Ok, here it is.
I have a 13 year old son (not with FH), and a 5 year old daughter (with FH). FH has a 13 year old son (not with me)and a 12 year old daughter (not with me). They are all in the wedding party, along with FH's 7 year old nephew.
The kids cannot sit at the head table with us, so where should I sit them? Should I sit them at a table together, or should I spread them out with adults?
The problem is our kids don't always get along with each other. They have gotten better since they got older, but sometimes they still get into arguments (just like any other biological siblings I guess). Even when they are getting along good, they can still be abnoxious (sp?)
I am worried that if I sit them at a table by themselves, unsupervised, then will act up, and I don't want to go through dinner having to keep saying "stop", "be quiet", "sit down", etc..
On the other hand, I am worried that if I split them up, and sit my son with my family, and FH's son with his family, for one, they will look like they were not part of the wedding party, and for two, we won't like like a happy family. People may wonder why I didn't sit the kids together.
Someone told me I could sit them all together, then just sit a couple of adults at their table, but I don't want any of my guests to feel like they have to "baby-sit" at my reception. Help Please!
Ok, here it is.
I have a 13 year old son (not with FH), and a 5 year old daughter (with FH). FH has a 13 year old son (not with me)and a 12 year old daughter (not with me). They are all in the wedding party, along with FH's 7 year old nephew.
The kids cannot sit at the head table with us, so where should I sit them? Should I sit them at a table together, or should I spread them out with adults?
The problem is our kids don't always get along with each other. They have gotten better since they got older, but sometimes they still get into arguments (just like any other biological siblings I guess). Even when they are getting along good, they can still be abnoxious (sp?)
I am worried that if I sit them at a table by themselves, unsupervised, then will act up, and I don't want to go through dinner having to keep saying "stop", "be quiet", "sit down", etc..
On the other hand, I am worried that if I split them up, and sit my son with my family, and FH's son with his family, for one, they will look like they were not part of the wedding party, and for two, we won't like like a happy family. People may wonder why I didn't sit the kids together.
Someone told me I could sit them all together, then just sit a couple of adults at their table, but I don't want any of my guests to feel like they have to "baby-sit" at my reception. Help Please!
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First off, don't worry about what people think. No matter how you do it they will have something to say. At any rate, you could sit all of the kids in the bridal party at a table together. And in my opinion, your kids should all be together. The youngest is 7 and the others are 12-13 they can sit at the table and behave I'm sure. Kids are going to tease each other and argue but as long as they don't get out of hand I think they will be fine. You have the three teenagers who should be mature enough to conduct themselves in a civilized manner and watch the younger one too. So girl don't sweat it!
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Hey there B2B I would sit all of the children in the bridal party together at one table. Perhaps you could ask one of the hostesses, ushers or a family member to check in with them to ensure that everything is going ok. Girl, I'm sure it will all work out.
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I say you and FH have a talk with the kids and have them all sit together. This is a start for a blended family. Don't start it off by having separation.
You ladies are right. I am just going to have to tell the kids that if they make one noise during dinner, I'm going to put my foot in their you know whats!! Just kidding! I won't use those exact words, but they'll know what I mean.
I guess I'm just getting so close to the day that I'm starting to worry about everything little thing, even the petty stuff.
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Actually it's not petty at all....it's a very good question that all of us really need to take into consideration.
Let me ask how many people are in your bridal party....maybe you can have 2 head tables....yours on the upper level and the bottom table the children can sit too and the ushers/hostessess can sit there with them...that way the children will have chaperons and no one will feel left out especially the ushers because normally after the ceremony - they are forgotten about :-)
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Actually Charly, originally it was supposed to be like that. The adults in the wedding party was going to sit at the head table on the riser, and there was going to be a long table on the floor right in front of us for the kids.
The problem now is the riser is only long enough to hold 16 people. (there are 20 adults in the bridal party including the bride and groom), so the way we had to do it was FH and I will be at a round table on the riser, then the rest of the party will be in front of us on the floor, at a long head table. Unfortunately, We still can't sit the kids with the rest of the bridal party because of the length of the tables. The tables will be too long, and will interfere with the rest of the room set up.
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Can't you put a 10 set round taboe in front of the bridal party table?
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I may be able to. I am going to check with the site coordinator to see what can be done.
Now that I think about it, that may be impossible because the way the room is set up, the dance floor will be right in front of head table.
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This is my idea to handle kids at the wedding:
Anyone can bring their kids but during the ceremony and reception, I am hiring two child-care providers. The kids will have a TV with DVDs, toys and whatever else kids want or need in that room and they will have their own "party" with supervision, while the sdults are free to enjoy the reception.
The room will be close to the aactual events, so parents will be free to check in on their kids at any time, but that way, it will be an adult-only affair, but those without babysitters and the like can still come and not worry about their children.
Have a great day!
Serenity
Very thoughtful AlwaysABride!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37