For Vibrant Brides of Color

Unity Candle

39 posts / 0 new
Last post
daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Unity Candle

I am undecided if I want to have a solo song or a recorded song played during the unity candle ceremony. What are you ladies doing? What songs have you chosen?

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Unity Candle

I am undecided if I want to have a solo song or a recorded song played during the unity candle ceremony. What are you ladies doing? What songs have you chosen?

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

alvinslove
alvinslove's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 8 months ago
Joined: 02/01/2006 - 02:17
Re: Unity Candle

Since I have so many people that want to sing I think i will be having a solo sung. I heard this song called Parent's Prayer that I think will be really nice.It will go perfect as his mom and my mom are lighting the tapers and handing them to us. Right now I cant think of who sings it but I will get out my book and let you know in a few minutes.

purebliss
purebliss's picture
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 10 months ago
Joined: 01/24/2006 - 18:47
Re: Unity Candle

Rhony, I think either played or song would be fine! I am having a guy sing Finally I by Daryl Coley during the unity candle ceremony. I've heard Flesh of my Flesh sang during this part too and it's always appropriate. Allies, Parents Prayer i think is by Yolanda Adams & Donnie McClurkin.

[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;0;0/st/20061007/e/My+Wedding+Day/k/0104/event.png[/img]
[/url]

alvinslove
alvinslove's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 8 months ago
Joined: 02/01/2006 - 02:17
Re: Unity Candle

My mom sang Flesh of my Flesh at a wedding a few months ago. Had never heard the song until 2 days before the wedding and hit it right on point! That lady can SANG!

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

I gotta look into this Flesh of my Flesh song. My daughter is doing a solo and I haven't found a song for her to sing as yet! Help, I just can't seem to think right now.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

septbride
septbride's picture
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 11 months ago
Joined: 10/17/2005 - 06:30
Re: Unity Candle

I will have my DJ play the instrumental of a song - I don't know what yet or something softly played.

sheawiil
sheawiil's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 3 months ago
Joined: 06/12/2006 - 10:53
Re: Unity Candle

I was thinking about about "Addicted Love " by BeBe and CeCe Winians(spelling). Krk Franklin "Melodies from Heaven"

Southerngirl.....

alvinslove
alvinslove's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 8 months ago
Joined: 02/01/2006 - 02:17
Re: Unity Candle

OK recently FH and I were going over songs we like and love and we both came up with Kci and Jo Jo All my life...I'm thinking of maybe having the instumental played at this time if I dont get anyone to sing...WHAT U LADIES THNK?

cinamin1
cinamin1's picture
Offline
Last seen: 12 years 10 months ago
Joined: 08/02/2005 - 13:14
Re: Unity Candle

Allie, I would have an instrumental played as well. BUT I figure it's only going to take a second to light the thing, so there won't be any music playing.

I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4

nikkig
nikkig's picture
Offline
Last seen: 17 years 5 months ago
Joined: 07/06/2006 - 12:34
Re: Unity Candle

I love that song Alvinslove "All my love" whenever I hear it, it brings back memories.I cry sweet tears of love -it hits the nail on the head and thanks to you I will add it to our list of songs on our CD.What would I do without you ladies.

nlbostic
nlbostic's picture
Offline
Last seen: 16 years 2 months ago
Joined: 07/02/2005 - 11:39
Re: Unity Candle

I used "After the Love has Lost It's Shine" by Regina Belle

threjolyn
threjolyn's picture
Offline
Last seen: 14 years 10 months ago
Joined: 04/29/2006 - 20:25
Re: Unity Candle

DO YOU HAVE TO HAVE A UNITY CANDLE?

God made us Lenders not Borrowers, Get your Inheritance The Blessing of Abraham [url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;10711;114/st/20060826/e/We+will+make+sweet+music/dt/-1/k/6d27/event.png[/img]
[/url]

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

No you don't have to have a unity candle. Some families incorporate the "family ceremony", or "sand ceremony", and jumping the broom. It is completely up to you.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

threjolyn
threjolyn's picture
Offline
Last seen: 14 years 10 months ago
Joined: 04/29/2006 - 20:25
Re: Unity Candle

[quote="DaughterRhonda"]No you don't have to have a unity candle. Some families incorporate the "family ceremony", or "sand ceremony", and jumping the broom. It is completely up to you.
[/quote]

Do you have to have one of those ceremonies? May be we will do candels we have not thought about it

God made us Lenders not Borrowers, Get your Inheritance The Blessing of Abraham [url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;10711;114/st/20060826/e/We+will+make+sweet+music/dt/-1/k/6d27/event.png[/img]
[/url]

futuremslee
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 12 months ago
Joined: 06/26/2006 - 18:16
Re: Unity Candle

i really like the sand ceremony idea. especially since i feel such a deep, profound connection to the ocean and I practically live at the beach it also fits right in with my theme. Maybe I'll do both. I like the unity candles because each of our mothers will light the candles on the side of the unity candles. It symbolizes both of our cultures and families blending to me one.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda

purebliss
purebliss's picture
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 10 months ago
Joined: 01/24/2006 - 18:47
Re: Unity Candle

It's up to you! I know that I wouldn't feel right not doing the unity candle because it's so meaningful and such a tradition. However, who says that you have to be traditional.

[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;0;0/st/20061007/e/My+Wedding+Day/k/0104/event.png[/img]
[/url]

futuremslee
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 12 months ago
Joined: 06/26/2006 - 18:16
Re: Unity Candle

[quote="threjolyn"]
Do you have to have one of those ceremonies? May be we will do candels we have not thought about it
[/quote]

dearest you don't HAVE to do ANYTHING and you CAN do EVERYTHING. It is YOUR wedding. Any elements you like that you want to incorporate, do it. Anything you don't, don't. The only thing you HAVE to do is show up, say I do or I will or Amen or Sho'Nuff or Sho'U'Right. Your wedding can be as simple or elaborate as you wish for it to be. Anything you wanna do is up to you, the sky is the limit my dear. Yo

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

I agree with PB&J and Future, no you don't have to do anyone of those ceremonies. I merely offered them as a suggestion. You don't have to incorporate anything that you don't want into your ceremony. I have a motto which I use often here on this site. It's your day, do it your way! :-)

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

futuremslee
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 12 months ago
Joined: 06/26/2006 - 18:16
Re: Unity Candle

you know rhony, i wasn't even considering the sand ceremony until you mentioned it. and now you have created a monster in me! I am over here looking up heart shaped glass bottles for the sand ceremony w/ pink & purple sand. Now I'm considering using replicas of the bottles we use as favors. bless you for getting me started down this path! btw, now I have 3 more years! YAY!

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

Good Future, I'm glad I helped. I know those heart shaped bottles will be pretty with that pink and purple sand! Girl time flies, your wedding day will be here before you know it.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

tajmom
tajmom's picture
Offline
Last seen: 17 years 7 months ago
Joined: 07/13/2006 - 07:53
Re: Unity Candle

LADIES I WLD LIKE OPINIONS. WE ARE DEFINITLY DOING THE UNITY CANDLE, I ALREADY HAVE IT. AND SINCE WE HAVE 7 KIDS I FOUND 1 THAT PRINTED ALL OF THEIR NAMES. IT HAS MY DOUBLE HEARTS AND THEN OUR NAMES, I'M SURE YOU GUYS HAVE SEEN THE FAMILY UNITY CANDLES. HERE IS MY PROBLEM, HOW DO I DO SO MUCH W/OUT PEOPLE FEELING LIKE THAT WAS THE LONGEST CEREMONY EVER???. EX: I WLD LIKE FOR HIS 3 BIOLOGICAL ONES TO LIGHT HIS, AND MY 3 TO LIGHT MINE. AND FOR HIM, I AND OUR 1 TOGTHER TO LIGHT THE UNITY. I SAY BIOLOGICAL CAUSE THEY ARE ALL OURS, BUT YOU GET THE IDEA. I WLD ALSO LIKE TO JUMP THE BROOM WITH THE PASTOR READING A SHORT BIT ABOUT WHAT THE JUMPING OF THE BROOM REPRESENTS. IS THIS LIKE, A LOT OR WHAT

[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;10716;6/st/20070707/e/WEDDING+DAY/k/5779/event.png[/img]
[/url]
GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME; ALL THE TIME GOD IS GOOD. WHEN IN DOUBT, PRAY

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

TajMom I don't think people will fell like that is a long ceremony. I think they will feel that you guys are really a special family to include all of your children and there won't be a dry eye in there. Go on have your ceremony and don't worry about how you think people will feel.

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

rosetta
rosetta's picture
Offline
Last seen: 10 years 3 weeks ago
Joined: 08/23/2002 - 12:00
Re: Unity Candle

So true Rhony!

Get social and fan us on http://www.facebook.com/Vibrantbride] Facebook.

septbride
septbride's picture
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 11 months ago
Joined: 10/17/2005 - 06:30
Re: Unity Candle

[quote="TAJMOM"]LADIES I WLD LIKE OPINIONS. WE ARE DEFINITLY DOING THE UNITY CANDLE, I ALREADY HAVE IT. AND SINCE WE HAVE 7 KIDS I FOUND 1 THAT PRINTED ALL OF THEIR NAMES. IT HAS MY DOUBLE HEARTS AND THEN OUR NAMES, I'M SURE YOU GUYS HAVE SEEN THE FAMILY UNITY CANDLES. HERE IS MY PROBLEM, HOW DO I DO SO MUCH W/OUT PEOPLE FEELING LIKE THAT WAS THE LONGEST CEREMONY EVER???. EX: I WLD LIKE FOR HIS 3 BIOLOGICAL ONES TO LIGHT HIS, AND MY 3 TO LIGHT MINE. AND FOR HIM, I AND OUR 1 TOGTHER TO LIGHT THE UNITY. I SAY BIOLOGICAL CAUSE THEY ARE ALL OURS, BUT YOU GET THE IDEA. I WLD ALSO LIKE TO JUMP THE BROOM WITH THE PASTOR READING A SHORT BIT ABOUT WHAT THE JUMPING OF THE BROOM REPRESENTS. IS THIS LIKE, A LOT OR WHAT
[/quote]

TAJ, what you are saying with the unity candle, will not take long at all. 5 - 10 minutes MAX! And I don't think it would take that long. I've never been to a wedding and it took a long time to do the Unity Candle part. The only part that made me suck my teeth was the fact that I couldn't see it being done.

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

Bump!

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

tajmom
tajmom's picture
Offline
Last seen: 17 years 7 months ago
Joined: 07/13/2006 - 07:53
Re: Unity Candle

THANKS LADIES. YOU ARE ALL SO SUPPORTIVE. MY OLDEST DAUGHTER IS HOME 4 BREAK. SHE IS A FRESHMAN AT FLORIDA STATE. HOW ABOUT SHE TEASES ME BCUZ AS SOON AS I COME HOME,AFTER I GIVE QUALITY TIME TO THE 2 YEAR OLD, I AM ON THIS SITE. SHE LAUGHS AND SAYS SHE IS GOING TO GIVE US A GROUP RATE FOR THERAPY:) LOL. SHE DOES NT UNDERSTAND THE POWER, COMMITTMENT, AND SUPPORT OF MY VIBRIDE CREW!!!

[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;10716;6/st/20070707/e/WEDDING+DAY/k/5779/event.png[/img]
[/url]
GOD IS GOOD ALL THE TIME; ALL THE TIME GOD IS GOOD. WHEN IN DOUBT, PRAY

nikkig
nikkig's picture
Offline
Last seen: 17 years 5 months ago
Joined: 07/06/2006 - 12:34
Re: Unity Candle

That's a good idea to use your children and I hardly think it would take very long.Even if it does ,(permission to use a VI bride famous quote- "your day, your way".

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

Well spoken NikkiG!

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

purebliss
purebliss's picture
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 10 months ago
Joined: 01/24/2006 - 18:47
Re: Unity Candle

yeah, do what you please! It's your day!

[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;0;0/st/20061007/e/My+Wedding+Day/k/0104/event.png[/img]
[/url]

futuremslee
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 12 months ago
Joined: 06/26/2006 - 18:16
Re: Unity Candle

lol... tell her I will take her up on that therapy rate! Can never get enough therapy y'all. lol.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

LOL!!!!

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

tonyalanette
Offline
Last seen: 17 years 1 month ago
Joined: 01/29/2006 - 20:52
Re: Unity Candle

My song didn't even get played!!!!!! It was supposed to be "Just for me" by Donnie Mcclurkin

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

Love that song TonyaLanette! How are you darling?

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

leanne
leanne's picture
Offline
Last seen: 17 years 5 months ago
Joined: 05/25/2006 - 12:01
Re: Unity Candle

I am thinking of using, "Flesh of My Flesh."

purebliss
purebliss's picture
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 10 months ago
Joined: 01/24/2006 - 18:47
Re: Unity Candle

What happened Tonyalanete?

[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;0;0/st/20061007/e/My+Wedding+Day/k/0104/event.png[/img]
[/url]

futuremslee
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 12 months ago
Joined: 06/26/2006 - 18:16
Re: Unity Candle

yeah why wasn't it played?

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride; so I love you because I know no other way. ~ Pablo Neruda

daughterrhonda
daughterrhonda's picture
Offline
Last seen: 13 years 2 weeks ago
Joined: 05/26/2005 - 17:30
Re: Unity Candle

Tonya, girl we need some answers -- LOL!!!

Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37

purebliss
purebliss's picture
Offline
Last seen: 15 years 10 months ago
Joined: 01/24/2006 - 18:47
Re: Unity Candle

We're waiting! lol

[url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
[img]http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt/d/4;0;0/st/20061007/e/My+Wedding+Day/k/0104/event.png[/img]
[/url]