I'll try to type this without crying. I'm due to have my wedding in Aug. Last year (Nov.) my sister went home to be with the Lord. She was to be my maid of honor. To make a long story short in the COGIC (church of God in Christ) we have an order of service that all our weddings follow, but I've added a time to remember those who were to be with us on this big day. You see not only did my sister past but one of my fiance's bestfriends past a month before she did. I am still getting my sister's bouquet and my big sister will be wearing what would have been my little sister's dress (my little sister died at the age of 20, so it's not like she was little little). I have candles that my fiance and I will be lighting, and some other things will be going on while we're lighting them. I have a rough draft of the program, in which my wedding coordinator gave me, but I wanted ya'lls oppinion on where I should put it. She has it after the Lighting of the Unity Candle. I want it after the minister says "WE ARE GATHERED HERE TODAY....." You know after that whole speach is done. Then he could say: "The bride and groom would like to take this time to remember those who are not with us today." You see I have a song and everything and I think my sister and my grandfather, and his friend should have a part in the day that they helped us with in one way or another. SORRY IF THIS GOT TO LONG!!!
I'll try to type this without crying. I'm due to have my wedding in Aug. Last year (Nov.) my sister went home to be with the Lord. She was to be my maid of honor. To make a long story short in the COGIC (church of God in Christ) we have an order of service that all our weddings follow, but I've added a time to remember those who were to be with us on this big day. You see not only did my sister past but one of my fiance's bestfriends past a month before she did. I am still getting my sister's bouquet and my big sister will be wearing what would have been my little sister's dress (my little sister died at the age of 20, so it's not like she was little little). I have candles that my fiance and I will be lighting, and some other things will be going on while we're lighting them. I have a rough draft of the program, in which my wedding coordinator gave me, but I wanted ya'lls oppinion on where I should put it. She has it after the Lighting of the Unity Candle. I want it after the minister says "WE ARE GATHERED HERE TODAY....." You know after that whole speach is done. Then he could say: "The bride and groom would like to take this time to remember those who are not with us today." You see I have a song and everything and I think my sister and my grandfather, and his friend should have a part in the day that they helped us with in one way or another. SORRY IF THIS GOT TO LONG!!!
Tyffany
That was beautiful! It was not long at all. I am so sorry to hear about your sister and your brother's friend. It is fine to place it there after the minister says "WE ARE GATHERED HERE TODAY..."
You can do a rose ceremony after the unity ceremony also. The rose can then be placed on the gravesite after. I gave my wedding bouquet to my grandmother's grave and tossed a throw away garter (smaller version of the real one) to the single girls.
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I'm very sorry for your loss, and I think it's beautiful that you want to honor them at your ceremony. You should also mention them as honorary participants on your program, you can also have their pictures. One of the churches I visited in Washinton DC does this before every service, they hold up a picture of lost love ones an ancestors and say a prayer.
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Thank you both so much for you responses. Last year while I was to be the happiest person in the world I also was the saddest. My fiance's best friend was like a brother to him. And my little sister was one of my best friends. I like both ideas, and now I will go ahead and suggest my idea to the minister.
Tyffany