One of my bm's (FH's sister) is driving me nuts. I love her dearly, but she just don't know when to put a "sock in it". When I first started planning, I had all the bm's come over my house to look through magazines, books, etc.. for bm's dresses. She had something to say about every one I picked out "I don't like that", "I don't wear strapless", "Why this one?", etc... I finally picked out the dress, and I guess she's ok with it because she hasn't said nothing.
Now, I finally picked out the shoes. She just called me five minutes ago from the shoe store like, "you sure you want these", "i like these other ones better", "these are stripper shoes", etc...
It just urks me because I am worried about so many other aspects of this wedding, and I just don't want to hear it from them. I want them to support my decisions. I would totally understand if I was trying to put them in something that was just plain old "ugly", like a checker dress with ruffles, feathers, striped shoes. You ladies understand where I'm coming from? I'm too stressed as it is. I did the best I could do to make sure I found a dress that was fit for everyone, but I'm not bending on the shoes. I like them, and that's that! The first pair of shoes I picked had a high heel, but these have a smaller heel. I figured these would be perfect because I have a few girls who are not used to wearing heels. Tell me what you ladies think.
The dress is the one on the right, and it will be black.
Bridesmaid Dress
Bridesmaid Shoes
One of my bm's (FH's sister) is driving me nuts. I love her dearly, but she just don't know when to put a "sock in it". When I first started planning, I had all the bm's come over my house to look through magazines, books, etc.. for bm's dresses. She had something to say about every one I picked out "I don't like that", "I don't wear strapless", "Why this one?", etc... I finally picked out the dress, and I guess she's ok with it because she hasn't said nothing.
Now, I finally picked out the shoes. She just called me five minutes ago from the shoe store like, "you sure you want these", "i like these other ones better", "these are stripper shoes", etc...
It just urks me because I am worried about so many other aspects of this wedding, and I just don't want to hear it from them. I want them to support my decisions. I would totally understand if I was trying to put them in something that was just plain old "ugly", like a checker dress with ruffles, feathers, striped shoes. You ladies understand where I'm coming from? I'm too stressed as it is. I did the best I could do to make sure I found a dress that was fit for everyone, but I'm not bending on the shoes. I like them, and that's that! The first pair of shoes I picked had a high heel, but these have a smaller heel. I figured these would be perfect because I have a few girls who are not used to wearing heels. Tell me what you ladies think.
The dress is the one on the right, and it will be black.
Bridesmaid Dress
Bridesmaid Shoes
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
I forgot to add that I have been a bm in three weddings, and I have never, ever complained to the bride about what she picked out. (I might have complained to myself, or FH, but never to the bride)
People just have no consideration.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
That's because the don't want you to forget that they're there.
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If it were me, and it's the dress I picked out because that's what I like, she would have NO SAY SO. Maybe I have the wrong attitude, but I do not want any unnessesary stress.
The dress and shoes are fine. Tell her to go suck an egg! It's your wedding, not hers.
That dress is really nice. Is that the 1 of your wedding colors? I like the shoes. Will the BM
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Great point Mo. I never considered that before at all! bride2be805, She may just want to feel involved. Every woman has an opinion about someone elses wedding. We all have. We don't get that it is the BRIDE'S wedding and our opinion doesn't count for crap. Especially when we usually give and take adice on clothes when shopping together on a normal day. She will survive wearing the dress for a couple hours. She can sell it on ebay
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I would not worry about it b2b, people are always going to have something to say about you & your wedding even if it is better than perfect somebody will find something wrong with it. It's your day and that means it's all about you.
First of all I want to say, how in the heck did those pictures get there? I posted links because I didn't know how to post pictures.......strange.
Anyway, thanks ladies for responding. The bm's will be wearing these shoes all night. I tried them on myself and they are pretty comfortable. At first, I had a different style picked out, and if I would have went with those, I was going to buy them slippers as attendants gifts.
I know you can't please everyone, I just wish they had enough consideration to not tell me. They know it really doesn't make a difference if they like it or not, so why fuss? They just need to roll with the punches, and only give opinions when they are asked for. People also need to realize that a wedding is a reflection of the bride and groom's style, not everyone elses.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
B2B I always say "It's your day, do it your way!". When this particular bridesmaid has her own wedding, then she can pick out the shoes, etc. Until then she has accepted your invitation to be a bridesmaid and that's that! Her job is to be supportive of you and the decisions you make concerning your wedding. Shame on her!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Folks are so messy! Can't they just show up and be supportive? I know where you are coming from.You have made the choice and thats that, she will just have it live with it and be quiet.
Were getting married.........again!
Well, take it all with a grain of salt. I have this built in BS filter; I get a look on my face like 'hey, what you're saying is really important to me'. After the statement is made, hey I'm back to my original plan, keep it moving!
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
I think some people forget that it's YOUR wedding, not theirs.Your BM needs to learn to respect your choices and keep her mouth shut.I understand constructive criticism but she's not helping the situation.
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So true Platinum!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37