Hello All,
My fiance and I plan to get married in March 2007. He is family is from Nigeria and they can sometimes be a bit controlling (some of you ladies might be able to relate). Knowing this, we took it upon ourselves to make a lot of the wedding preparations on our own (such as location of ceremony and reception, photographer, videographer, florist, etc.) without any input from them; they don't even know we've gone this far with the planning. We plan to meet with them (out of respect) to let them know what is going on and I have a feeling they are going to be very offended about us proceeding without any input from them. We chose to do it this way because I knew if we asked them for input, they would steer us away from what I really wanted. If it was up to them, we would have a very traditional Nigerian wedding and that is not what I want. Was I wrong?
BTW, we plan to pay for the 95% of this wedding on our own. I hope that bit of information helps.
Hello All,
My fiance and I plan to get married in March 2007. He is family is from Nigeria and they can sometimes be a bit controlling (some of you ladies might be able to relate). Knowing this, we took it upon ourselves to make a lot of the wedding preparations on our own (such as location of ceremony and reception, photographer, videographer, florist, etc.) without any input from them; they don't even know we've gone this far with the planning. We plan to meet with them (out of respect) to let them know what is going on and I have a feeling they are going to be very offended about us proceeding without any input from them. We chose to do it this way because I knew if we asked them for input, they would steer us away from what I really wanted. If it was up to them, we would have a very traditional Nigerian wedding and that is not what I want. Was I wrong?
BTW, we plan to pay for the 95% of this wedding on our own. I hope that bit of information helps.
Welcome Choco-chick! Yes I have dealt with Nigerians before, very aggressive personalities. You just have to assert yourself as well. if you're felxible on some things, ask for opinions. If not, don't waiver, or you will be walked over.
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
First of all welcome!!! Second I agree with Niquey, the two of you will just have to stand firm. The bottom line is the two of you already have a vision for your day, if you did not the family would have been consulted from the start. It is not going to be easy but in the end it's your day and on your day you should DO YOU.
Were getting married.........again!
Welcome Choc18grl! I agree with Niquey & Tara! For the most part it is your wedding have it your way! Good luck in your planning.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Welcome, Choc!I agree with the other ladies.Also remember that even though the in-laws are controlling and agressive, they may have more respect for you knowing that you stood your ground.
Born Blessed!
Welcome girl and I agree with the ladies here. Stand yor ground or you will be sorry.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
[quote="platinumstyle"]Welcome, Choc!I agree with the other ladies.Also remember that even though the in-laws are controlling and agressive, they may have more respect for you knowing that you stood your ground.
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So true Platinum, remember Cho18grl this is your wedding day.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Key Word: YOUR!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Thanks to all of you for the very warm welcome! We haven't met with them yet, but I will approach this situation with my new-found confidence that this is MY wedding and I want it to be a memorable event for ME!
Thanks!
Yes, this is YOUR day. It should be a joyus and happy occasion. No matter what you decide to do, don't let anybody steal your happiness in-laws included! Remeber sis we got your back.
Were getting married.........again!
Just face this head on and stand your ground :-)
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
[quote="chocl8grl"]Thanks to all of you for the very warm welcome! We haven't met with them yet, but I will approach this situation with my new-found confidence that this is MY wedding and I want it to be a memorable event for ME!
Thanks!
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You go girl! Now that's what I'm talking about.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37