obtain)
5) What priority will your marriage receive throughlout life? (Its number one priority behind my marriage with God. I now manage school and work around it. We constantly communicate about anything new or if our situation may change due to school or work. I don't plan to put work before it at all.)
6) What things are more important than marriage? (Having a good, solid relationship with God, and knowing who YOU are in God, and liking and loving the person God created you to be....its not something we can get or develop or even understand or master before marriage, but as long as we are constantly working on those things, it also helps to have a good marriage)

1) Would you be happy/fulfilled without marriage? I was happy and fulfilled without marriage. I have an awesome career. I am healthy. I am educated. I have a wonderful family and friends that love me very much. I totally believe that because I was already happy and fulfilled, I will make a great wife for my husband because he is not responsible for my happiness.

2) Why do you want to get married? I got married for love and for no other reason.

3) Why do you hope to gain out of marriage. I have learned to truly love unconditionally. I have learned the importance of sharing. My husband is God's gift to me and I am learning to appreciate his blessings through my marriage. Also since I had my daughter out of wedlock, I am teaching our daughter the importance of family and committment.

4)How important is good sex to marriage and how important is good marriage to sex? I believe they both are important. Not the most important thing, but important. Sex is a form of communication between married people and you definitely need all kinds of good communication.

5)Can you still show affection to your spouse if you are not in love?
I believe you can.

1) What causes two people to fall in love?
Differences; most people can live their lives with someone that they are most like. However I believe when you fall in love its is the things you lack consciencously or not. that person completes you!!

2) Can two people who are no longer in love have a good marriage?
I think they can try, but it will be hard. being in love brings a respect that you can't have for someone that you are not in love with.

3) Can two people who are very much in love have a bad marriage?
Yes, becuase love can be taken for granted. So many peopl for get that even though love starts out as a feeling it is a feeling to requires action. Love is any action, it is something you do! When you stop doing! things go bad! You can't be inlove w/ someone and not want to do with for and to them bcuz you want them to be happy and content bcuz it makes you happy that they are happy

4) Is marraige hard work? If so why do you want to get married?
Anything worth having ins worth working for. Not even the son of the owner of the company can just be given the job eventually they have to perform becuase someone will start to talk. Marriage or any type of realationship today is hard to sustain, start, and continue with, bcuz society now demoralizes relationships. It's ok to swing and hook up and not be in relationships. It's ok to have babies and not have families. It's easy for people to just say you know what you are asking for too much I need to be with someone less needy.

5) What priority will your marriage receive throughlout life?
First right next to my spiritual life!! Great marriages produce great children great children produce great families, great families produce great neighborhoods, great neighborhoods produce great communities. A great communty is a strong community.

6) What things are more important than marriage?
Communication. Period, If you don't say it I don't know if I don't know I can't try and fix it or help fix it. My FH will never be able to stand if front of anyone and say She never told me.. Cuz he'd be a Damn LIE!!!!