Hi Ladies!
I hope you can help a sista out with a dilemma. I am assisting my cousin and his fiancee with their wedding planning. The special day is in September of this year, but for some reason I am having a hard time understanding why the Bride isn't as excited about the planning stage as I am. She's been engaged for almost a year and only has a few aspects of her wedding planned, i.e.-caterer, reception location!!!! THAT'S IT!!
I have offered my services to deal with the vendors, etc. (even though I live out-of-town), but she still doesn't seem enthusiastic. There are four months before the wedding and she hasn't bought a dress, picked out invitations, decided on decorating themes.....NOTHING!!!! What should I-the dedicated family member/future bride/wedding planner-say to make her understand how BEHIND SHE IS??
Hi Ladies!
I hope you can help a sista out with a dilemma. I am assisting my cousin and his fiancee with their wedding planning. The special day is in September of this year, but for some reason I am having a hard time understanding why the Bride isn't as excited about the planning stage as I am. She's been engaged for almost a year and only has a few aspects of her wedding planned, i.e.-caterer, reception location!!!! THAT'S IT!!
I have offered my services to deal with the vendors, etc. (even though I live out-of-town), but she still doesn't seem enthusiastic. There are four months before the wedding and she hasn't bought a dress, picked out invitations, decided on decorating themes.....NOTHING!!!! What should I-the dedicated family member/future bride/wedding planner-say to make her understand how BEHIND SHE IS??
Maybe she doesnt understand how much detail goes into a wedding. Maybe you should show her a planner that shows about where she should be.I have one in another post that I will post here later so you can print and show her.
Also think what else may be wrong?Is she having second thought? Maybe you should have a heart to heart with her and see whats going on.Its only 4 months away and she hasnt even bought a dress,maybe theres a reason.Is she and FH having problem that may sway her in another way?Also you can talk to her FH to see what he thinks. Maybe the other ladies also have advice,I 'm puzzled that she's not excited about her wedding.I cant stop talking about mines.
Here is the link.Maybe you can print it out and give it to her and she will see for herself how far behind she is. Hopefully she will get up and do what she needs to do becasue I'm sure she wouldnt want a wedding that waas theown together at the last minute. 12 Month Countdown
Maybe you could have her check out this site. I hope that all works out and that she is not have second thoughts or change of heart.
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Yes jonique nursung will do that to you. It's pretty demanding. I had 2 wedding planners cause I just couldn't deal with it. I guess that is why it's a good thing we pushed it back now I can be more involved in planning my own wedding. Lila it sounds like she may be getting cold feet you must talk to her because the dress can take from 3 to 6 months to come and then she has to have like 2 or 3 fittings.
Hi there Lilaadd! Welcome to the boards. Perhaps your your cousin's fiance doesn't know what to do. Some people are totally clueless. I was clueless until I joined the Vibride forum and realized all of the things that are necessary in planning a wedding. Maybe she has a few unexpressed concerns. Four months is not a lot of time. As AllieS suggest, perhaps you could have a conversation that would shed more light on the situation. In any event I wish you guys good luck!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I agree that you should have a heart to heart with her, and find out "whats really going on".
On another note, some brides just aren't into details. Maybe her FH is the one who wanted a wedding, but she may have been content with going to the JOP. Either way, if the wedding is set, she definately needs to get on the ball. She doesn't want to look back on her day and wish she would have put more time into it.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Maybe someone should ask her if she really wants to get married!!!
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She may want something with less fuss over it.
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