that is so true, he has to make sure you get your respect, if not the other women will continue to run over you. And you must stand your grown and make sure that you get nothing less than what you deserve!
Niquey...I likey Curt :-)....man after my own heart....that is what you call putting his foot down and letting them know what time it is....Big ups to Curt.....
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
It goes back to what I said before.They still want him and can't let go.I noticed that some of you also had a similar problem that I had.These women have children(not by your FH) and they used the excuse that these men help raise these kids or knew them for a long time.One of these chicks even have the nerve to say "I've been knowing him for 20 years and I have a 19 year old daughter by him".I just laughed in her face and changed the number.
[quote="CharlotteModebe"] This situation can be sugar coated until the cows come home but it will never be resolved until Mr. Man puts his foot down.
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And let me add that this should be resolved BEFORE the wedding!!!!!!!!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
It needs to be resolved way before the wedding, I understand the whole not wanting your dude to think your jealous or not wanting to to seem irrational about your man having female friends. I truly do. Been there, done that. Once the chickens forget their place, if your man don't do it than you have to be the one to ring that neck, fry their ass up and put em on the plate. Meaning let them know you are allowing them to continue contact with your dude. When they violate all bets are off. Any and all contact muct stop immediatly.
Now see, this has got me showin' ya'll the other side of me. Folks I grew up with, my immediate fam' and the ones that got tha smack down are the only ones who saw that side. My EX hasn't even seen it. Oh he came close a few weeks ago , but that's another story. LOL
No worries Charly, we have our good days and bad days. I've decided to go to Vegas for my birthday(former wedding day). You know, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. HAHAHAHAHAHA
My cousin is trying to get me to go to Jamaica with her. She says I need to be like Stella and get my groove back. My cousin is a nut. But I am considering it. HAHAHAHAHA
So you see, no smack downs are needed. These two trips will be smack down enough.
I hear Vete is going to Jamaica, How Vete got her groove back huh...sounds like a good movie, if stella can do it so can you. Just make sure you know your man Stella man was gay and is taking her for a ride.Tell us how it goes.
[quote="L_EVET"]It needs to be resolved way before the wedding, I understand the whole not wanting your dude to think your jealous or not wanting to to seem irrational about your man having female friends. I truly do. Been there, done that. Once the chickens forget their place, if your man don't do it than you have to be the one to ring that neck, fry their ass up and put em on the plate. Meaning let them know you are allowing them to continue contact with your dude. When they violate all bets are off. Any and all contact muct stop immediatly.
[/quote] That's right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="L_EVET"]No worries Charly, we have our good days and bad days. I've decided to go to Vegas for my birthday(former wedding day). You know, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. HAHAHAHAHAHA
My cousin is trying to get me to go to Jamaica with her. She says I need to be like Stella and get my groove back. My cousin is a nut. But I am considering it. HAHAHAHAHA
So you see, no smack downs are needed. These two trips will be smack down enough.
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Girl...I've heard that about Vegas (lol)....listen any opportunity you get to have some fun and take your mind off things please do so.....you are coming along very nice and I am very happy for you. xoxoxox
[quote="AllieS"]Stella man was gay and is taking her for a ride.Tell us how it goes. [/quote]
WHAT'S THIS????????
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Yall craaaaazy! (please don't take this personal, no sugar added here) I too agree that this should be resolved way before the wedding and unfortunately I think your FH is the problem, not these ladies. These women are going to do what he allows them to do. And NO this isn't a man thing it's a disrespectful thing. Not only does your FH have to put his foot down, but so do you. Let him know that if you are to be his wife (first in his life) then you will not tolerate this. There is a thin line between right and wrong and this is straight up wrong.
Ladies you all know I love you guys and I want the best for each of you...but this topic is really becoming a thorn in my side...talking about this dude and his ex's is really getting on my last nerves...I do not want to make MistyJ upset but honey you need to deal with this (bleep) and move on....How many years have this been going on...do you think it will change after the wedding, good father help me...I will not respond to this again...I am really trying to be nice but I have had it....I do not like drama and I've never put myself in a situation to be exposed to drama and I feel this is drama so I am done!!
I pray you have the strength you need to fix this mess.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
[quote="platinumstyle"]Niquey, she pulled a gun on you?Oh No, Sista.My father was in the army and I was taught that you never pull a gun on someone unless you plan to use it.Sista girl would have had it snatched from her and probably been beaten with it.I'm serious.Anyway, MzTajsia, your FH needs to understand that YOU come first.These chicks need to understand that he has a woman and they need to move on!He thinks that he's just being nice.But the women use that as a way of holding on to him.They aren't calling just to be friendly, THEY STILL WANT HIM.
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i just dont get it... WHY CANT AN EX-GIRLFRIEND REALIZE THAT SHE IS ALREADY AN EX ?!!!! ex-girlfriends.. dont they have their own life? are there no more men in this whole wide universe that they have to keep running after our man? or,.. cant they respect themselves by NOT chasing a man who already HAS a woman????? ex-girlfriends, gee.. i really think that this is a very dangerous and important issue after nuclear bomb!!!
They dont realize it because the men are still dipping with them. The guys are probably telling the girlfriend how they dont want the exes any more and they dont know why her crazy ass is calling them. And later telling the ex that he is only dealing with the girlfriend because of financial reasons, children, etc.... Trust me most woman dont act crazy just because.
[quote="housewife147"]They dont realize it because the men are still dipping with them. The guys are probably telling the girlfriend how they dont want the exes any more and they dont know why her crazy ass is calling them. And later telling the ex that he is only dealing with the girlfriend because of financial reasons, children, etc.... Trust me most woman dont act crazy just because.
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Ditto and where we as women go wrong we try to check the ex instead of the MAN!!!!!!!!!
so which one sucks the most? ex-girlfriend, or the boyfriend??? but yeah,.. ex-gfs got crazy because crazy boyfriends told them some crazy words, and girlfriends are crazy as well for got carried into the craziness by blowing things only to the crazy ex-gfs instead of checking crazy boyfriend,... crazy in deed..
[quote="housewife147"]They dont realize it because the men are still dipping with them. The guys are probably telling the girlfriend how they dont want the exes any more and they dont know why her crazy ass is calling them. And later telling the ex that he is only dealing with the girlfriend because of financial reasons, children, etc.... Trust me most woman dont act crazy just because.
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Thats so true... In most instances the girl would not act crazy unless someone is fuelling the fire... On the other hand, some psychos know about you and they make it their mission to break up your relationship just because - those kinds are the ones you should be wary of.
[quote="housewife147"]You are so right. The only time I would check the girl is if she knew about me and our relationship and just didnt give a damn.
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Girl that is my biggest thing. When a chick knows the deal and then chooses to be disrespectful. I don't handle that well at all.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
I WANTED TO SAY I AM GOING THREW THE SAME THING BUT MY FH EXES DOES SOME VERY HURTFUL THINGS.LIKE WHEN SHE SAY OUR ENGAGEMENT ANNOUCEMENT IN THE PAPER SHE MAILED HIM PICTURES OF HIM AND THE BABY THAT THEY LOST THAT SHE DESTROYED [/quote]
ooookkk! now THIS is truly a PSYCHO!! a very mean spirited, spiteful, hateful person that truly needs some prayer (but I vote for major a** whopping!!!)
I don't think you're being insecure. I don't like the idea that the man stil entertain the woman. She's an ex for a reason!! I guess they just want to be friendly but the ex doesn't see it like that.
Teresa1167 expecting your FH to handle his past ex is not being insecure!!! You need to let a brother know how you feel. He should not be entertaining sista fatal attraction!!! She is out of her ever loving mind.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Sista I believe you have a very valid point. I'm sorry they lost the baby, but if that was the only thing they had between them, then he should cut all ties. Ex girlfriend won't be able to get over him or the past if they keep talking. Maybe he feels sorry for her because she hasn't found a great love like he has. Maybe you and FH should have the talk if the situation is making you uncomfortable.
that is so true, he has to make sure you get your respect, if not the other women will continue to run over you. And you must stand your grown and make sure that you get nothing less than what you deserve!
not stressed anymore! Thanks to my Vibrides!! :)
Amen Sistahs!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Niquey...I likey Curt :-)....man after my own heart....that is what you call putting his foot down and letting them know what time it is....Big ups to Curt.....
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
It goes back to what I said before.They still want him and can't let go.I noticed that some of you also had a similar problem that I had.These women have children(not by your FH) and they used the excuse that these men help raise these kids or knew them for a long time.One of these chicks even have the nerve to say "I've been knowing him for 20 years and I have a 19 year old daughter by him".I just laughed in her face and changed the number.
Born Blessed!
That's what I'm talking about PlatinumS, let 'em know what time it is!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
This situation can be sugar coated until the cows come home but it will never be resolved until Mr. Man puts his foot down.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
That's right Charly!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="CharlotteModebe"] This situation can be sugar coated until the cows come home but it will never be resolved until Mr. Man puts his foot down.
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And let me add that this should be resolved BEFORE the wedding!!!!!!!!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
It needs to be resolved way before the wedding, I understand the whole not wanting your dude to think your jealous or not wanting to to seem irrational about your man having female friends. I truly do. Been there, done that. Once the chickens forget their place, if your man don't do it than you have to be the one to ring that neck, fry their ass up and put em on the plate. Meaning let them know you are allowing them to continue contact with your dude. When they violate all bets are off. Any and all contact muct stop immediatly.
that's right! we're behind you girl, do your thing, because it doesn't seem like his going to!
not stressed anymore! Thanks to my Vibrides!! :)
Ladies you are sooooooooo right!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="L_EVET"] you have to be the one to ring that neck, fry their ass up and put em on the plate. [/quote]
That's telling em like it is....BUP BUP!!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I know that's right! HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Now see, this has got me showin' ya'll the other side of me. Folks I grew up with, my immediate fam' and the ones that got tha smack down are the only ones who saw that side. My EX hasn't even seen it. Oh he came close a few weeks ago , but that's another story. LOL
He should've....that may have slapped his hip back to reality for what he did....
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
No worries Charly, we have our good days and bad days. I've decided to go to Vegas for my birthday(former wedding day). You know, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. HAHAHAHAHAHA
My cousin is trying to get me to go to Jamaica with her. She says I need to be like Stella and get my groove back. My cousin is a nut. But I am considering it. HAHAHAHAHA
So you see, no smack downs are needed. These two trips will be smack down enough.
I hear Vete is going to Jamaica, How Vete got her groove back huh...sounds like a good movie, if stella can do it so can you. Just make sure you know your man Stella man was gay and is taking her for a ride.Tell us how it goes.
Vete ain't nothing like the night in Vegas to make you forget the rest of the world! Ha Ha!! Have a blast girl. I can't wait to get back there.
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
[quote="L_EVET"]It needs to be resolved way before the wedding, I understand the whole not wanting your dude to think your jealous or not wanting to to seem irrational about your man having female friends. I truly do. Been there, done that. Once the chickens forget their place, if your man don't do it than you have to be the one to ring that neck, fry their ass up and put em on the plate. Meaning let them know you are allowing them to continue contact with your dude. When they violate all bets are off. Any and all contact muct stop immediatly.
[/quote] That's right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="L_EVET"]No worries Charly, we have our good days and bad days. I've decided to go to Vegas for my birthday(former wedding day). You know, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. HAHAHAHAHAHA
My cousin is trying to get me to go to Jamaica with her. She says I need to be like Stella and get my groove back. My cousin is a nut. But I am considering it. HAHAHAHAHA
So you see, no smack downs are needed. These two trips will be smack down enough.
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Girl...I've heard that about Vegas (lol)....listen any opportunity you get to have some fun and take your mind off things please do so.....you are coming along very nice and I am very happy for you. xoxoxox
[quote="AllieS"]Stella man was gay and is taking her for a ride.Tell us how it goes. [/quote]
WHAT'S THIS????????
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Yall craaaaazy! (please don't take this personal, no sugar added here) I too agree that this should be resolved way before the wedding and unfortunately I think your FH is the problem, not these ladies. These women are going to do what he allows them to do. And NO this isn't a man thing it's a disrespectful thing. Not only does your FH have to put his foot down, but so do you. Let him know that if you are to be his wife (first in his life) then you will not tolerate this. There is a thin line between right and wrong and this is straight up wrong.
I agree with you VirtuousV!!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Ladies you all know I love you guys and I want the best for each of you...but this topic is really becoming a thorn in my side...talking about this dude and his ex's is really getting on my last nerves...I do not want to make MistyJ upset but honey you need to deal with this (bleep) and move on....How many years have this been going on...do you think it will change after the wedding, good father help me...I will not respond to this again...I am really trying to be nice but I have had it....I do not like drama and I've never put myself in a situation to be exposed to drama and I feel this is drama so I am done!!
I pray you have the strength you need to fix this mess.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I'm doin' a tribal yell for the queen!!
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
Hayahaya aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah! (joining in with the tribal yell) lol!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Okay, have we resolved this insanity?
I honestly pray that it has been dealt with.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I hope so too!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="L_EVET"]Okay, have we resolved this insanity?
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Well, the devil tried me last week but I just prayed about it and hopefully the situation won't come back.
Born Blessed!
Remember what season we are in....remember how many times the devil tempted Jesus during this very season...hmmmmm!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Right Charly.And we also must remember who gets to plan the wedding! Clearly,all of this drama is the result of jealousy.
Born Blessed!
[quote="platinumstyle"]Niquey, she pulled a gun on you?Oh No, Sista.My father was in the army and I was taught that you never pull a gun on someone unless you plan to use it.Sista girl would have had it snatched from her and probably been beaten with it.I'm serious.Anyway, MzTajsia, your FH needs to understand that YOU come first.These chicks need to understand that he has a woman and they need to move on!He thinks that he's just being nice.But the women use that as a way of holding on to him.They aren't calling just to be friendly, THEY STILL WANT HIM.
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Bumping this for the newbies
Born Blessed!
i just dont get it... WHY CANT AN EX-GIRLFRIEND REALIZE THAT SHE IS ALREADY AN EX ?!!!! ex-girlfriends.. dont they have their own life? are there no more men in this whole wide universe that they have to keep running after our man? or,.. cant they respect themselves by NOT chasing a man who already HAS a woman????? ex-girlfriends, gee.. i really think that this is a very dangerous and important issue after nuclear bomb!!!
Either I will Find a way, or I will MAKE a way!!!
They dont realize it because the men are still dipping with them. The guys are probably telling the girlfriend how they dont want the exes any more and they dont know why her crazy ass is calling them. And later telling the ex that he is only dealing with the girlfriend because of financial reasons, children, etc.... Trust me most woman dont act crazy just because.
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[quote="housewife147"]They dont realize it because the men are still dipping with them. The guys are probably telling the girlfriend how they dont want the exes any more and they dont know why her crazy ass is calling them. And later telling the ex that he is only dealing with the girlfriend because of financial reasons, children, etc.... Trust me most woman dont act crazy just because.
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Ditto and where we as women go wrong we try to check the ex instead of the MAN!!!!!!!!!
You are so right. The only time I would check the girl is if she knew about me and our relationship and just didnt give a damn.
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so which one sucks the most? ex-girlfriend, or the boyfriend??? but yeah,.. ex-gfs got crazy because crazy boyfriends told them some crazy words, and girlfriends are crazy as well for got carried into the craziness by blowing things only to the crazy ex-gfs instead of checking crazy boyfriend,... crazy in deed..
Either I will Find a way, or I will MAKE a way!!!
[quote="housewife147"]They dont realize it because the men are still dipping with them. The guys are probably telling the girlfriend how they dont want the exes any more and they dont know why her crazy ass is calling them. And later telling the ex that he is only dealing with the girlfriend because of financial reasons, children, etc.... Trust me most woman dont act crazy just because.
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Thats so true... In most instances the girl would not act crazy unless someone is fuelling the fire... On the other hand, some psychos know about you and they make it their mission to break up your relationship just because - those kinds are the ones you should be wary of.
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[quote="housewife147"]You are so right. The only time I would check the girl is if she knew about me and our relationship and just didnt give a damn.
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Girl that is my biggest thing. When a chick knows the deal and then chooses to be disrespectful. I don't handle that well at all.
Real love requires a minimum of emotion and a maximum of the will - Bishop Keith W. Reed, Sr.
Ivy, that's the kind of drama I used to deal with. Exes that KNEW he had someone else. Even some of FH's family would be in on it.
Born Blessed!
[quote="Teresa1167"]HEY LADIES
I WANTED TO SAY I AM GOING THREW THE SAME THING BUT MY FH EXES DOES SOME VERY HURTFUL THINGS.LIKE WHEN SHE SAY OUR ENGAGEMENT ANNOUCEMENT IN THE PAPER SHE MAILED HIM PICTURES OF HIM AND THE BABY THAT THEY LOST THAT SHE DESTROYED [/quote]
ooookkk! now THIS is truly a PSYCHO!! a very mean spirited, spiteful, hateful person that truly needs some prayer (but I vote for major a** whopping!!!)
oh by the way--welcome Teresa1167!!!
I don't think you're being insecure. I don't like the idea that the man stil entertain the woman. She's an ex for a reason!! I guess they just want to be friendly but the ex doesn't see it like that.
Born Blessed!
Teresa1167 expecting your FH to handle his past ex is not being insecure!!! You need to let a brother know how you feel. He should not be entertaining sista fatal attraction!!! She is out of her ever loving mind.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Sista I believe you have a very valid point. I'm sorry they lost the baby, but if that was the only thing they had between them, then he should cut all ties. Ex girlfriend won't be able to get over him or the past if they keep talking. Maybe he feels sorry for her because she hasn't found a great love like he has. Maybe you and FH should have the talk if the situation is making you uncomfortable.
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