Virtuous Woman

I can speak from experience on this one- I was the daughter and my stepmom was in the same situation, the only difference is the age, I was 21 (and pregnant), my brothers were teens then and we ALL gave her hell in the beginning. Because she continued to pray and love on my despite my rebellion/attitude etc we are now closer than my mother and I and I would do anything for her now before she could ask. It's only thru God that our hearts change toward people. Just do what you feel led to do, in time she'll come to understand you're not there to take her mother's place, you're there to help your mother make her life better and to love her just as much as her natural family does. I know even 12 years later, I still in many ways resent that my mother isn't more like my "stepmom". So maybe she has the same ideal that the love she gets from you should really come from her mother. She'll come to learn that her heart is more than ample to love more than one mom.
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Mother daughter relationships are usually tough even when they are biologically yours. She may be thinking you are only a temporary fixture in her life. After the wedding things will pick up with patience and love. Just give her room to be herself. Do something SHE wants to do just you two together. If she has an interest in something like brats babies or something like that get her one when she does something unexpectedly good. If she gets a a in a subject that is difficult for her post it on the 'fridge. Take a pic of her and put it in a frame that says my daughter or even one with all the children saying my precious babies, etc. Include her in obvious public ways without saying it out loud and she will learn that you love her. She may simply not believe that you do right now. trust takes time. A year is harldy long enough sometimes.

Hang in there Purplendt. Keep praying and believe that things will get better in time. Continue to love them both unconditionally. Both Sistah and Rosetta have offered excellent advice. I wish you all the best!

Hey purple do not get discouraged...remember she is at that age now when she is trying to figure out what in the world is going on with her in terms of pubity,-- and like you said neither of them has had anyone to love them unconditionally--she may not know how to love or respond to a woman seeing that her father has been the driving force in her life all this time. Bare with her...ensure that she knows you love her and her father and you are there to compliment their lives. Keep the faith and everthing will be alright.