I can only afford to invite 100 people to my affair. Is it alright to seat people who are not family but would still like to come (classmates, childhood friends, co-workers) together instead of them bringing dates. I have asked some of them and they thought it was alright. I have a gut feeling that it is a little tacky. What do you ladies think.
I can only afford to invite 100 people to my affair. Is it alright to seat people who are not family but would still like to come (classmates, childhood friends, co-workers) together instead of them bringing dates. I have asked some of them and they thought it was alright. I have a gut feeling that it is a little tacky. What do you ladies think.
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I meant receptions with "p." I am too embarassed.
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DON'T BE EMBARRASSED. IT HAPPENS TO US ALL. NO IT IS NT TACKY. YOU HAVE A LIMITED COUNT UNLESS YOUR LAST NAME IS ROCKEFELLER OR KENNEDY, PEOPLE SHLD NT EXPECT YOU TO INVITE PEOPLE YOU BARELY OR DO NOT KNOW.
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GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME; ALL THE TIME GOD IS GOOD. WHEN IN DOUBT, PRAY
Mycenae don't feel bad. I can only invite up to about 150 people but between my fiance and I we are close to about 400! People have been ASKING us if they are invited....and I have to tell them that we can barely fit our family in our budget and its a chance they may not get in and I hope they can understand....I go to church here and I am close enough to about 50-60 people, but I just can't do it....some people will understand, but there is always a few who will feel slighted....you just have to pray. As for your friends inviting guests, its not tacky....if you run into some people on your list who have declined then you can deal with people on an individual basis (the closest friends, I mean you KNOW their significant other personally) and let them bring a guest with a notice to keep it quiet!
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I was thinking the same thing.I really cant afford for everyone to bring a date to the wedding but I know thats common.Most people bring a friend or spouse. have just accepted the fact that I may have way more people than I want. My original number was 100...then 150.But I refuse to go to 200 people.Plus the church hall wont hold that many people....maybe I can use that or say I'm having a private reception.
Yes you absolutely can say your reception is for those who RSVP'd or for the family only.....You can use very close family members, your pastor, etc to spread the word about your reception being for those who RSVP well in advance, and/or for family only....This can help keep crashers (they really don't mean to be rude though) at bay.
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Thanks ladies. No one in my family has ever had a wedding with a RSVP type reception so I am in the dark about etiquette and most traditions. I have been to very few weddings myself. I am glad that my idea is not ultra tacky. I just do not want give people the option of a date and then they search for any old body to bring. If my guests are seated with people they know they will spend the entire evening talking about what they have in common (work, mutual friends, childhood memories, etc). There significant others will feel left out anyway. Thanks ladies.
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Your idea is not tacky at all. FH and I have originally planned for 75-80. Our list has grown and we are coming close to 100. I belong to a fairly large church. I haven't even invited my church family because I can't afford to. My rule is all or none when it came to the church family because I didn't want people to say well you invited sister so and so or brother who done it, one more would'nt have hurt. Sometimes you have to do what your pockets dictate and there is nothing tacky about that.
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Well what I'm doing is putting in the # of guests that's invited. For instance, it'll look something like this.
M________________________
2 seats have been reserved in your honor
__ Accept with pleasure
__ Decline with regret
Perfect Askalot, that sounds great. I like your wording, very classy and straight to the point! Love it.
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You are too right with the way that you are wording the RSVP cards. I plan to do the same thing that way I do not have people telling me who is coming. You all are so supportive. I feel that all who are for my having a wonderful day will be understanding.
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I like that Askalot.I just may have to use that. Since I am printing my own invites that is very do-able. Good job sistah!
mycenae i'm doing the same thing. the only people who i'm letting bring dates are those who are married or living with someone i already know. that's why a seating chart is priority number one for me. i'm putting all my co-workers together, grad school friends, fellow dancers, distant relatives who are close to each other, etc. the only thing i'm wrestling with now is whether to let my bridal party bring dates. i feel bad because there will a certain amount of attention on them and i want them to feel confident. they may end up being the exception to my no-date rule.
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2 seats have been reserved in your honor
__ Accept with pleasure
__ Decline with regret
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I did the same thing with my RSVPs and it works.
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I am going to have to steal that idea, because I have a feeling when I get my RSVP's back people will have invited there whole family, the neighbors, the mailman, and I just cant afford that. I have to live after this wedding.
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Joanne, I am so happy for you that it worked out wonderful and without problems.
House, that's the same way my folks are! And I will not be having it. I remember for my parent's anniversary party, I had the envelope addressed to 2 people. When they sent it back, they had put down 5 people were attending. I had to call them up! That was not going happen!
LOL! I know that's right.
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You gotta let them know. There are folks who are not there to see your joy but to eat your food and talk about it while they are smacking on your hard earned money. I am telling folks from the beginning that it is a small affair. I hate when people try to tell me I should find a cheaper spot. My place is all inclusive, Cake, place cards they even have ugly cake toppers. When they lady said "We have African-American cake toppers as well" and pulled those ugly things that do not look anything like me or my man out of the cabinet, I almost died. I am bringing my own topper folks.
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