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Hi ladies, my FH and I had a discussion a few days ago. He came to me and said, you know Baby, I don't want you to be mad at me, but I want to continue to keep my current bank account and also the one that we have together. Little does he know I was tickled because I was going to tell him the same thing! Are you ladies keeping a separate account also?

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Hi ladies, my FH and I had a discussion a few days ago. He came to me and said, you know Baby, I don't want you to be mad at me, but I want to continue to keep my current bank account and also the one that we have together. Little does he know I was tickled because I was going to tell him the same thing! Are you ladies keeping a separate account also?

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We only have one account, I am the only one that can access the account. He stted that I keep better records and he don't need moiney for anything but lunch . He ask me for an allowance for the week (hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!)

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Rony, I think we will be doing the same thing. Wow Threjolyn, your man is a dream! That's so good that he admits his shortcomings and leaves it to you. Hopefully you do let him have some say so and give him more than lunch money. lol



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Rony, I think we will be doing the same thing. Wow Threjolyn, your man is a dream! That's so good that he admits his shortcomings and leaves it to you. Hopefully you do let him have some say so and give him more than lunch money. lol

When it comes to fmaily issues he is the head of the household as far as play I run all of that!!!!!hahahahaha

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We have joint accounts and seperate accounts. My mother did not raise no fool. Always keep something to the side.

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We have joint accounts and seperate accounts too. We never discussed keeping it this way, it was just automatic. My direct deposit is split by both accounts. Enought money goes into our joint account to cover my portion of the bills and the rest goes into my personal account. I feel as long as I am covering my part and contributing to our savings, what I do with the rest is my business.

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DaughterRhonda wrote:
Are you ladies keeping a separate account also?

Hell To The Yes! I love my Fh like a play cousin but homie don't play that. I hadn't thought of splitting my direct deposit, Bossy that's brilliant.


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Separate accounts here.We had planned on opening a joint account but it is so much trouble here.FH was again talking about it last week. I think that I will follow it through.We will keep our separate ones as well.

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It seems like the majority of us are having a joint account and our own accounts as well.

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We had this discussion again yesterday and decided to start looking for a bank. I mentioned to him that i had heard on Steve Harvey Morning Show about this bank and it sounded very good. We are considering it for a joint account or savings. Have any of you heard of it? They gave it rave reviews on the show. 1st Black-owned Internet Bank



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Thanks for the information PB&J. I've never heard of that bank before. Has anyone ever tried "on-line banking before". Is is safe?

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That "ING" company is an online bank and its VERY VERY popular, and it seems to be very reputable. I am interested in looking into it too. I want to learn more about how you get your money to the bank and all.
As for accounts, I CAN'T WAIT until we merge accounts....He is such a great saver and he can help keep me and my spending in check! I will have to keep something seperate for my Mary Kay business! I may keep my personal account open, but I will let him access to it, and I will have access to his. I'm definitely ready to share responsibilities, and let him do the budgeting.

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I was having a conversation a work today about this very subject. My FH and I will have a joint account for the household bills that I will manage but we also will have seperate accounts for those special purchases that we don't want the other to find out about..like what happen with TAJMOM and her FH...I will let her tell you the story.

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HEY LADIES,YES OK THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED. MY BIRTHDAY IS COMING UP OCT.13 AND SINCE FH AND I ALREADY HAVE A JOINT BANK ACCT SOME THINGS ARE DIFFICULT TO DO. I AM THE 1 WHO PAYS ALL THE BILLS AND BALANCE THE CHECKING ACCT. HIS ATTITUDE IS HIS JOB AS THE MAN IS TO MAKE THE MONEY MY JOB IS TO MAKE SURE ALL THE BILLS ARE PAID AND THERE IS ALWAYS FOOD IN THE FRIDGE. SO THE BACKLASH IS HE WANTED TO DO SOMETHING VERY SPECIAL FOR MY BIRTHDAY BUT CLD NT REALLY SURPRISE ME SINCE HE KINDA HAD TO ASK ME IF IT WAS IN THE BUDGET!:) SO I OPENED 1 CREDIT CARD ACCT FOR JUST HIM AND ADVSD HIM HE HAD TO MAKE SURE THE BILL WAS PAID HIMSELF SINCE A SISTER LIKE ME LIKE SURPRISES!!!!




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OHHH AND BY THE WAY, YOU KNOW A SISTA GOT HER OWN SIDE ACCT!!!!




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ofcourse (heeeheeeeheee)

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Whatever you choose to do, as long as you BOTH agree to what you want. My married friends both have side accounts that they BOTH has access to, as well as their joint account which pays for all the bills, but they reall don't use those accounts b/c they hasd them in college and just never closed them. Anyhoo, as long as you both AGREE and STICK to the agreement.

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I don't know if I actually agree to this Bumble. Because whether he agrees or not, I'M HAVING MY OWN ACCT. Actually, I don't even think this is a matter for discussion for us.

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Our joint account is for our bills, major purchases, etc. My personal account is for my own personal emergencies, purchases that I don't want to ask permission for, etc. He doesn't have access to that account and I don't have access to his, and we are both ok with it.

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Same here...he has his & I have my few for shoes, handbags, clothes, & all necessities to make a lady feel pretty. I do deposit a portion of my check into his account though 2 pay the bills. Oh yea...I have access 2 his too....gotta luv the way I operate.

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MrsRobinson I do love the way you operate!

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