I am definitely relating to some of the other women posting about the stress and problems that come with weddings. I'm stuck in a quagmire as well. My wedding is Aug. 14, 2004 and I am so ready to boot my own MOH out of the wedding. It's my oldest sister but her on again off again communication with me is stressing me out. She is hypersensitive and controlling so whenever I talk about the wedding she belittles every idea, gets upset when I don't heed her overpriced wedding suggestions, and the emotional tirades and quips are too much. Its like its make the whole wedding planning an emotional ordeal.
I found out the other day, our seamstress hasn't even started on our clothes. We have 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen, myself and my husband...so how much longer should I give this woman before she's fired and we have to find another seamstress?
We're trying to do this wedding as cheaply as possible but have a good time. The way we are doing this is an earthy/down home home wedding. All linen attire for the wedding party (AFrican inspired); the reception is a down home BBQ/fish fry/seafood boil (tons o food); and its all taking place at a state park resort. My MOH claims that it sounds ghetto and not up to standard. I mean my wedding is not for my social stature but a celebration the way me and husband want it (plus we're paying for it).
Can I get some advice from the people who are going thru or got thru something similar to my predicament?
Also, what are some ideas for an earthy wedding as far as the ceremony, decorations, and wedding favors? I know these are a lot of questions but I'm stressing and have no one really to talk to that is positive.
I am definitely relating to some of the other women posting about the stress and problems that come with weddings. I'm stuck in a quagmire as well. My wedding is Aug. 14, 2004 and I am so ready to boot my own MOH out of the wedding. It's my oldest sister but her on again off again communication with me is stressing me out. She is hypersensitive and controlling so whenever I talk about the wedding she belittles every idea, gets upset when I don't heed her overpriced wedding suggestions, and the emotional tirades and quips are too much. Its like its make the whole wedding planning an emotional ordeal.
I found out the other day, our seamstress hasn't even started on our clothes. We have 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen, myself and my husband...so how much longer should I give this woman before she's fired and we have to find another seamstress?
We're trying to do this wedding as cheaply as possible but have a good time. The way we are doing this is an earthy/down home home wedding. All linen attire for the wedding party (AFrican inspired); the reception is a down home BBQ/fish fry/seafood boil (tons o food); and its all taking place at a state park resort. My MOH claims that it sounds ghetto and not up to standard. I mean my wedding is not for my social stature but a celebration the way me and husband want it (plus we're paying for it).
Can I get some advice from the people who are going thru or got thru something similar to my predicament?
Also, what are some ideas for an earthy wedding as far as the ceremony, decorations, and wedding favors? I know these are a lot of questions but I'm stressing and have no one really to talk to that is positive.
I can relate to how your feeling. Take a deep breathe and ask your seamstress when she's going to get started. All the while shop around for another one. Since its so close to your wedding date, it may be hard to find one that'll fill your order so quickly. As far as your MOH, she's not the right one for that possition. I've posted on this board also and had to realize that everyone doesn't have your best interest at heart. BE it family, friends whomever. I too had a problem with 2 BM's and MOH. I ended up dropping 3 people until I felt comfortable with who I had. THis is YOUR DAY and you can do as you please. If you want to toilet paper your body to resemble a dress and eat tuna, its up to you. Not even so much your husband to be. As long as you two are there and are happy that's all that counts. I had my mom, aunt, his mom plus several cousins on my back to where I thought I was going to never stop crying. I had to let everyone know that this is about me and him so back off. (and we're not even paying for this, my parents are). Don't let these folks stress you, if not it'll reflect on your big day. And you'll be miserable. As far as earthy favors, In adition to picture frame's ( place settings) I'm giving away mini bamboo trees in little dishes. It's easy to make and very very affordable. we're getting the trees from SHoprite ( or whatever your local supermarket is). There where they sell the flowers- really they are. They come in a bunch of maybe 30 stalks at 3.00 a bunch. I got my little dishes from AC MOORE or any craft store for like 59cents a peice. And I got the rocks from the 99cents store. We ordered ribbons and their going to be hot glued on the dish. voila. . that's it. ADD WATER and move on. IT's earthy and something people will keep. YOu just keep the rocks wet and the plant will grow forever. NO DIRT NEEDED. I don't know too much about the atire situation, my dress was worn by my mother in law 20yrs ago.
Peace, Blessings and NO STRESS
Jasnigel
wed date 8/21/04
I've learned that
people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but
people will never forget how you made them feel."
- Maya Angelou
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Jasnigel I really like your ideas. Very tasteful yet inexpensive. Melohello, don't think inexpensive is the same as cheap. It is not at all the same thing. But do give yourself a budget -- then stick to it. You may be surprised how quickly a "cheap" wedding can out price an elegant one!
I would drop her as your bridesmaid. It is quite ok to do so. She is there to keep you calm, centered and on track. It doesn't seem like she is doing either!!!!
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Well actually she just dropped out of the wedding last week, so she has succeeded in her mind that she has ruined my wedding but actually, i have made my grateful, kind, patient, and understanding best friend be my MOH and just moved one of our groomsmen to Keeper of the Broom. so actually i just ignored her and didn't go into detail about the wedding and eventually she claimed that she didn't have the funds to fly down for the wedding even though she had over a year to book her flight and refuse to do so when she had the money. My sister is a drama queen to the highest degree. Think of a real life Toni Childs (character from Girlfriends) with the pay of Maya from Girlfriends. I have 2 weeks before my wedding and my only stress is getting to our big day and having big day, instead of big drama!! Praise God!