Re: HOSTESS

Teresa1167-I have 3 teenagers that will be my hostesses. my colors are pistachio/clover/silver-the hostesses and my mother& sister will be in silver, everybody else will be in pistachio or clover except me/FH/FG who will be in silver, so you can put them in black or one of the wedding colors

My hostesses wore all black. My coordinator provided them with nametags. They seated the guests at my wedding, and my wedding coordinator cued them to ask certain questions like (Family of the bride or groom?), etc. If they were friends they offered them to sit wherever they liked. I had immediate family, aunts and uncles who wanted to sit up close come 30 minutes early, so no one would be confused as to who sits in the "reserved" seats....Because once ALL the guests arrive, unless the host/hostesses KNOWS your family members by name and face, they can get seated in the back accidentally (I KNOW, this happened at my brothers wedding where his then FW's family were the hostesses).

I also had them wear all black because I didn't feel it was necessary to ask them to pay 100+ dollars for a dress or suit just to walk people around at my wedding...They gave out programs, and had people sign the guestbook. They took the guestbook to the reception site. Where one hostess had people sign the photo and/or guesbook. One or two of them were responsible for the RSVP list check-off (Which I provided the full names of every invitee and name of their guests, and provided to the coordinator who gave it to the head hostess), and one to handle gifts. If there was no name on the gift, they were instructed to ask the guest for their name right then and there, and they taped the name on sheets of paper so we could coordinate or thank you letters...

Finally I had ONE person in charge of coordinating the host/hostesses. She was the person my wedding coordinator dealt with. They were all members of my church and were familiar with how the church was set up, and where bathrooms were, etc. They were not officially part of my wedding party as far as sitting at the table in front at the reception...but they were listed on the program as host/hostess. They also chose to bring the wedding party our food from the buffet line-though they didn't have to. I also provided a table and meals for them too at the reception....
You need a person to handle one or two responsibilities at the most...

1. Guestbook (1 person)(ceremony AND Reception site-also responsible for taking it there, and getting the guesbook to the coordinator AFTER the wedding)
2. gift table.. (1-2 persons) Keeping watch, and making sure they get to the designated person(s) who will take the gifts wherever they need to be after the reception is over (To your house, hotel room, etc)
3. RSVP list (1-2 persons)(checking off names, and getting them seated to the right table if there is assigned seating or a seating chart)
4. Seating at the ceremony (1-2 persons-can be same ones who seat at the reception).
Even if they are friends, they should have a professional attitude and defined responsibilities. No one should have more than 2-3 responsibilities

5. You may have to add more responsibilities or people who may need to be responsible for:

a. Taking any flowers, vases, candles, photos, etc from the ceremony site to the reception site
b. I would make sure everyone knows each other, exchange phone numbers, and encourage them to have at least 1-3 meetings with either you and/or the wedding coordinator to discuss logistics...I chose them because they are the ushers at my church and my friends, but because they are professional, know the premises, and know how to deal with people, and seating issues. I designated one person to be the coordinator or liason with my coordinator.

I hope this helps you or anyone else with ideas for hostesses/ushers, etc.

Same here....My colors are cranberry and gold and my hostesses are in black ...:)

But thanks for telling me that they get a corsage/bout because that means I have to go back to Michaels ..:) (I have time though)

Bumble very helpful information.

I'm so glad that somebody asked this because I was wondering the same thing. There are a couple people that I would love to have participate in my wedding but I have maxed out the bridesmaid list (I have 8) and I wanted to have hostesses but I didn't know what their role was supposed to be.

[quote="IvyPrincess"]I'm so glad that somebody asked this because I was wondering the same thing. There are a couple people that I would love to have participate in my wedding but I have maxed out the bridesmaid list (I have 8) and I wanted to have hostesses but I didn't know what their role was supposed to be.
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I hear you Ivy although I don't have 8 BMs (I got 7). Thank you sooooo much Bumblebeekee for the details.

U all are quite welcome:)