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Taj, I understand your frustration. I would be angry,too. Your wedding week will be a hectic one and I think your FH has bit off more than he can chew on this. You definetely need to talk with him about this again and let him know that this is SERIOUS! Also, maybe you can come up with another solution for bringing his daughter to NJ.

But in all fairness to the mom, you shouldn't be angry with her about not wanting her daughter to fly or take the train alone. She is only 12 and has the body of a full-grown woman. (My 12 year old daughter is the same size). I can honestly say that I wouldn't feel comfortable with the idea of letting her travel alone.

Talk to your FH ASAP. Maybe you can come to an acceptable agreement. God Bless You!

Well said Platinum. You should definitely speak to FH, he should've received your input before making a decision. You have a right to be frustrated.

As far as the 12 year old daughter, I wouldn't let my 12 year old fly or take the train alone either. I have a 16 year old and I have issues with her traveling alone. Unfortunately the world we live in is not safe for children.

It will all work out Taj, be encouraged. Please keep the sisterhood posted.

I agree with the ladies TAJ! Now it may be because of my mood a couple days away from my wedding but I say talk to him, and if he won't budge let him go get her. Then you can both breathe freely about her safety, and ensuring that she will be there. Enlist help to manage the other things. Plus is so close to the wedding at that point, many arms will be open. I felt the same way about not having enough help in the last couple days but I was wrong. I am so calm because I haven't had to do much lately. I even was freed up so I could work some more today.

So talk to him, but try not to worry about it so much. I know you know more about marriage than I do, but someone told me the other day, sometimes you may have to chill out just for "peace sake"-as the woman told me. Whatever happens, it really will be okay. Use the people who are offering to help so they can pick up any slack when FH is gone.

Taj, you have EVERY right to be angry/pissed/upset/furious (you get my point). I swear men DO NOT think at times (most of the time). I think your idea of the friend bringing her up is good. Suggest it and see what happens.

I agree with the other ladies. You have every right to be angry, however, you should think of a plan to get things done - like someone else confirmed about getting help/assistance. Maybe there is a trend to a lot of FH's blowing caution and reasoning into the wind?

ok So I guess I am a bad mother. My son fly's to see his father in FL by himself. My son is 7. I guess it is how I was raised because I have been flying by myself since I was 6. Anywho Taj at this point I think trying to come up with a solution that works would be the best thing. I know its hard when you are upset. I do believe it is too much driving before your wedding though.

[quote="ieasha"]ok So I guess I am a bad mother. My son fly's to see his father in FL by himself. My son is 7. I guess it is how I was raised because I have been flying by myself since I was 6. Anywho Taj at this point I think trying to come up with a solution that works would be the best thing. I know its hard when you are upset. I do believe it is too much driving before your wedding though.
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I don't think you're a bad mother,Ieasha. If you feel comfortable with letting him fly alone, that good. I just wouldn't feel comfortable with letting my daughters fly alone.