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first I want to tell you some things about me, i'm 1 of 7 children from a single parent home, me & my twin sister are the only high school graduates, and I will be the first to graduate from college (lots of pressure). I have 2 lovely daughters that I want to set an example for and a FH that is a go getter type of man, whom I want to stay on the same page with.
We have pushed the wedding back 2 or 3 times and want to move on with our new life as graduates & newly weds.
Now,I want to focus on nursing school cause if I fail I am gonna die since I wont be able to breathe. My wedding is 2 weeks before I graduate from college, so I asked that my wedding planner be able to do most of the work for the the wedding and I will be making all the decisions on how I want everything, she said ok, but now I started purchasing things like the save the date cards and I even had them printed up for her.
I called her to let her know I was dropping them off so she can address & mail them, but she said she would print them and give them back, then with the invitations we're gonna have the guests call instead of wasting stamps (some people don't respond & show up)so I said then they can call you ( don't want the phone ringing while i'm trying to study)she says well I don't think your family wants to call me and I don't care for them to have my phone number.
she is my cousins wife, very dependable and all, but is sometimes different. What should I do? Do you think I am asking for too much by wanting her to do everything?
hi, ladies
(Info. Needed for feedback)
first I want to tell you some things about me, i'm 1 of 7 children from a single parent home, me & my twin sister are the only high school graduates, and I will be the first to graduate from college (lots of pressure). I have 2 lovely daughters that I want to set an example for and a FH that is a go getter type of man, whom I want to stay on the same page with.
We have pushed the wedding back 2 or 3 times and want to move on with our new life as graduates & newly weds.
Now,I want to focus on nursing school cause if I fail I am gonna die since I wont be able to breathe. My wedding is 2 weeks before I graduate from college, so I asked that my wedding planner be able to do most of the work for the the wedding and I will be making all the decisions on how I want everything, she said ok, but now I started purchasing things like the save the date cards and I even had them printed up for her.
I called her to let her know I was dropping them off so she can address & mail them, but she said she would print them and give them back, then with the invitations we're gonna have the guests call instead of wasting stamps (some people don't respond & show up)so I said then they can call you ( don't want the phone ringing while i'm trying to study)she says well I don't think your family wants to call me and I don't care for them to have my phone number.
she is my cousins wife, very dependable and all, but is sometimes different. What should I do? Do you think I am asking for too much by wanting her to do everything?
Are you paying her by the hour or a flat rate commission. I see that she is a relative, so remembr to treat her like a professional and not a friend if you are doing business with her.
She may be a bit put out because many planners earn commissions on things like invitations, rentals, location fees. etc. You might be taking money out of her pocket when you purchase things and not discuss them with her first. Find out on paper what she is going to do and the let her do it. That way you can concentrate on getting your degree and having an unbelievebly beautiful wedding. About the STD cards, why not have the responses emailed?
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I agree with Rosey....is this cousin being paid? if so then tell her what you want and not the other way around...nah if she is only doing you are favor then houston we have a problem. I do not agree with teltphoning invitations - as quick as they hang that phone up they forget (especially if small children demanding their attention), send those hard copies out and then they can email responses.
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I offered to pay her, but she says she has been blessed and I don't have to pay her. My FH and I are paying for the wedding, so me and the wedding planner shop together for the things that I need. I am just worried that she will not do all the things I need her to do. I need her on top of things, am I wrong for that? my FH says why does she have to do everything we can do it. I don't think he understands even though he says try to focus more on school than the wedding because at first he was thinking I would focus more on the wedding. I have another cousin who just did a wedding and she ran down everything she does sounded good what do you think?
Hi VirtuousV, remember communication is key. Talk to her. Explain what you would like and find out if it is feasible for her. Have a candid conversation and tell her that you are under a lot of pressure to complete your degree and you just need to know that your wedding is being taken care of. Since she has refused to accept payment, then you must rely on communication. Best of luck!
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Thank you rosetta & rhonda I will have a talk with her and see what happens.
Hello! Virtuous V as a Wedding planner i dont think that your are asking her to do to much, she is to be there when you need her. if your paying here a big fee she should do her job right. after all it is part of her job to mail the invitations and save the date cards also do the finally phone calls of anyone who has not yet responded to the reply cards. long story short your are not asking to much, you just want her to do her job.
Thank you happilyMarried cause i'm not sure what all the wedding planner is suppose to do, I just know I need a lot of help. Maybe Rosey can answer that question for me.
Well V just expain it to her. But, as a planner she should have voicemail for RSVP's or opt to have them email replys.
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Ms Virtuous one I would say that your first mistake was letting a family member be your wedding planner. You should never mix business with family because things happen,and I say this becasue I am going through a situation of my own with my FH's family. Please do not let this ruin your relationship with this wman,if she cant get on the ball go get you a real wedding planner. I know people try to help you out and all but its better for you if you got someone else.You dont need to be stressing out over wedding stuff when you have school,finals,kids and a household to take care of.Especially if you are paying her anykind of fee, I dont care if its a penny.If you originally offered to pay her then that means you can pay someone else. I will keep you in my prayers becasue I am my own wedding planner and my SIL just asked me to help her plan her 10 year vow renewal and I really have to think hard about that becasue I dont want to cause no problems if I cant meet her expectaions.And plus me and her husband are too cool becaue of my wedding plans....(long story you get parts of it from other posts).