What's best? I'm flip flopping between the following two styles:
____ Will Attend and _____ Unable to Attend. Or _____ Will Attend,_____Number Attending --____ Unable To Attend. I'll have the exact names of who's invited on the inner envelope. Whether it be one, two or more people. I'm hoping the recipient of the mail knows it's only for those people no substitutes. If they just check off the first style I'm going to assume the names on that inner envelope (or the number of names on that envelope are coming or not coming. Yet if it's done like the second style I'm hoping they won't add a extra number in the number attending line. (Writing to you all is therapy and allows me to talk out loud). The second style would let me know for sure though the number attending and will alleviate assuming in the first style. I guess style two would let me see right away if someone added someone. If they do I'll be calling them to say no way. The reception is for 300 plus or minus, paying per head. I'll be damned if someone is going to dictate to me by adding more guests. I've let some of my trifling bridesmaids get to me over the phone (they don't know it). The next time they act up, my FH two sisters I'm going to be strong and tell them to just be guests. They are trifling. I'm glad I live in another state. My FH is relocating to where I live. He's ready to tell them to be guests. But he's being cool too. One more strike they are out. I wish I hadn't asked them. I was excited when we met that's why. Oh well. Which response card style would you advise? I value everyone's opinion since I'm alone besides FH and my mother in the planning.
Response Card Dilemma
Wed, 01/11/2006 - 21:00
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Response Card Dilemma
What's best? I'm flip flopping between the following two styles:
____ Will Attend and _____ Unable to Attend. Or _____ Will Attend,_____Number Attending --____ Unable To Attend. I'll have the exact names of who's invited on the inner envelope. Whether it be one, two or more people. I'm hoping the recipient of the mail knows it's only for those people no substitutes. If they just check off the first style I'm going to assume the names on that inner envelope (or the number of names on that envelope are coming or not coming. Yet if it's done like the second style I'm hoping they won't add a extra number in the number attending line. (Writing to you all is therapy and allows me to talk out loud). The second style would let me know for sure though the number attending and will alleviate assuming in the first style. I guess style two would let me see right away if someone added someone. If they do I'll be calling them to say no way. The reception is for 300 plus or minus, paying per head. I'll be damned if someone is going to dictate to me by adding more guests. I've let some of my trifling bridesmaids get to me over the phone (they don't know it). The next time they act up, my FH two sisters I'm going to be strong and tell them to just be guests. They are trifling. I'm glad I live in another state. My FH is relocating to where I live. He's ready to tell them to be guests. But he's being cool too. One more strike they are out. I wish I hadn't asked them. I was excited when we met that's why. Oh well. Which response card style would you advise? I value everyone's opinion since I'm alone besides FH and my mother in the planning.
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Hi Marshine! I would go with the first. If you have a specific invitee then they will know this for sure if there isn't a number attending space. I would call up the core people and ask them to be specific. Most will drop a note saying that they and so and so would be happy to attend. This however does not mean that they will show up on the big day. Or they may come to the ceremony but not the wedding.
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I totally agree with Rosey....do not leave room for assumption!, tell them straight up who is invited. I just got invited to a wedding in February and the invitation said "Adult reception immediately following ceremony and admit "1"...she was straight to the point....by putting 2 key words in the invitation "adult" and the number "1" and there is no room for me to bring my mother's cousin first nephew uncle child.....If you get my drift.
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Thanks a bunch. Sounds good to me. Be straight and to the point. Rosetta, you're right about calling core people and asking them straight up to be specific. CharlotteModebe your invitation was no joke. The invitation was printed or handwritten with admit 1. Wow! That's different. Style #1 it is. Thanks again.
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The invitation is absolutely gorgeous...it looks like a scroll and the paper part of it is not paper or it does not feel like paper, more like clothe with something like pieces of thread all over it and to the ends of the scroll are actual 2 long cinnamon sticks...can you imagine that cinnamon!...wow...so cool, you should see it. It is printed in calligraphy and the part that has "admit"..they left room for the bride and groom to write in the number. It is so beautiful....it definitely is a keeper.
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Charlotte that is what I mean about invitations. People do treasure them and they set the tone of your wedding. If they look half butt people will think that about your wedding. Horrible but true. I met someone who came to my wedding and she kept my invite in her purse. She would show it at the slightest provocation. I got a lot of compliments on it.
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Rosey I've seen beautiful invitation before but this one takes the cake....I have never appreicated invitation this much. I love it!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.