Ok ladies, here's the deal. My rsvp deadline is July 8. FH and I over-invited, assuming everyone wouldn't show up. Well, the rsvp's are coming in, and people who I thought wouldn't come, are coming now!
Because we put ourselves in this situation, we have to stick to our deadline, no exceptions.
FH suggested that any rsvps that come in after the 11th or 12th, I should send it back to them, along with a note that says something in the effect of "we can't accomodate you, we turned in our headcount, your time is up" (of course in nicer words)
I suggested that on the 11th, for rsvps that we haven't received, we should send out a letter to all of them, basically saying "Since we didn't receive your rsvp by the 8th, we are assuming you can not attend, and we will miss you" (something like that).
What do you ladies think? If you think we should send a letter, would you give me suggestions on how to word it.
Ok ladies, here's the deal. My rsvp deadline is July 8. FH and I over-invited, assuming everyone wouldn't show up. Well, the rsvp's are coming in, and people who I thought wouldn't come, are coming now!
Because we put ourselves in this situation, we have to stick to our deadline, no exceptions.
FH suggested that any rsvps that come in after the 11th or 12th, I should send it back to them, along with a note that says something in the effect of "we can't accomodate you, we turned in our headcount, your time is up" (of course in nicer words)
I suggested that on the 11th, for rsvps that we haven't received, we should send out a letter to all of them, basically saying "Since we didn't receive your rsvp by the 8th, we are assuming you can not attend, and we will miss you" (something like that).
What do you ladies think? If you think we should send a letter, would you give me suggestions on how to word it.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
b2b, although I'm sending my note along with the deadline, here's what I think. If you send the letter, don't see we assumed becuase then they will turn around and say, oh no, we're coming, then what will you say. Say something like, it is with deepest regret that we did not hear back from you. Because of this, we didn't include you in our final count to the venue. Hope all is well, etc. That's all I can think of right now.
Hey B2B, Askalot is right, if you send a letter saying we "assumed", there will be some people who will say we'd like to come. Sending a letter to those that didn't respond to your deadline is a great idea for controlling the number of people to attend your reception. When you send the letter to those who didn't respond on time, it should be put in a way that they definitely understand that they will not be able to attend. As far as how to word that, I will have to give it some thought. :-)
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Askalot is right... here is something i compiled from a bunch of other letters, if it helps feel free to use all of part of it:
Dear Such & Blah:
Thank you so much for wanting to share in our joyous day. Your love and friendship is greatly appreciated. Unfortunately, we did not hear from you by (whatever date). As a result, we are saddened to inform you that the RSVP list is closed and you were not included in the final count as it has already been submitted to (somebody). Again, thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your continued support and unwavering love. We will carry you in our hearts and minds.
Sincerely,
Bride & Groom or
Groom & Bride
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda
Great letter MsLee.
thank you sistafriend
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda
FutureMsLee broke it down like a pro.
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I havent even picked out an invitation let alon a repl card but I wil definately be printing that out right now so when the time comes I will have it on hand. Ms.Lee you the (WO)MAN !