Wedding Party Drop Outs!!!!HELP

Of course you are right to want YOUR wedding to be about YOU. Why your moh is trying on wedding gowns when she's supossed to be helping you is beyond me. I don't know how much time you have before YOUR day but I strongly suggest that you nip everything in the bud. Explain in plan simple terms that it is a special day foy your FH and YOU. Either the attendants (and who ever else that's making it not about YOU) can get on board or be left at the dock and you and your fh sail that ship without them.

[quote="prayandreceive"]My maid of honor is trying to make my wedding all about her. I took her with me to help select my dress....she totally took over my bridal consultant....she tried on every wedding dress that would fit and asked me to take pics of her in all of them. [/quote]

OH LORDY! That is the worst case of bride envy I have heard of to date. It is not unusual for your MOH to feel a little envious, but enough is enough. You should go try on your gowns with your Mother if you can. I usually suggest that. Your mother will be honest about what you look like in your dress, even when you have different opinions about what is fashionable or not. YOU will know when the right dress is on you and you won't have to deal with playah hatin'.

I don't know how you can get your MOH to back off without hurting her feelings, but I am sure the bridal shop owner may make a few pointed statements sooner or later. lol

First PrayandReceive, I absolutely love your screen name!!!!! Gurl, my heart goes out to you! As tactfully as possible, you simply must regain control. This is your day, and I agree with Rosetta, this is the worst case of bridal envy that I have seen too. Take your mom with you for such important details as choosing a wedding gown and wedding bands. I am taking my daughter, unfortunately I don't have too many people that would be supportive (without the envy). In any event I wish you all the best with you wedding. Remember, it's your day.

Gurl eloping sounds good to me right now (we are not talking about that). I am so stressed between finding an apartment and planning for this wedding and all of the other drama that is happening. PrayandReceive, I wish you and your FH all the best in however you choose to experience your special day!

Thank you PrayandReceive I truly appreciate your kindness. I will just continue to "Pray", "and" know that I will "Recive" God's best for me! (Sounds like a gospel rap song coming on...)

Ms Prayandreceive, first of all, welcome to the site. Second of all I think that it is time for you to put your foot down and draw a line in the sand otherwise things will only get worse. I believe its well within your rights as an engaged couple to calmly ask people to either fall in line with your plans or step aside and watch the magic happen, don't let anything hijack y'alls day. You're not going to be able to make EVERYONE happy so I suggest you tend to you and your FH's happiness and those that truly care will be happy that you're happy. You get much respect for not knocking your MOH upside her head, goodness, if it were me I might've lost my religion for a minute...just long enough to knock some sense back into her. All the best for the rest of your planning.

Hello Ladies, I am new to the site and want to Congratulate you all on your engagements and upcoming nuptials. I look forwardnto chatting with you all. Prayandreceive I do believe that your MOH is a little envious and very selfish. If you are skeptical about talking with her about this matter just don't invite her to participate in events such as gown shopping, etc. My mother, grandmother and future mother-in-law went with me and it was very pleasant. If you still have a living and able bodied mother share that special moment with her instead. This is you and your FH's time to shine and you all don't need any potential headaches. It's evident that your MOH has some issues but perhaps just sitting down and talking with her with bring her selfish act to the forefront and she will not do it again.

A monthlong honeymoon, you are a woman after my own heart, I am excited for you! Here's a word of advice from the other side, my husband and I also cancelled our reception just days before the wedding and we saw it as a way to take a stand against the conflama (conflict and drama, my new word for 2006)that our families were inflicting upon us. While it did feel good to finally take a stand, I will admit that we did miss out on several important parts of the reception...the cake, champagne toast, dancing etc. Quite frankly he and I were just so mad at everyone that we said to heck with all the frills and at the end of the day, we're the ones who were most hurt by that decision. I wish I would've focused more on what I wanted rather than fighting so hard for what I didn't want. That in itself was a serious life lesson. Don't let me rain on your parade, I'm just sharing the bit of wisdom that hindsight gave me.

prayandreceive, Being a part of this site is great therapy. The more you read about other brides-to-be and their "situation" you either feel better or the same. I've been complaining about my attendants not helping with anything or even asking if I need help. After reading about you I see that that can be a good thing. We must count our blessings. In your case your MOH has issues. I'm sure you don't want to wear a gown she already tried on so on the sly go to another shop with a close relative and check out dresses. My attendants don't even know what's up with 99% of my plans. Go figure. I'm the executive producer, director etc. They are the actors who will show up and get their script right before the rehearsal. The less they know the better. Too many opinions can be annoying. Maybe you should slowly wean your MOH out of knowing most of what you're doing. You have to look out for yourself and your FH. There are people who thrive off making other people stressed. The two people you mentioned seem to be those people. If your vibes tell you something believe it. You're supposed to be happy and bubbly about your upcoming nuptials everyday. P.S. Shouldn't you and your FH go to pick out the wedding bands together? Good luck.

Tauyana and Marshine you guys have offered PrayandReceive excellent advice. I am so grateful for this site. Marshine I too am the executive producer and director. I am learning more and more each day to totally lean on God and keep my mouth shut. I wish all of you ladies all the best and I pray that your wedding experience will be exactly how you want it to be!